plus we have 3 children is it good for them
2006-12-07 03:08:01 · 32 answers · asked by Ryan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can try but I don't think it will work.
2006-12-07 03:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That depends... Is this a seperation to think, or a seperation to lead to divorce? If she just needed some space, it might be better to stay near. Let her see that you are an active part of her life and she may decide she can't live without you. If you have your own place, she'll get closer to friends and may enjoy being single again. If you are leading to divorce, get out of there. You sure don't wanna be paying her bills while she saves up for a lawyer to take you for everything you are worth... But, I agree with a previous post, if you canhandle being together still, go to a counselor. You may be able to salvage what's there... Good luck!! ♥
2006-12-07 03:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Butterfly ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are separating then there are obviously issues with your marriage. Living together will only complicate things further and confuse the kids. You need to actually separate (that means physically live apart). The reason this is a legal requirement is that it is the best way for a couple to determine if they really want to go through with the divorce. Time and space are amazing at letting you sub-conscience mind sift through all of the emotional happenings that are going on right now. The best answer for you and your family is to determine what will make you and your wife happy--if you guys aren't happy then the kids will know. Happy divorced parents make better parents than unhappy married parents. Kids aren't stupid--they'll appreciate the honesty and trust later in life. You just have to ensure them that they are still loved just as much and make sure you still see them--just not with you wife. Depending on their age...you can explain a lot to a kid if you just sit with them and answer their questions.
2006-12-07 03:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just move on with your life, after all it's a separation. The point is to experience life without each other and then ascertain whether it's worth getting back together or not. There is no way to play two sides of that fence - she's probably just using you for money and childcare anyway. Take your freedom and enjoy it and don't feel guilty. Just remember the kids come first though. Good luck.
2006-12-07 03:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to have more information, but initially I would say no. You obviously have some issues that need worked out between the two of you and if you both agreed to a separation, then living together wasn't resolving the issues. There is a whole lot more to this that should be addressed.
2006-12-07 03:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally, you aren't separated if you live at the address. So until one of you moves out, you are not separated. It's probably not good for the kids either especially if they are young. It will confuse them leading to many relationship problems of their own later in life. I thank my angry divorced parents for mine!! It was so much fun to sit upstairs when I was 6 years old and listen to them argue! Don't do that to your kids. If there is a reason to separate, you are kidding yourself to think you can live together in peace.
Kick her to the curb and give it some time.
2006-12-07 03:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation implies (physical) space between you two. How can you be separated in the same house? Being "friends" can be done from ifferent homes. Sounds like she wants the security of living in the house, while not having to do the wifely stuff with you (just using you for a place to stay).
2006-12-07 04:45:35 · answer #7 · answered by mezhenari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not live with her after a separation. Then you can't really move on. She will be in your business when you start dating again and you will feel the need to do the same when she starts dating.
Just move out and move on. It will be easier on the kids this way. They won't be confused about anything.
2006-12-07 03:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youmight be able to make it work but if it was me I'd stay away from it. I think it'll confuse the children like crazy. It's going to be wierd for you both if either of you start dating again. It could be a real mess.
2006-12-07 03:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very difficult but is quite doable. When you begin dating others it will be difficult but as long as you are over each other and continue to be friends then this can be done in a mature manner also. As for the kids it is probably very healthy thing for them to witness their parents continuing to be both involved in their lives and acting as adults. Good luck and fortune to you and yours.
2006-12-07 03:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no......jealousy and fighting will be going on for years and that is not good for your kids......yall r probably both going to be talking to other people and will probably want to get remarried....as sson as u find tht person and all of a sudden you move out it was kill ur kids emotionally....imagine if ur parents live together ever since you could remmeber and one of yall leaves and starts living with som1 else....and separating now will make it easierin the long run.
2006-12-07 03:11:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋