We were married for 5 years she had 3 children from previous marriage I loved her children and her more than anything else my life became hers. I never cheated or wanted too I thought we were very happy. Anyway she had an affair for six months then left me on new years day after making love to me all night. Since then (been two years now) I found out alot of stuff about things she did while we were married. My question is this if you had a chance to get some payback, do something for revenge. I have a very explicit home movie of us (sex) would you post it on enternet give it to buddies to watch send it to her cheating *** boyfreind send her a copy and tell her everone is watching it? I still love her very much but I also hate her sometimes. I want her to feel hurt like she has hurt me she destroyed my beleif in true love
2006-12-07 03:06:32 · 20 answers · asked by cowboy2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
look i know it hurt really bad been there done that ......but coming from experience revenge is not going to take that hurt away ......no matter how sweet it seems to be at the time it will just keep on hurting ...what she did was bad i know but the best way of getting even is to move on she lost something good ...that she will learn to late ........i don't know if you believe in god but even if you don't he takes care of these matters in his own way and trust me payback coming from him is a big pay back so chill find yourself a really good woman and let life and god take care of her don't waste anymore of your time thinking about it ..... if you put that video on the net she can take you to court for it and that puts you right back on the hurt seat so think and do whats better for you not what seems to be better .............good luck take care
2006-12-07 03:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just curious.... would doing this, really make you feel better as a person?
To me, "getting back at her" in this way is pointless. Sure, it could be amusing... sure it might be fun to see her squirm a bit... but really, is "getting back at her" going to make you feel more like a man?
Try also to think of the legal ramifications of this. She could try suing you. I'm not saying it would work... but technically, you don't have her permission to post this on the internet. Sure, Paris Hilton's ex got away with it... that doesn't mean you will.
Lastly, it's been two years. Move on with your life. Why are you worried about hurting her... when you should be worried about making your life better?? If you have to step down to a lower level in life, to make a point that she's a "wh*re".. how is that really helping you?
Just so you know, if you do this... it will also tell her that she made the correct decision in leaving you. Being an adult, and trying to "get back at her" will just confirm her reasoning for finding someone else.
If you want good revenge... make yourself happy without her.. find a new person to be with, and love... show her... that she's the furthest thing from your mind. Obsessing about your ex.. just means that she "wins"...
2006-12-07 11:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
to get revenge will hurt u more than it does her. she can't destroy your belief system, only you can. that's why we need to be careful what we tell ourselves, and what we are believing. sure she did you an injustice, and it wasn't fair, but it is over now, and why would u let her destroy your future if u should meet someone else. true love may come your way but u won't even be able to see it or experience it, cause your too focused on your past. she wasn't worthy of a man like you, she deceived u, but the way she treated u, is not who u are. what she did to u, was her choice, and had very little to do with you. we have to forgive, forgiveness does not let them off the hook for what they did, it just frees us from a lifetime of bitterness. by freeing them, we expect no more from them, not remorse, not seeing them again, just plain we expect nothing. she has no control to destroy you, it is what u are telling yourself that is doing it.
2006-12-07 11:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to hurt someone is to have a great life. To not show regret or revenge. When my husbands ex wife found that he found me and we were perfect for each other she grew very jealous and she also got very hurt. And she was the one cheating on him. Sometimes just being happy and nonchalantly flauting it is the best revenge.
2006-12-07 11:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by flredneckgal_21 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Alright I can understand where you're coming from. The best thing to do is to just let it go. Don't get revenge because you don't need to sink down onto that level that she's apparently on. Don't let her do that to you. If that's they way she wants to be, then let her go. It's a jerky move to post a sex tape online, because that's just plain outright embarrassing and just not a good thing to do. Be more mature than that. Just let the relationship go.
2006-12-07 11:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anger only broods more anger.
Remove everything that reminds you of her from your life and move on. The painful memories will always be there, but time with dull the pain itself until you feel nothing.
Try to forget and move towards the future. That is the only way you'll find happiness again.
2006-12-07 11:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, and revenge is sweet, but it can give you cavities. (ooh that is a nice analogy:) ) what i mean is, you get obsessed with getting even, and then you want to make her pay over and over and over until the things you are doing are way out of line. and it may backfire on you. it eats your soul. it's easier to watch her life fall apart. it will, what goes around comes around. and it will take longer, but when it happens, it will be well worth the wait.
2006-12-07 11:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no don't stoop to her level. Just move on and enjoy the video yourself every once in a while. I think you can get in trouble if you did that it's called slander. I know it's easier said then done but just get over it and move on. Good luck to you!!
2006-12-07 11:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Before you put it on the Internet think of her children and how they would feel, please understand that your relationship with her has ended, but she is still raising her children and they deserve to go through life without being affected by what she has done to you. Don't make it worse for them. Think about it!
2006-12-07 11:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go man. Don't dwell on the past. it's been two years now afterall. You must have some serious hate inside of you. JUST LET IT GO! I don't want to say get over it, but you need to move and forget about that tramp
2006-12-07 11:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋