Married women and sex?

Question

I've heard that usually good sex is the last thing to go in a marriage. Can someone have a bad marriage and still have good sex in it? Is "sex quality" an indicator of how the marriage is going? If the sex is good, but other parts of the marriage are bad, should one continue with the sex or not? Should one stay in the marriage if the only good thing seems to be the sex?

Answer 1

You know if the sex is good in a marriage things would be a little better. Cause then it would be worth it to fight because there would be make up sex to look forward to. When the sex is not too good you have nothing to look forward to after a big fight, so you just drop whatever it is that the fight was about. Which really doesn't fix anything and the making up is not really happening and so there is no forgiving and then in the next fight the old **** gets brought back up.

Answer 2

Wow - have *you* heard wrong.

Sex is usually the *first* thing to suffer or vanish in a marriage.

Most (not all, but most) women, for many complex reasons, tie sex to how the rest of how the household is running as a small corporation. If there is a problem with the gardener, the pool service, the power bill, the dentist, the kitchen makeover, the outside porch light, the shade of paint on the walls being too ecru and not enough bone, when your MIL is visiting, why you want to watch the game Sunday, what if there is mold in the attic, and so on ad infinitum, then sex is out of the question.

And if these or a host of other things is slightly out of whack in their minds, and you want sex (which is pretty much ALWAYS if I am not mistaken) then they are "not in the mood" or say, "Gawd how can you think of sex at a time like this? There could be mold in the attic!"

Only when the list in their heads is pretty well caught up, then and only then, perhaps if they are not on their period, or just coming off their period, or approaching their period, and that b*tch at work isn't laying heavy on their mind, and your whiskers don't for some unexplained reason bother them and the mood is just right and the planets are aligned and there's not a funny smell in the kitchen and the phone doesn't ring and you don't as a horndog husband appear to clingy or demanding or bothersome then MAYBE -- JUST MAYBE you'll enjoy a whole 20 minutes of good uninterrupted sex that doesn't end in one of the two of you faking an orgasm to get it over with already.

This happens, for most of the married guys I have known and spoken to over the past 25 years, about once every month or 2.

Most men would pray that frequent terrific sex would continue in a marriage even if the rest has gone straight to hell. As selfish and evil as that seems.

Answer 3

Why would you stay in a marriage just for good sex???

If you are in a great marriage but the sex is bad, work it out with your partner. Try new things, find out what is wrong..talk!

Answer 4

A sexual relationship is like a dance. You can either step on each other's toes or you can glide gracefully as if your were being guided by some force greater than both of you. It takes practice and experience to dance as if you were one body; it takes understanding, dialogue and time to create sexual unity.
ou want good sex? Be prepared to take the time to make it happen. There are no quick fixes to sexual fulfillment. It takes patience and practice. Commit yourself to do it and I’m certain that you’ll rekindle the embers and bring passion back into your lives. I don’t know about you, but I love to see an old married couple that still has the hots for each other.
Strategies for Keeping the Spark Alive:
Treat your partner as if you're dating
Romance your spouse outside the bedroom
Plan a date night
Talk with your partner. Listen to your partner
Understand your partner's sexual needs and desires
Keep physically fit and attractive for your partner
Maintain perspective on sex as life ebbs and flows
Resolve any underlying conflicts as they will spillover to the bedroom
Have fun and engage in foreplay, whether that's kissing, sexual banter or anything else
Be adventurous and creative in and outside the bedroom
Exercise, preferably together. Stop smoking and get your partner to quit. Watch your weight and cholesterol
Consider seeking specialized treatment from a specialist if behavioral changes don't work.
Usually good sex spills over to entire relation.

Answer 5

Go to marriage counseling. Save the marriage. That would be what I would do. And yes sex can be good if relationship is not healthy. Sex is not something to base a relationship on though. Since your married I would go to counseling and talk to your spouse. Work on making your all areas of your marriage as good as the rest of it. Hope this helps. God restore your marriage.

Answer 6

I think a good marriage, (like mine) contains everything. Of course you will have some bad times, but you'll get through them. I don't think that the quality of sex will determine the quality of the marriage.

Answer 7

They should talk with their partner and ask how things could improve in other areas of the life they share together also. We all enjoy good sex in our relationships with our significant others but marriages are a lot more then just that.

Answer 8

IF YOU ARE HAVING PROBLEMS IN THE MARRIAGE OTHER THAN THE SEX, YOU NEED TO SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON WITH BOTH OF YOU. FIND OUT WHAT IS BOTHERING HER, OR YOU, GET IT RESOLVED OR YOU WILL HAVE PROBLEMS DOWN THE ROAD IN YOUR MARRIAGE. THE SEX QUALITY IS A GOOD PART BUT YOU ALSO NEED A RELATIONSHIP AND BEING ABLE TO TALK TO ONE ANOTHER. WORK ON THAT!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 9

I think that if the marriage is going wrong you should try to get the marriage back on track.

Answer 10

That's a silly question. Would you give up the best sex ever just because you can't get along with your wife. Think about it, if you let her go, will you ever find another woman that will turn your crank like her, maybe but then again maybe not.