I am 19, my father is 37....we have been close the last 3 to 4 years with sports, working out, etc...I have only had a sexual realtionship with a couple girls....yestrday at the gym after wokring out we hit the showers and while in there, my dad made a weird pass at me...i was FREAKING out in my head...anyway....i just played it off like a joke, but i think he was serious.....I couldnt sleep all night....thinking about things ...and still have no idea what to think or say....any advice ? This is for real...not a joke...
2006-12-07 02:59:41 · 11 answers · asked by grant w 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I am sure he was joking with you, are you feeling confused about your sexuality? it's the only reason you would let something like that bother you so much. He is your dad for god sake
2006-12-07 03:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to immediately...immediately...find a new workout buddy. Your father has a problem, not you. However, he is making his problem your problem. Your father is gay.
If you "felt weird", then it "was weird". Just find a new workout buddy or don't shower with him after working out.
Tough to say if you should or shouldn't confront him about the incident. Seems awfully awkward to me. If all of a sudden you don't go to the gym with him anymore, he will get the message.
I think your father needs professional help, but how to tell him and get him there seems almost impossible. Good luck.
2006-12-07 03:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if only I had a solid answer for you. I feel for you and I can only imagine the thoughts that are going through your head. If it was an unmistakable pass at you then I think your father has a serious problem. I can only tell you to not be alone with this man and if it happens again, cut all ties with him. He is a sick man and needs help. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself, every child should be able to trust their own father and apparently you can't. God bless you and stay strong.
2006-12-07 03:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone here says "tell someone that can help you" like you are a child. As an adult you are not protected under child abuse laws. Best approach is to confront him about it, and don't allow it to happen. You can always file a sexual harrasement charge or something likewise, but telling social services won't do you any good.
2006-12-07 03:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wanderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever weird thing he said, I think there is no need to pubblicize it or to call the posse! He is your dad and since you're not a child we both could open a free chat about that matter.
Nobody knows he as you can, helping him if necessary.
Useless talking about that on these pages where you only can find wrong and ill-considered advices!
2006-12-07 03:50:04 · answer #5 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats crazy!
2006-12-07 04:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sort of hard to say with out knowing what was said or done you can email me.
2006-12-07 03:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. Your a man now. time to act like one. tell him how you feel
2006-12-07 03:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by Drew9595 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him know it bothered you..... and if it was a joke he would know not to do it anymore....... and you needed to say what kind of pass.... thats a big deal as to what kind..if he keeps on i would tell someone...
2006-12-07 03:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Earls Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Comfront him about it
2006-12-07 03:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by unan1m0us 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋