I am a father of two boys. I have been unhappy in my relationship for a long time and finally expressed that to my wife last year. We have gone to couples therapy and have really tried to make things work but I am no happier now then I was before. I care about my wife and want her to be happy as well as myself and I feel like I am being selfish in staying and not letting her move on and find someone that feels the same way about her as she does about them. I just cant bear the thought of not being there for my boys on a daily basis.
2006-12-07 02:55:48 · 6 answers · asked by scout1567 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well what is more important to you? Her happiness by meeting someone new or your boy's happiness of having you there everyday? Kinda answers itself, doesn't it.
2006-12-07 03:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan to stay, you and your wife need to try what you already haven't tried. Dating again, something different. Children do sense things, and they will eventually figure it all out and they will be angry that they were living a lie of a happy family, think about that! My neighbors did this and their boys are now dealing with the fact that they lived a lie and are having a very hard time. Best wishes.
2006-12-07 11:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should move on and let your wife move on also. You can still be a father to your children and not be with your wife. If your children see that your unhappy being with their mother they're going to be unhappy also and they'll probably be upset if you get a divorce so it either way you will just have to choose what's best for you and your wife.
2006-12-07 11:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by candy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Split amicably and live close. You and your wife deserve to be happy even if that means splitting up. Your children will mimic their relationships after yours. Better to be separate and friendly than together and miserable. You can be as involved with you children as you want to be.
2006-12-07 11:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same reason alot of people stay I would take beating after beating just to not allow him to take the kids everyother weekend. I understand i love him out of obligation not fair to him. life isnt fair and when i found out he got me preganant to keep me i still stay because who i love is not available so why bother. dont know if that helps but your not alone
2006-12-07 11:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wendellp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, dont stay for the kids...u can be in your childrens lives daily with out the both of u being sad..it affects the kids too
2006-12-07 11:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋