It's been a year and i'm still very depressed with life after my ex. I still miss her, still think of her everyday and still love her. Even though she cheated on me, lied to me, sent me to jail for little to next of nothing and she even moved the guy in with her the day after i left. Long story i know. Hard facts of life and even harder lessons learned i just wish i was happy. I know she's happy with her new man but my god does he have to have the same first name that i have.
2006-12-07 02:52:14 · 10 answers · asked by Sam E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pray and ask GOD to help u!!!!
2006-12-07 02:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by kellydarcey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your pain and loss. It's not unusual to continue to feel a great sense of grief and loss after a year. You do have to go easy on yourself and be patient, because climbing back after something like this takes time. I wish there were a quick and easy solution to getting on with life but unfortunately, there isn't. Sometimes a helpful antidote to intense personal pain is to do something for others. You might want to think about volunteering with kids or seniors or somewhere in your community where people need a hand. It keeps your mind off of your own sorrow, and makes you feel valued and needed. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-07 03:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop pondering on her short comings. If you were good to her and she decided to move one just because there is no figuring her out. She is messed up and that's all there is to it.
I am sure that is probably just a coincident that he has the same name. You have to move on, she obviously has nothing left to give you but misery.
Go out and have fun with the new freedom that you have. Don't go out looking for another woman, just go out and have fun love will eventually fall right into your lap as long as that is not what you are looking for.
No one can really explain why some people are cheaters they just are. It is not something you pushed her into doing and none of it was your fault she just did it because she has no emotional regret when it comes to hurting other people. She will soon do the same to the new Sam as well. Who needs to sit around and watch that again.
Get out have some fun and get laid.
2006-12-07 03:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to be happy with life, is to live for yourself, and be content and happy with who you are and what you are doing. I was really depressed for a while after a divorce, then I decided to do the things I always wanted to do and couldn't or wouldn't because there was somebody else to think about. Discover who you are, and what you want. There is something to say for being able to be "selfish" and doing whatever will make you happy without worrying about anyone else. It is liberating.
2006-12-07 03:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because there is no apparent reason for what is happening to you, it means you are depressed and the only antidote I know is for you to become totally selfless. Think about others, help others in any way possible, do good deeds however little and you will be lifted from your state of depression. Because the empathy you feel when you are selfless and assist others will give you a positive feeling and it will lift you above the people in your immediate surroundings. Be selfless and do good deeds!
2016-03-28 21:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well find someone new...
thats what i am trying to do...though my situation is totally different from yours, im going through a nasty divorce, but i left him, he got to keep everything.. i fled from a abusive man...
my only advice is to find someone new...she did and shes living with him...
as u said its a hard lesson learned but eventually u will find someone good that will treat u right...
but u really have to get over her because if not u cant get on with your life
2006-12-07 03:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by luvutaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Names don't matter here. You are the only one who can change the way you are feeling and make your life better. To sit and roll in what has happened to you doesn't make it any better--be strong and you will find your way.
2006-12-07 02:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. You need a rebound. Call me. 773-704-8928 It's not some phone sex line, its really my number.
2006-12-07 02:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ is all you need.
Acts 9:34 (King James Version)
34And Peter said unto him, Aeneas, Jesus Christ maketh thee whole: arise, and make thy bed. And he arose immediately.
2006-12-07 02:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by tribes777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please forget about her, for the sake of all the wonderful females that u'll meet, try to become the best man u can and u'll feel a lot better
2006-12-07 03:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋