My roommate came back this morning totally TRASHED! She was stumbling everywhere and bumping into things. This was about 3 in the morning and I had just fallen asleep maybe an hour before. She ended up puking in the bathroom for like 3 hours. She came back with her guy friend, who was nice enough to hold her hair back (though he ended up puking later as well)...I wanted to feel bad for her but I kind of don't. I know that sounds mean but she totally brought it on herself! I only got like 4 hours of sleep last night because of her and I had an 8:00am this morning (and I'm mad about that!!)! She ended up missing her class...and I don't really feel bad about it!
would you have felt bad? I only feel bad a little bit...is that wrong?...she totally brought it on herself (and who the heck gets drunk on a Wednesday night anyways!?)....
2006-12-07 02:43:46 · 17 answers · asked by Yanks4Life23519 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
she's gotten drunk before...but never like this!
...and I don't drink! (this is why...)
2006-12-07 02:55:54 · update #1
No I wouldn't have felt bad. Like you said she made the decision to go get wasted last night. She is old enough to know what she was doing and the consequences.
2006-12-07 02:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have felt bad even though she did it to herself. Sometimes the people that hurt themselves and get themselves in trouble are the ones that need you most. As gross as it would have been sitting there while she puked I would have sat there with her and talk to her, telling her things wouldnt be like this if she wouldnt do this to herself. You dont have to cater to her and be her mama, but you can be a friend/roomate and look out for them alittle and make sure she doesnt hurt her present that will probably ruin her future.
2006-12-07 02:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, as long as you live never lose sight of ‘compassion’.
Now you are entitled to feel upset about you losing sleep and her come in without considering your early class. However, her acting this way last night may be an indication that something is going on within her. Maybe it’s the upcoming holiday or something else that she’s not sharing with you?
As her roommate, it is important for you to sit her down and express your concern for her, as well as to share with her how you felt about her coming in at 3 a.m., but make sure that you address her calmly and with respect, not confrontational.
Be blessed and wise in your study.
2006-12-07 03:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Decent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was really plastered, and that you might have some empathy for her plight. But, you do have the right to feel angry for the disruption she caused you and it was disrespectful on her part. She was extremely drunk and her thought of anyone outside herself at that point and time was out the window. Go to your school clinic and get some pamphlets on alcohol abuse and give them to her -- then ask her to please consider you when she is coming in late hours of the night. If she continues being disruptive, then I suggest finding another roommate. Your education comes first.
2006-12-07 02:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel bad that her body couldn't deal with the alcohol but not bad about her keeping you up all night. I mean if this is her routine I would tell her to find a new place to live because she is messing with your life as well as her. If your going to college and failing your class because of not enough sleep that isn't right.
2006-12-07 02:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in her reply, if not let it go and move on. Little "ignore you" games are childish and accomplish nothing but waste time. If she really was interested in you, she wouldn't have let 2 months go by w/o contact, but perhaps she was checking out someone else during that time and things didnt' workout. Either way, if you decide not to reply to her now, then don't bother ever doing it...and no, I doubt it'll trouble her over much if you don't reply. She may figure you've hooked up with someone else and moved on...
2016-05-23 03:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She brought it on herself. Why would you feel bad for something she did. She is an adult.
Lots of people get drunk on Wednesdays. I have. I have been drunk on every day of the week.
That is how college is. Get used to it.
2006-12-07 02:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. She was irresponsible enough to drink knowing she had classes the next day. So she has to suffer all the consequences due to her behaviour. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to be holier than thou. I did the same mistake when I went to college, and I flunked out. That is why I am saying what I am saying, because I learned the hard way. I would have a talk with her and tell her not only how it affected you, but also her. Good luck!
2006-12-07 02:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt feel bad. You are right she brought it upon herself and she kept you up as well. Thats pretty rude and discurdious. Its not wrong at all to feel only a little bit mad if my room mate ever did that I would have told them to leave and go to his place.
2006-12-07 02:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy Blonde 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be mad. im sure she didn't end up that way intentionally sometimes after 2 or 3 drinks you feel different and your judgement is poor. ever happen to you? well atleast you slept 4 hrs instead of puking for 4 hours.
2006-12-07 02:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, i dont think that you have a reason to feel bad. Like you said she brought it on herself and i am sure its not the first time. If any one should feel bad it should be her, she showed you no respect whatsoever.
2006-12-07 02:47:07 · answer #11 · answered by Thumper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋