I met a girl when I was 16 and since then I have been crazy in love with her should I tell her?
I met a girl when I was 16 and since then I have been crazy in love with her should I tell her?
We lost contact after high school and now 10 years later we are talking again. She however is in a relationship and I just got out of a 2 year relationship. Its great talking to her again I just don't know if I should share with her how I feel in fear it may ruin a great friendship.
2006-12-07 02:36:31 · 11 answers · asked by Phoenix77 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's a sticky one, whether she's hetero or not (which you didn't specify). I can understand hating to lose a friendship over the truth. But for your sake, you may have to tell the truth, cuz it may eat at you forever. Perhaps you're going to have to weigh "Which consequences can I live with? Never telling her and waiting.....or telling her and losing the friendship (but also perhaps gaining something else?")
I'm hetero, and once had a lesbian make it quite clear to me that she was attracted to me. And it quite frankly turned me off royally.
But understand that she did it very wrong. She was like gum trying to stick to me, even following me home once. It would have been better for ME if she had been much more casual, held some mature distance, and made it clear that nothing was going to occur on her part if I didn't want that kind of relationship.
On the other side of the coin, if you're both lesbian, dang--I lean taking a risk towards telling her!! So what if she's in a relationship! If she's committed to the other, she'll tell you. If she's not, perhaps you two will develop.
And perhaps you can maintain the friendship, if she's not interested, as long as you don't do like the gal did above--sticky and needy.
And as far as you....I hope you are secure enough to know that rejection does not define who you are. You simply move on until the right person comes alone, remembering the love you felt with tender memories, and knowing that it's meant to be with someone else.
My two cents--hope they help. :)
2006-12-07 03:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by followingmybliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she also a lesbian? If she's in a relationship with a man, it may be an issue, and you will probably lose your friendship. If she's in a relationship with some other woman, then you should see if it is possible.
2006-12-07 02:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by StereoZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should slowly work your way back into her life, eventually getting closer to her than her boyfriend until you are able to sabatoge their relationship... then all you have to do is step in and pick up the pieces.
2006-12-07 02:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by bhl1336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you talk to her about that. If she feels scared, you just tell her that "lets just become best friends".
2006-12-07 02:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sky Hing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you like her she may like you the same way.
2006-12-07 02:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Melody M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just to let you know i don't go along with gays and i will never but that doesn't mean i don't like them...... but if you want just talk to her slowly get to subject and give her hints and soon she will get it and will give you her answer
2006-12-07 06:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by old time rock lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell her she might have the same feelings towards you.
2006-12-07 02:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by SKITTLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, let her know how you feel it cant hurt.
2006-12-07 02:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell her but make sure you leave it up to her what to do about it.
2006-12-07 02:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Maka 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, what u got to lose??? :)
good luck!
2006-12-07 14:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by ceecee800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋