While in labor or even afterward dont you say Nomore babies because the pain is terrible??

Question

or do you forget?? i am preg with first and nervous...my friend just gave birth and she said NO MORE!! the pain was terrible...how about you?

Answer 1

I dont know how much I stress this but get an EPIDURAL. Dont try to be wonder woman. The first time I could not have one and God is the pain horrible, I did say no more and meant it. I did get pregnant again and no kidding thats the first thing I thought about is the pain of labor. Well the second time around I did get an epidural and I told my boyfriend he is lucky I didnt get one the first time around cause I wouldve had 4 more kids by now.

Answer 2

Well I had 2 and would happily have had a 3rd. My sister had 2 and desperately want another. My mum had 4! It's not so bad, really. Firstly different people have different experiences so just because your friend had a difficult time and found it hard to cope doesn't mean you will. I won't lie, it's painful, but not as bad as breaking a bone, and it's not painful for nearly so long. And once you have that tiny little person in your arms.............well, the feeling is indescribable. There comes a point, often though not always, the first moment you hold that individual you have created, when the shock hits you and you realise you have actually made a human. Grown him/her, from nothing, and that person is ready to begin life's journey, and without you, they wouldn't exist. It's amazing, nothing else feels quite the same, and you know what else, even after nearly 2 decades, it's possible to still feel like that.

Answer 3

My first delivery involved typical discomfort and the thought never entered my mind. I knew I wanted more children. The same was true with my second child who was a little more painful because of exhaustion. With my third child, my ObGyn asked me in the labor room if I want to have a tubal ligation. I declined. By the time I was in the middle of the delivery I demanded it. All three are wonderful children but I never regretted the decision.

That being said, I would suggest that you not make such a permanent decision over a temporary bout with pain, especially after just one child. - My middle daughter just gave birth to her first child four months ago. Having suffered a mis-carriage earlier in the year, she was determined to take it very very easy during her second pregnancy. She had the luxury of having her husband support her financial and emotionally during that time (something that isn't a reality for many women) but she said her labor and delivery were extremely easy. Although she put us out of the room at one point because of the pain, it didn't seem to be too be what I experienced. She's now pregnant with number two.

Answer 4

Of course every woman is different and has different labor and delivery expierences. Some women have LONG labors lasting 30 hours or more and some have to push for hours but then there are some women who are lucky (like me) and have 3-4 hour labors and push for 5 minutes or less! Once you have that little angel in your arms you'll most likely forget about all the pain you went through regardless of how long and hard your labor and delivery was! It also depends on your pain tolerance. If you have a low pain threshold I would definetly ask you doctor about an epidural. I haven't had one but I have heard those really help with the pain!! Good luck -you'll be fine!!

Answer 5

during both my births i said alot of terrible things to my hisband. no more sex was one of them yes, but the pain is intense at the time yes, it will take everything in u to get through it. But in the end when that beautiful child that u just brought into the world is laid on ur stomach it is all forgotten somehow. u know that u experienced pain of course and the things that u said but at that moment it seems that u would have done more for this baby that everything is worth it for this moment that is why u find people are able to have multiple children because that moment at the end is so beautiful and fullfilling that it makes everything better. trust me honey u got nothing to be afraid of . just make up ur mind before u go in on pain relievers. tell ur nurses from the beginning how u feel about them and when u want them. An epidural is known to slow the process down for some women especially for ur first shild but with me first i only pushed for 1 1/2 hours with it which is short and my second with the epidural was a 23min push now i am 16 weeks with my 3rd good luck and congrats i think u will do just fine

Answer 6

While in labor with my son (now 5yrs old) I remember being sad thinking that even though I wanted more children, there was no way I'd go through the labor again! But, once the baby was here-you forget. I'm scared because I'm 35 weeks pregnant with baby #2. The pain of labor is horrible-absolutely horrible. But, it is temporary. You'll get through it & you won't remember exactly how much it hurt.

Answer 7

I think going into labor you need to be aware of 2 things...1..there WILL be pain, and lots of it. 2...there is no pain in the world that will keep you from your precious baby.

I was SO lucky to have a great labor (horrible pregnancy - was on bedrest from week 15 and morning sickness the whole damn time ugh). But we are VERY happy to be trying for baby #2. I can't wait to feel the labor pains. It is just the end of one of the most joyous times in your life.

It is amazing how empty it can feel not having a tiny soul kicking all your organs around and making you pee down your leg when you sneeze. :-D

Answer 8

LOL!!!!!!!!! Of course many women say that!!! But it is amazing how you "forget". I mean, you don't really "forget" in as much as you just put it in the back of your mind and let the maternal instinct take over.

HOWEVER, at 33 weeks pregnant with my second (right now), I am saying NO MORE even before labor. I thought the second pregnancy would be easier...and in a lot of ways it has been...BUT...with muscles already stretched out from number 1....number 2 has shown earlier (belly early on) and he is laying REALLY low causing A TON TON TON TON of pressure that is really uncomfortable.

Will I change my mind later? Maybe. I think another issue of being pregnant with this one (#2) is that I have a 2 year old I am chasing....so if I do change my mind later, I will make sure we've passed the 5 year old mark!!! :)

Answer 9

Yes, that's true. My second delivery was so "intense" that I said NO WAY I'm ever doing this again. But you do forget.

Actually, the worst part for me has always been the recovery. For some reason, I thought that I would have my baby and be right back to normal. Soooooooo not true. It was the recovery time that mostly made me say NO MORE.

Labor is no fun, but it's something you have to go through to get to meet your sweet baby. When I went into labor both times, I was scared about BEING in labor, but so excited about getting to meet my little ones. The excitement outweighed the fear for me.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 10

I'm thinking it's because you end up with a beautiful baby. The mind is designed to forget *some* of the pain. Unless you had medication and then maybe it wasn't so bad either.