Last week I asked how to get my parents to deal with me dating a guy the is black and I am white. We have been dating a while and we decided we wanted to start a family. We are both finacially stable and he is 33 I am 19. Yea big age difference but we are tremendously happy. We found out that I am pregnant this morning. I have been eatting different, waking up at 4 restless and nauseated. Question is should I stress becasue of my parents? Or should I be happy because this is what I wanted and his family will be trilled? I should still want my family behind me right? We are going to tell them at x-mas.
2006-12-07 02:18:26 · 18 answers · asked by lorisbarbie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are tremendously blessed and lucky: you have a man that loves you and you love, and the two of you have made life and will have a baby together. I won’t say “screw your family” because family is important, but…you need to do what is good for you. If you two are going to be together and make something of a family unit for this baby, then do your best to love each other and the baby. Your family will see that love, they will see the beautiful baby that you two have made, and things will work out in the end.
2006-12-07 03:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Maddog Salamander 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them at Christmas. They are not going to be happy that a 33 yearold guy just got their 19 yearold unmarried daughter pregnant. The last thing you want to do is put a damper on Christmas. Tell them before Christmas. As far as being concerned about your family being behind you: The age difference is a little weird. I'm only 27 and wouldn't dream of dating a 19 yearold girl. I can't see how we would have anything in common. That being said, if you think you want to give this a go, I am sure your family will be behind you. They may fuss and moan, but I think they will be behind you. Good luck.
2006-12-07 10:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by btmead21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you don't have the approval of your man than telling them on christmas may not be such a good idea, you should tell them quietly so they have time to cool down and not worry about it on an important holiday along with all the holiday stresses.
Secondly, they may be upset at first and you should be an adult about it and let them. Give them the time to cool off and then maybe they will see how well you handled the situation and respect the fact that this is what you want. Respect their opinion and reaction and understand where they are coming from. Soon enough (and it may take awhile) they will come to support you throughout your pregnancy, and I'm sure they'll decide they want to be there for you.
2006-12-07 10:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get tested, be 100% positive you are pregnant. Then like the individual above mentioned...you should not tell them on Christmas if you are not absolutely positive they will be thrilled. Before or after is a great Idea. Maybe before so it doesn't slip out during Christmas dinner. I would have to guess that I am your parents age. However they feel about him, because you are only 19 and you are not married, they are not going to be happy and it will ruin Christmas. They will come to terms with it eventually.
Good luck
2006-12-07 10:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by higg1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sooner is better than later in this instance simply because your restless sleep may be the concerning factor. You have this feeling of anxiety and guilt hammering on the inside of your subconscious mind like an invisible alarm clock, whilst you sleep, don't forget you are sleeping for two now, and besides that it gives them enough time to prepare and buy extra gifts for the tot, getting it all out in the open will make you feel better have a nice one both, Merry Christmas
2006-12-07 10:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Why cant i read my daily Emails? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!!!!! It's always nice to hear someone excited about a new little one on the way.
Don't stress. Yes, you should want them to support your decision and be excited. It's not necessary though. They need to accept that you as an adult have made a decision.
If I were you, I would not tell your parents at Christmas though. You don't want drama to start at Christmas. I think you should choose to tell them before or after. As far as his parents....if you know they will be thrilled then by all means tell them at christmas, it will be a wonderful present for them!
Good luck! I hope your parents can get passed their own issues and celebrate with you!
2006-12-07 10:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, should you be stressed? No, not good for the baby, but at the same time I can understand. Your parents will accept it or not, but in the end, if they choose to not accept, it is their loss. Now if his family will be more thrilled, then you may lean on them more, but you must make sure that you stay as healthy and stress free as possible because you are carring a fragile and precious life inside you.
Contrats!!!
2006-12-07 10:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by SINGLEMOM4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think its wonderful! I am 4 weeks pregnant today with my third child and so happy. I had my first daughter at 17 and my second daughter at 19, this past may. I am only 19, but married and we couldnt be happier. Best of luck and your parents will be with you. I though my mom would hate me after I told her I was pregnant at 15, i lost it though, but my mom never left my side and never looked down on me. Best of luck.
2006-12-07 10:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by kristin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should still want your family behind you. That is only natural to want support from the ones that are closest to you. They may not take it well but the important thing is that you tell them and tell them how you feel about your relationship and that you feel this is a good thing. It may take them time to be okay with things but it will be worth it.
2006-12-07 10:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u have taken good desigen
because, parents are always happy with the child
u can understand the feeling of parents when u will become the mother, now u r on the 1st step of that my heartly opinion that go to the parents and clear that all the thing to them
u r friend
indeed
2006-12-07 11:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by dost ka dost mayu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋