Does seeing a mixed race couple bother you?

Question

Does seeing a black man with a white women bother you? Or even a mexican man with a white women? Etc, etc, and etc. I have heard that it bothers the black race more than the white race. Is that true? I myself do not have a mixed race marriage. I think it is their bussiness and it is their life, but know everyone does not think that way.

Answer 1

Doesn't bother me at all..I am in a mixed race marriage, my husband is white and I'm black...I can't say it's the same for all mixed relationships but we both have had more negative comments and stares from black people other than white. Maybe because white men/black women relationships aren't seen as much as black men/white women relationships, or maybe white people just keep their thoughts to themselves..Who knows...But either way it's no one elses' buisness who you choose to love.

Answer 2

Yes. I did not have integrated classes until college. I had black friends, but I found out that I could not go out with an much older black male who had much more experience than I did. I think that if the couple themselves is happy then it's OK. The marriages can produced some very beautiful children, but I could not marry a black man right now. Many of the young black men I have known seem to be guilty of believing their own "PR" and all these "racial myths about white women and black men". None of it is true. If you want me, you have to be my friend first, and treat me with respect, otherwise, get lost! I can see myself with practically any other race or ethnic group. Maybe I am just not mature enough to be 100% "color blind" yet.

Answer 3

It doesn't bother me personally, but I've been through it and know the potential problems.

My ex-husband is Mexican (2nd generation American citizen, though). He and I had many issues with understanding each other's cultural differences. I was willing to learn and was quite facinated with many aspects of it. However, there were definite differences that I was not willing to accept -- mostly gender-related issues. A lot of these beliefs were core values that eventually led to our separation.

We have a daughter who is, obviously, bi-racial. I'm not just a proud mother, but she is beautiful. I hear it all the time. She has the hispanic complexion and my green eyes. She hasn't really had many issues with being bi-racial. Most of her friends are white, though, as obviously I am and my husband is (who adopted her, so she's had his last name since she was 5).

So, first hand experience tells me that an interacial couple will have definite cultural differences with which they must deal. It doesn't bother me because I think that it goes against some stupid belief about races being separate or whatever, but I know from my own experience that sometimes things may be difficult for them.

Answer 4

No, of course not. I think that attitude overall is one of at least 2 generations back. I'm 57 yo white man.

When young, I can recall looking with surprise at seeing a mixed race couple, and wondering what their life was like. (It was VERY rare in the midwestern US in the 1960's) Some might interpret that surprise as rascist, but it wasn't - it was intense curiosity about something that the world told us was a bit disreputable, but that judgement just didn't seem to stand up to examination.

I don't recall ever feeling hostile to such a couple but I did feel curiosity. MY parents, however, do have strong issues about race 'mixing' as they put it.

No body has asked, but our country's approach to racial issues seem kind of goofy to me. The mere fact that you ask such a question tells me we haven't gotten beyond it. I wonder if we ever truly will.

Answer 5

No it doesn't bother me at all. It's a good thing when people find love with someone of a different race or culture in spite of the color, race ,and religion issues that some folks seem to have. I think it's a beautiful thing.

Answer 6

It doesn't bother me...I am a white female in a relationship with a black male. I don't see why race or color should be an issue.

Answer 7

i don't prefer to work out very toddlers making out, i don't think that they might possibly know all that occurs once you kindle this type of hearth and the household initiatives that compliment it. so a approaches as mixed race, who cares what race or color they're, that do not make the guy unavoidably. i might desire that there basically be hand preserving or an arm around the waist in public. the different could be placed aside till they're in a extra inner maximum section.

Answer 8

No not really why should it ?

I myself think some of the most beautiful women in the world are Black, asian, Chinees etc, and I would date one at the drop of a hat.

Answer 9

To love someone you
look beyond the top,
deep into the
soul and heart
of the person you love.
You love unconditionally
and forever no matter what others say,
it is only your two souls that matter

Answer 10

I'm in a interracial relationship and we have a daughter together. I can tell you that everyone looks, both whites and blacks. However, I have personally found that blacks do, in fact, tend to be a little less welcoming than whites. I live in a predominantly white neighborhood and I have never had a problem anywhere. We live, eat and have fun in our neighborhoods and have met wonderful people. On the flip side, when we do go into Detroit to a predominantly black establishment, there does seem to be tension. The black men stare at me like i'm a traitor and the black women look at me like I think i'm better because I'm with a white man. Stupid, but true.

I am like you. People need to mind their own damn business and worry about their own relationships and stop worrying so much about mine. If people did that, we'd be much better off.