Also i read these emails after we split up but it was bugging me as i had this feeling she cheated so i looked at her emails and saw she did. i confronted her over this and now she is denying it and asking me were i got my evidence from what should i say to her should i tell her how i got it?
2006-12-07 01:54:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you were very correct with what you did! I did the same thing to discover my wife cheating with a coworker. I gave her a second chance but cannot trust and it is torture. Save yourself...turn and runaway from this woman as fast as you can. There are many other fish in the sea!
2006-12-07 01:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You read the emails after you broke up.
When people break up, for whatever reason, it causing uncertainty about their future together.
Since you were left in doubt due to the break up, it is common for people to put aside their Morales. Especially if you felt that there was a chance that you may not get back together.
So, no, you were not wrong to check her emails.
And although you feel it was wrong in your own mind, you still found out something that was very wrong that she did.
Are you more concerned that you cheated or she cheated?
Now that you do know the truth, which is the more terrible of an act that was created.
You're faced with confronting her now.
You have no choice.
I would re-read the emails, before confronting her with it.
And save it to a file for yourself. Because you will need to to confront her with it.
It may have only been that she was just flirting, even with someone off a chat room site and never met the person. So, be sure what you seen, is what you seen.
Best of luck
2006-12-07 02:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that you are no longer together just tell her that you looked at her emails. If she says that you shouldn’t have done that say well at the time I was….no don’t you go and change the subject we are talking about the fact that you cheated on me. If she says that you had no right to do such a thing (which you actually didn’t) just say that at the time you suspected her and it looks as if you were right after all.
Say that while you are sorry that you looked at them you are also sorry that that was the way that you found out
You need to cover yourself here as two wrongs don't make a right. She shouldn't have cheated on you and you shouldn't have been looking through her emails
2006-12-07 02:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you are not wrong if under the impression that she was cheating, let alone when married, you are supposed to share all your thoughts and problems. If she wasn't opening the same as she was before, you had all right to find what's wrong with your wife. Let her know where you got your information and print it off the internet from her emails. She has all right to know your concerned and things need to be taken care of and if she cares she admit it and try anything to work it out. It al least shows you cared enough to find out why things were drawing your wife away. Stand up for yourself as she is in the wrong and things need to be handled! Hopeing for the best and hope this helps. jll
2006-12-07 02:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by jessbthegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admit to her that you snooped, which is wrong. If you were broken up with her, you had no right whatsoever to snoop in her emails (I'm not even sure how you were able to do so).
Then you both need to walk away from each other. Since she cheated on you and you are a snoop, both of you can do better.
2006-12-07 01:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is now you know the truth and since she's still denying it, she's not trying to change so it will happen again. If you came across it then it was meant for you to see. In a relationship there are no secrets.
2006-12-07 01:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my husband seems over my shoulder all of the time. i'm certainly happy he does it-it shows he's involved. I dated a guy that wouldnt even seem far off from his computing gadget as quickly as I called his call. of course it did no longer pass very a techniques. as a replace of struggling with with him or growing to be agitated, tell him to tug up a chair and you will the two sit down jointly and watch regardless of you're doing. i think of you will discover that when you're inviting him into you're on line worldwide, he will discover much less reasons to consistently seem over your shoulder.
2016-12-18 09:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not right to go through someones e-mails or personal letters etc. without their knowledge and consent. On the other hand if she had nothing to hide it there isn't much reason to not give her consent. My live in bf and I have access to each others myspace accounts, he has access to my e-mails, voice mail on cell. When you have nothing to hide why not share those things. How did you have access? Did she give it to you or were you just snooping? Just tell her where you got the information.
2006-12-07 03:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth, and if she gets pissed so what, Comparing the two evils (cheating and rooting thru emails) I would say cheating is the worst of them.
2006-12-07 02:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
H*** yes show her! Same thing happened to me, only I was still with the guy. The idiot looked me straight in the eye and told me I was crazy and that he would never lie or cheat.......So of course I printed the emails and shoved them in his lying face as I left the b******
2006-12-07 02:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋