I'm 26 and married (she's 24) and feel I made a huge mistake. I love my wife to death, but we don't see eye-to-eye on many important issues in life such as having kids, how to care for our parents, etc. She wants kids, I don't. She wants her dad to be able to move in with us instead of going to a home(he has Alhziemers and is getting bad). I would rather shoot myself.
When we were dating, we would always go out and party and have a great time together. Since we got married, she says it's time to grow up, but that's not why I married her...I already have a mother. I miss my good-time girl! I feel as though we were too young to realize what we were getting into as I've seen happen to many young couples. At least we have no kids involved so it's an easy exit if we so choose. But many yong couples make the mistake of having children and are stuck. Shouldn't people wait until they are 30 and have their personal lives in order before getting married???
2006-12-07 01:53:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I personally feel once you are of legal age diff. in every state that you have the right to marry whenever after that. But I also feel that when you marry both should be ready for whatever is to come and be a 50/50 partnership sharing all responsibilities etc. Just because you have kids doesnt mean you have to put all your social life with your spouse on hold or just because your married that life is over. Your wife is lucky to have you I would love for my husband to want to do more things with me he would rather do things solo with his friends. Did you know before you married her she wanted kids? Do you really not want kids or just not right now you need to let her know that. As for her dad yes he is her father and its hard to see one of your parents go through this but he needs to be in a home tell her to look around for a good home with the best care Alzheimers patients need to be looked after 24/7 the two of you would be to stressed out this causes memory loss and other complications and it would be hard for the 2 of you especially if you had children. I have kids and dont feel stuck I love my kids and they are my world but i want my time w/ my husband to she doesnt know how good she has it you want to enjoy life with her and she is trying to make it sound like it is over talk with her help her see that she is lucky to have a husband that wants to enjoy life with her not by himself. To all the couples out there marriage doesnt have to come to an end make what you can of it and live life happy with EACH OTHER!! I hoped i helped.
2006-12-07 02:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you discuss the kids thing before you got married?Did you discuss her Dad? If he requires care 24/7 he might be safer in a home, if having a nurse at the house to take care of him 24 hrs a day is not an option. As for your "good time girl" you do have additional responsibilities now that you are married.Marriage before age 30 is something that some people are ready for, some are not. I am also 24 and plan to wait at least few years before I get married. I would go for counseling though. You married for better or worse, you should not be looking for an "easy exit" This is a marriage, not a high school romance.
2006-12-07 02:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 21 and didn't have children until 12 years later, I have been married for 24 years now, I think it all depends on the person wanting to be married, you don't really sound like you want to be married. I don't think your wife realizes that many times you can't care for an Alzheimer's patient at home, they need specialized care and not many can handle the stress of it all, I have an in-law with it too, and I can tell you there is no way she can be cared for at home, she should reconsider that decision. As for the children issue, that is a big issue if you don't agree on that I don't think your marriage has much of a chance of surviving.
2006-12-07 02:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AT what age is the right age to marry? You two took on that responsibility together and you are married. You took vows. You both knew the rules and now you're no happy> She still is your good-time girl--but did you ever think that maybe she has alot on her plate with her father too?? Understanding and compassion for her right now is what she needs--not your selfish wanting to have a good time all the time. Wear her shoes for a while--wouldn't you wnat her understand? I'm sure she knows your feelings too--and maybe it is time to grow-up!! You two have the rest of your lives together for good times. You have to make sacrifices in life--marriage especially.
2006-12-07 02:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have talked about this before you were married. If you are unhappy with being married then you should divorce. I am 26 years old (my husband is 28), and we were married when I was 19 years old. We love being married. You and your wife need to have a talk. Good Luck!
2006-12-07 02:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually the right age for man to marry is 40
2006-12-07 02:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by kimht 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 00:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with your wife. you shoulnd be allowed to get married period.
2006-12-07 04:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋