A woman I know divorced her Husband thinking that he was having an affair and then turns around and contacts my Husband (old friend from high school) knowing that he is married and has children. She was lonley and needed a shoulder to cry on. She was relentless. The sad part is that she is a school teacher who is supposed to have morals and set an example to young people. The homewrecker in question even gave herself a stupid nickname, Buffy and lived in this stupid fantasy world giving my Husband a stupid nick name as well. Just curious as to hoe many people out there have no consideration for marriage and care more about themselves and their own feelings regardless of children and marriage vows.
2006-12-07 01:52:31 · 17 answers · asked by thewife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women who have affairs with married men are searching for the ultimate happiness finding someone to love and love them in return. I guess this includes any ones man, married or not. I don't really think they give it a thought, they are too wrapped up in the fantasy of it all. Not right, but it happens more often than not. In a perfect world this would not exist. My opinion, not fact, just how I perceive this. You would have to have a self-esteem problem going after some body elses husband. Obviously this person feels they can't get a worthy man on their own, when you think about it, a married man cheating on his wife is hardly worthy of any womans love or attention.
2006-12-07 02:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are some things you need to be educated on as to why it is what it is. For one thing you cannot sit there and say these things unless you know what has happened it there lives to force the changes that they are doing. Some women are just looking to have fun/excitement in there marriage and they don't have it so they find it elsewhere. ...And then there are some that is just outright tired of dealing with the same old tired junk that they had to put up with for what ever the time period it for them..
I know I have been through that and let me tell you it is something that makes you do things like this simply because of what you have going on at this very moment that would make you go to this limit to find someone else...
It doesn't mean that I don't honor my marrage with my husband because yes I do so much so that I have gave it another chance to work on my problems with my husband as we speak but what about the others that don't want to do that, you have to consider that most people put a lot of time trying to work through something that the other party doesn't want to try to work on period...And most of the time it is something that has made them feel that it was done, over, finished..
You might call these women homewreckers and yes that is what that is but have mercy and look at the whole picture for why both men and women do what they do...There is a lot more to all of it then you really know.
And by the way very good question, I enjoyed answering it!!
2006-12-07 02:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an emotional issue to be sure. I think this is also a supply and demand issue. If you give your spouse ALL of the things they need to be happy, I think the odds of this having an opportunity to occur in your marriage is much smaller. There are so many women that think that men can do without BJs after they marry them and it becomes an issue. The women naively thinks it is resolved because the man stops asking about it. In all to many cases he has decided to seek this elsewhere. For many men they think that not giving their wife the attention and romance she deserves somehow will be accepted. He is also quite wrong and invites infidelity passively.
Both of these things are wrong but all too often true.
Yes you take vows and you should be true. But you also have a responsibility to meet each others needs. These are linked.
2006-12-07 04:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! Woman and men are In competition of who can be the dirtier sex In todays society apparently you and I just haven't got the memo yet! The situation of this woman being a teacher has nothing at all to do with this, people are going to be who they are reguardless If they are teachers or a president of the united states...oops! You can't specifically blame this woman for everything It does take two, other than that you need to look Inside your home and find where the problem started from the beginning.
2006-12-07 02:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly there are two many people out there like this and there is not much you can do about it except keep looking for someone that is more conservative and remember your husband is just as guilty as this woman is.
My personal belief is that the our culture has almost completely removed itself from church. We are so concerned about seperating church and state that we don't even allow our children to pray in school and we mock anyone that says grace in public resturant. How can we expect anyone to have morals if they don't even know what morals are?
2006-12-07 01:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a married man, let me say it is much easier to get dates now that I'm married than it ever was when I was single. I always thought that wearing a wedding ring would make women run in panic, but it seems to turn them on. Then when I talk about my wife, it's like they hang on my every word. Not all women, of course, not even most women, but more than when I was single, and more vigerously.
I asked one girl why she would hit on a married man, and she said, it was because I was "safe," meaning I couldn't flirt back seriously. But when I asked her what if I was serious, her answer was, "Whatever happens, happens, I guess." Who knows how serious she was.
2006-12-07 02:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isnt your husband setting her straight. After all he's the one married here. I would tell him you don't appreciate the connection they have made. How would he feel if it was vice a versa? I would not put up with it. She needs someone elses shoulder to cry on not your husbands. Tell her to keep looking in the year book.
2006-12-07 02:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by autumn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ah, well you see, she has a miserable life so she's going to see to it that other people have a miserable life too. Plus it's a power trip, I can lure him away from another women which is much more exciting than going after single guys. (someone actually got on to a talk show and admitted this) Your husband fell for it so move on.
2006-12-07 02:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
many women persons talk themselves out of love because they don't opt for to experience powerless. 1/2 the adult males accessible are lower than popular, with techniques from definition. If their different halves admitted that they love a lower than-popular guy, then they experience crappy compared to what they study in human beings mag. women persons will say "all he needs is sex" even as in truth the guy somewhat needs love and sex. and that i will wager that 9 situations out of 10, she isn't able to love him, so she makes use of sex as a scapegoat.
2016-11-30 06:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by youngerman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really question if a single woman is wrong to sleep with a married man. The man is married not the woman. Blame the person who is responsible, your husband
2006-12-07 02:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋