how do i tell if my friend is after my husband, when it is just me and her alone in the flat she will do everything for herself but when my husband is there she wont do anything for herself.we cant ask her to leave because its her flat we are living at
2006-12-07 01:50:54 · 16 answers · asked by SAMANTHA H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no she is not, she is an old fashioned girl who thinks men are around just to care for her. she needs gently reminding that he is your man, not her's and to stop expecting him to wait on her or you will start charging her for his services.
2006-12-09 09:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are y'all paying rent? If not it just may be your friends way of saying he has to earn his keep to stay there. However, it never a good ideal to have another woman living with you and your husband (Rather it's her place or your place), so you and your husband should get your own place as soon as possible.
Most men have an impulse to Shag any woman in the house that is not family, not saying they follow through it. However, the thought is there.
P.S: It is a husband's responsibility to put a roof over his family's head. If a man don't want to do that, then he shouldn't get married.
2006-12-07 09:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. It is so hard when you feel beholden to someone. If I were you,hard or impossible as itmay seem, I would try to get out of there. The living conditions are making you uncomfortable. They say 2's company and 3's a crowd with friends let alone with your husband in the equation. You are probably all feeling the pressure and it's difficult for you to get any privacy. I think you would know if she was after him. Does she make more of an effort with her looks, does she give him long, lasting looks and flirt round him. Either way, you obviously feel unhappy with the situation. Follow your woman's intuition. Talk to your husband if you feel unhappy and see what he says.
2006-12-07 09:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think she is--she probably is!!! I had the same problem, and she insists she wasn't, but my husband definitely thought she needed him. Maybe if you have no other options except to live in her flat, when she asks HIM to do something for her, you say something like You just did that for yourself a couple hours ago! Or---do it for her yourself to cut him out of the situation. Good luck with this.
2006-12-07 09:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to pull her wait and to stop being cheeky!. i'm not sure if htis means she's after your man but if you get an inckling i would go for the kill pull her side tell her he's off limits and to steer clear, then go back to normal resolve and ask her if she would like to make you a cup of tea thus flexing she wont be lazy any more. She'll probably think your nuts and wont want to upset you.
2006-12-07 10:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Landsend2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she dress different or act different around him, does she flirt with him or touch him a lot...tell her you do things when my guy isn't here try doing them now, just watch what she says and does and if it makes you feel uncomfortable tell your guy and then tell her...what sort of mate is she coming on to your guy in the first place...but make sure you are right first maybe ask someone else what they think when they see her with you and your hubby then you will know it is not all in your mind
2006-12-07 10:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she live with you????? I hope not....Two is company and three is a crowd...Watch your husband like a hawk!!!!!! I would find myself a flat without the attachment of the landlady if I were you!!!
2006-12-07 09:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband are living in the same house as her and she's single? That's asking for trouble in my opinion. I would change my living arrangements if I were you.
2006-12-07 09:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just cuz its her flat doesnt mean she can treat u like slaves......................but if i was staying in a mates flat i do stuff all the time for them, well depending on if ur paying rent and how much.......................
Plus,i think id be after ur husband if he did everything for me, maybe U should tell him to stop it...................... if u get what i mean
2006-12-07 09:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she thinks because you are living at her flat your husband should catter to her. let her know that it's not right for her to do this and how you think she may be after you husband and you feeling uncomfortable about it.
2006-12-07 09:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋