I have a hard time comforting people?

Question

when someone is having a hard time and they need my help, I get scared and I don't know what to say/do. So I completely shut down. what can I do to solve this problem?

I also have trouble communicating with people in general, when I'm in pain or if I need help.

I feel frustrated with myself because it's not easy for me. I am a cutter (meaning I self injure by cutting myself) This has a lot to do with this problem, too, since I feel alone. I know it's my fault.

Answer 1

Have you gotten help for your cutting?

Second, you may have problems with helping other because you are going through your own internal battles. Maybe you need to spend some time helping yourself and getting yourself right before you can attempt to help others.

God bless and pray that God brings you through.

Answer 2

To start...stop cutting...leaves nasty scars. You can stop cutting by learning and I do mean learning how to identify your feelings. Cutting is a release. You can teach yourself other ways. As far as helping others with there emotional needs..there is a saying, " Can't write a check on an empty bank account." You are sweet to want to help them..but learn to love yourself first, and you can. I suffered from the same thing for over twenty years...you don't have to wait that long. Get some professional help please ..you deserve to be good to yourself, to be happy, and to find peace and joy. God bless and Good luck to you.

Answer 3

You don't have to say anything-just jump in & help-let things just fall in place on there own.
Don't be scared to ask for help-Most ppl love to help others, it makes them feel wanted & needed.
I was a cutter myself years ago. This really didn't let my pain out, only left scares. Try standing in front of a mirror & screaming at your self....or write down what troubles you on paper....The best answer I can give you is to: Give your troubles to God...He will take care of them for you, if you know him on a personal level.
The 2 most IMPORTANT questions that you will EVER answer are:






If you died today, are you ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY SURE that you would spend eternity in Heaven?

If you died today, and were standing before a Holy God at the Gates of Heaven, and God said to you: "Why should I let you into Heaven?", WHAT WOULD YOUR ANSWER BE?

These 2 questions are so important because they deal with the most important issue facing you today: Where will you spend eternity?


The Bible, God's Holy Word, says in Romans 3:23 - "For all have sinned and come short of the Glory of God". When Adam & Eve first disobeyed God by eating the apple in the Garden of Eden, man's "sin nature" was established in us. God had created us to fellowship & worship with Him. But after mankind sinned by disobeying God, a gulf, or "chasm", was opened between sinful mankind and a Holy, Perfect God.


The Bible then says in Romans 6:23 - "The wages of sin is death". We must pay a penalty for our sin, and that payment is death. There are 2 kinds of death: The first is the death of our physical bodies. After Adam & Eve sinned against God, they were banished from the Garden of Eden before they could eat from the Tree of Life. Therefore, these bodies we use will finally die one day.

Answer 4

The answer is that you cant be there for anyone, because your not there for yourself. This is not an awful thing but simply means that you need to get help for yourself so that you are there for you.This will help with your communication, cutting and shutting down. It will not be easy, it will be very hard.Good luck.

Answer 5

Forget about people who "need" your help for right now. Your cutting is an indication of something seriously wrong, and you need to address this.

I suspect that something traumatic has happened to you in your past. I also suspect that you are still fairly young. What you will need to do to overcome your past is to *decide*, not feel, that you are worthy of your own life, that you deserve happiness, and that you can achieve both.

To do this you will need to adopt a proper moral philosophy, carefully sort out your past, own that for which you are responsible and disown that for which you are not. I highly recommend a well-qualified therapist to help you in this process, such as Dr. Ellen Kenner (www.drkenner.com).

Good luck.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

oh my god..i'm sorry but u need professional help. it's not normal for people to be hurting oneself.it's not good, it's not proper okay? love yourself! give value to yourself..you may not be aware but there are people around you who still loves and care for you.and of course, we do.we may be strangers but we're humans who are suppose to care and love each other regardless of who that person is..try to open up too.little by little..do it! talk to someon about your day, your school or work.that would be a good start.take care and goodluck.

Answer 8

when ppl feel bad, sometimes they juz needed someone to be there listening..don't push yourself to say the words..but listen and imagining yourself in their shoes.

Answer 9

you need councelling, and it is not your fault. There is no fault to be laid here but please do seek help.