my son gets bullied at school he gets into trouble by wanting to be friends with the wrong people ive kept him off school because ov this and have an appointment with the head but thinking ov just takin him out the school
2006-12-07 01:30:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately in life we all make unsuitable friends but bullying needs to be taken seriously.Try and enrol him in to some form of martial arts and if he is old enough try to get him to join one of the cadet forces Army, Navy or Airforce as these will both give him a lot of confidence and you may well be amazed at how quick your son changes and how many new and far better friends he has.
I really wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-07 02:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by delta9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you don't say how old your son is. However, the best way for your son to FIT IN is to let him make his own friends. He will either grow up to be a Nerd or a Jock nothing is right or wrong with either choice. The only time you should get involved is if he starts getting into trouble.
I know you want to protect your son, if he is getting bullied at school let him take Karate lessons and talk to the school about getting the kid who is causing the trouble ... and have that kid put out. Your son shouldn't be the one missing school because somebody is picking on him.
P.S; Also know that no matter what school you put your son in, he is going to have problems if you keep trying to pick his friends.
2006-12-07 09:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello there,
Yes,unfortunetely bulling is one of the most common problem in England after tennege pregnancies.
It cause lots of headache to parents,teachers,politicians but most of al to that pure victim child.
Sorry to say this but I think the Goverment is who should make some changes here.
I know it will sound awaful but let me come up with this quick example.
I am Hungarian and we agree with British on to hit your child to make him see things better when you don't think anything else could help is wrong,however trust me it works.Our youngsters are changing too but drugs,tennege pregnancy and certainly bulliing are not common problem.
On the other hand,everyone blames young peolpe but I believe it is the parents who done wrong.
Day after day,see Mums on the street with a pushchair with their children in it and guess what how they to talk to them?:"Shut up your idiot,I don't care what you want!"
Adults do not care for their children how they suppose to and therefore children will not look up to them or listen to them!
That is why they go out there hanging out with the all the other "hurt by relatives type" peolpe,taking drugs,doing crimes bully wicker ones.I understand adults as well-when they have to work all those long hours to pay all those bills-must be hard.
Then again we still have to find that extra energy to invest in to our children,otherwise what is going to happen at the end?
Please go to your son,talk to him and ask him about every little details,then arrange an other appointment with the school and request to have a parents meeting on this matter.
No matter how hard it is, find out which child hurts yours and take action by talk to his or her parent!
Change for different school could be an other option but you can not run away from problem for so long and your son has to get an education!
Every child gets teasing sometimes but what your son gets it's out of order and you as his Mum should do everything what possible to make going to school enjoyable for him once again!
All the best:
B.
2006-12-07 10:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by amerika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him and tell him not to hang around with a bad lot as you are scared of what they will get up to...but this probably wont stop him you cant choose your kids friends no matter how much you wish you could, if the headmaster cant do anything then i would try him in another school, there are also web sites and groups out there who help with bulling and maybe they can give you some better advice...good luck
2006-12-07 10:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont mention how old your son is! I would speak with Head, and if you are not satisfied, remove him and enrol him at another school. Bullying has to be taken seriously. Alternatively if he is a young child, speak to the parents of the bullies! I found that helped! Good luck
2006-12-07 09:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by lynne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give your son enough confidence in himself so that he can tackle the satuation himself rather then taking him out of the school. also when he faces the problems he will become strong mentally which will help him in the future.
Teach your son about good and bad son that he can differentiate it himself. If it possible join him in some karate classes so that he will get more stronger physically as well as mentally. Good luck.
2006-12-07 09:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Norbert D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bullying is the worst! How old is your son? Where is his father? Perhaps the school counselor could shed some light on the situation. Best of luck to you both.
2006-12-07 09:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was bullied for years, but luckily he could deal with it. it still amazes me to this day how he managed to overcome it all. i removed him from the school and took him travelling for a couple of months then got him a place in a good school (of which i had to appeal for again and again) he is a very happy boy who is respected for his differences and not bullied for them!!! much love and prayers!!good luck!!x x x x x x x x x x x x x
2006-12-07 09:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by zoezeph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out of this school, and then put him in another one. You cant stop him being with kids altogether becuase then he will never learn any social skills. i was bullied, pulled out of state school, put in a private school, and then put back into state school for seniors. I got bullied again for a couple of years but i wasnt emotionally damaged because i had a couple ofyears of bully free school behind me.
If you cant afford to put him in a private school then you could change his school so that he can have a new start.
2006-12-07 14:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by devil_pixie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sounds heart breaking and every Mothers worry.
Doesn't matter what age the child is u are entitled to see a health visitor for advice and guidance god knows we all need it at times.
There are also alot of books around Transactional Analyses, that deal with your childs emotions. try amazon x
2006-12-07 09:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋