This lady a year younger than my husband braids my husbands hair. She has cheated on her husband numerous times because her husband has cheated on her. My husband wants to get his hair braided so they are going to be alone for a while because I am at work and her husband is too. Do you think it would be wise to drop my husband off or either let her come pick him up so he can get his hair done? My gut instance is telling me if I was to do this I'd be making the biggest mistake of my life! Even my husband said she looks like she'll cheat with anyone. I feel the same way. So, should I just wait to take him over there when I get off of work?
2006-12-07 01:24:11 · 42 answers · asked by sweetlove30 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
talk to your husband and tell about your feelings, it is a kind of warning too !!
2006-12-07 01:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by RNM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once a person cheats, they get a "rush" from it and they won;t have any problems attempting it again... that's why theyr say, once a cheater, always a cheater. People that cross the line of faithfulness, don;t see why other people are faithful and therefore, they don;t respect the boundries and believe that everyones is available, married or not.
I say, go with him and sit there until she finishes. Don sit there being nasty, just sit there as friendly as you can be. Is she the only hairdresser in town? If you have a choice, find someone else to do it.
Even your husband has a bad feeling about this... so why going trough all of this emotional pain??? to save a few bucks??? It's not worth it honey, get an apoitment somewhere else.
Trust your gut instinct...always,
Good luck
2006-12-07 01:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't never leave your man alone with another woman, her past is irrelevant. A man will be a man and women are snakes. Women very rarely show loyalty towards other women. It's not about being insecure, that's all game. It's about being wise. Now a days sisters, cousins, mamas, friends, will all sleep with each other's man, so what makes some freak doin hair any different from the rules. If he says she looks like she will cheat with anyone, he's letting you know in a manly, sly way that he knows he can hit that if he wants to, and if you don't respond to his comment, well basically that's his Playa cue that you either don't care or you are just too slow to pick it up. Use your head chic, a woman's instinct never lies.
2006-12-07 01:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do feel that your marriage is solid and you can trust your husband to be alone with her? The question isn't can you trust the cheating slut, the question is can you trust your husband? This girl could be the biggest slut in the neighborhood but she can't force your husband to do anything that he doesn't want to do. Her being younger or older than your husband has nothing to do with it either. Can you and do you trust your husband. Deep down you already know your issue isn't with her, it's with him. If you honestly felt that you could trust me you wouldn't be asking this question and making it seem like you have an issue with this other female.
2006-12-07 01:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, do you trust YOUR husband not to cheat? If you do, then regardless of what this woman may throw at him, nothing will happen. Your husband may be tempted, but if he loves and respects you, then he won't throw your marriage away just to sleep with this woman.
And since both of you are aware of her behaviour, my guess is that your hubby wouldn't do anything either. If he does, then he's the weakest man in the world.
2006-12-07 01:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that a married person has no reason to be alone in private with a person of the opposite sex. Let alone one who you already know has questionable motives. He can get his hair done with you there or in her public salon (I get the feeling the hair thing is done out of her house). Go with him. The fact of the matter is everyone is human and is susceptible to temptation. I would say NO. Trust your gut on this one!!
It is okay to trust your husband- a very good thing actually, but listen to a million other women who have been crushed when their husband cheated- and they "trusted him" . Also, is this something you want to be wondering about for another month or two down the road? Eliminate ALL suspicion, doubt by going with him.
2006-12-07 01:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, because if yoiu both feel the same way from what I understand in the paragraph then it is obvious to me that she will try to convince your husband to cheat on you with her... So I would not trust her one but with any man for that matter... If I were you I would leave her alone and talk to your husband dont trust her around your husband (even though you trust him) still the impossible could happen or I should say enexpected....
2006-12-07 01:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, by all means wait untill you get off work to drop him off and find out how long it's going to take if only a couple of hours stay and don't trust her if she has cheated on her husband before she will cheat again
2006-12-07 04:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three things are needed to prove guilt in a court of law: motive, method and opportunity. Those things are required as proof because those are what are required to commit a crime.
What you are saying is: should I allow this method and opportunity for my husband to cheat on me? Its not a guaranteed method, nor a guaranteed opportunity, but its more than nothing.
Your husband would also need motive. If its not there the cheating will never happen. If it is already there, and you provide method and opportunity, then it will happen. If it might be there, and you provide method and opportunity then it might happen.
If your husband went to a Promise-keepers event, what would they say to him in the language of men? "Flee temptation". If theres a maybe for the motive, method, or opportunity, dont be there. Your hair is not worth your marriage. Those are men who are trying to help other men to act in the way God says they should, and they would say "flee".
If your husband when to a shrink, a p-sychologist, what would he say? You have to make your own choices, and you are responsible for them. If you think this might be something that could hurt your marriage, and you dont want to hurt your marriage, then you need to think seriously about it before you decide what you are going to do. Even if you are comfortable with this person, its clear that your wife is not, and doesnt know how to admit it, or speak it. It might damage your wife's confidence in you and your relationship if you do this, even if you are fine, because she isnt. You should talk to her, and listen to her. Find out what she thinks. You said that you are partners and team-mates and hearing your team-mate is a key part of a successful partnership and a successful team.
2006-12-07 01:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you worried about HER for? It's your HUSBAND that will either cheat, or NOT cheat. Re-direct your concern to where it belongs. Can you trust him? If so, then you have nothing to worry about. If she tries to put the skeezer on him, he'll man-up and tell her to step off.
2006-12-07 01:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by I hate friggin' crybabies 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on a few things:
#1 Are you pleasing your husband in all of the ways he wants to be pleased?
#2 Do you trust your husband.
If your answer to #1 is not a resounding yes you better fix that as this leads to temptation.
2006-12-07 04:33:39 · answer #11 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋