I recently caught up with school buddies before an upcoming 20 year reunion, they all know I am gay and they are straight but after partying till all hours back at one guys place when the other guy left to go home I was too drunk to drive so crashed on lounge then this guy said come her and lef me to the bedroom and said you can rest there I have friends dropping by, 10 minutes later I felt a body against my back and a hand undoing my pants. I thought gee I have had too much to drink what a great dream I am having but it was very real. Later on he told me it must be a secret as he does not want anyone at school reunion knowing and that I was his first guy, I laughed and kind of did not believe him as he seemed to know what he was doing pretty well. I adored him at school and he is still hot now and there is no girlfriend around but he came to see me this week for dinner and made it clear it would never happen again and made me promise I would not tell. What do I do walk away?
2006-12-07 01:18:23 · 13 answers · asked by ConfusedWhatToDo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Walks sound good but meeting him and two others for dinner tonight do I just ignore him and talk to other guys and pretend nothing happened then. Would you tell anyone after reunion?
2006-12-07 01:35:04 · update #1
I cried after he left from telling me friends and never again, I wish it never happened, he did say maybe down the track but who would wait for that. On the plus side I found out about a single successful sexy gay guy who will be at the reunion from them and plan to cheer myself up sniffing around him.
2006-12-07 01:40:53 · update #2
I don't think you should mention your sexual encounters anyway and it would be unkind and spiteful of you to mention the one with the guy. Some men fancy guys but it's curiosity, they just do a once off thing. It could be in this chaps case. Respect his wishes if you are a caring person.
Go and enjoy yourself and yes, meet new people. Let this chap alone if that's how he plays it. He obviously likes you though. Just play it cool.
2006-12-07 04:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by 2dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story really caught my interest.
Here's what I would do:
Leave it where it currently is, respect his wishes, and continue to be his friend.
The guy is obviously loaded with some issues here, and a reaction of any kind from you is not going to help him out. He needs to face some stuff.
The best thing you can do to help him is to lead your life to the fullest, as a gay man, and let him see that you are happy and adjusted. Doing so may prompt him to eventually seek you out for some advice. (Don't have any more sex with him, even if he changes his mind and comes at you. He needs therapy, not sex.)
The one thing I am not clear on is this: Do you see this guy on a regular basis? Sounds like you do. If this is the case, I'll bet you Money that if you leave him alone and respect him right now that he will eventually seek you out to talk about it, and that's when you will have the chance to really be a good friend......which is what this guy needs.
Good luck. I know you said he's hot, but he's carrying too much baggage....watch yourself. it's not worth it. It's a good way to mess up your life. Been there and done that. Its NASTY....
2006-12-07 09:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Steven Keith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just try to forget that it ever happened. He is probably bisexual or may just be curious and took advantage of your vulnerable state to satisfy his curiosity...He may or may not have been intimate with another man before... it's hard to say.
What I can say though, is that it doesn't seem like it is worth your while to get involved any further than you already have been. Let it go... I don't see anything good coming out of this for you.
Good luck! :)
2006-12-07 09:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by markalan1973 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he came to you in confidence. It is not your decision to out him. Be happy for the experience you had with him and just be glad you can be a good friend to him if he wants to do it again. If he decides to tell people about his experience, you will be there for support
2006-12-07 10:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not an honest guy. He wants to hide things, and to "never happen again" things also emphasizes my point. Just walk away, and leave him, find your true love!
2006-12-07 09:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it..unless you want to press charges against him...he's really afraid... I would let him just go on with his facade..what good will it do for you if you expose him...He will walk away from you either way.
2006-12-07 09:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems your friend is gay but afraid to come out about it, it seems he is more worried about the reaction of people more then his own happiness, if i was you i would walk away and not make the situation complicated, but also let him know he can not use you like this, and to get things figured out in his mind about what he is doing!!
2006-12-07 09:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are wasting your valuable time. Closet cases are a big no no.They've got more baggages than Heathrow airport can handle.
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2006-12-07 09:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should respect his wishes, eventually he will come out. He is gay, no straight guy is going to act that way..
2006-12-07 09:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋