My hubby wants to stop smoking. Help?

Question

My hubby has tried to stop smoking but has failed. He has tried the gum, patch and cold turkey. When he stops he gets moody, sleepless nights and hot flashes. We get no family support b/c they are all smokers themselves. I try not to talk to him about it. I do worry about him. I hate him smoking. I can't stand the smell and he can't even hug me or kiss me b/c he claims he can't stand the smell himself. I feel like everytime he stops in puts our marriage at risk and we both feel distance. Sometimes I'm so fed up with the situation I'll buy him a pack just so I have my husband feeling back to normal. What should I do?

Answer 1

First of all, your husband has to really want to quit. He can't be quitting for anyone but himself. He must get himself into the right mindset. He has to look at this like all the other stupid things he did as a kid and has walked away from; this is that last vestige of being that stupid little kid. If you quit smoking and feels he is depriving himself of something special, he will either be a miserable non-smoker were back to smoking. The key is getting to the point of "I am done" and just walking away.
There is a new medicine available called Chantix. It helps with some of the cravings, but it will not make him quit smoking. It is a tool just like Zyban or the SMART shot.

You must understand that this is an addiction, just like alcoholism. Do not about him to quit smoking, but rather encourage him when he brings the topic up. This is his journey, but you can be supportive and encouraging.

I wish to both of you the best of luck.



Sincerely,

Kirk G. Voelker MD
Pulmonary & Critical Care Medicine
Founder Quit Doc Smoking Treatment Network
www.QuitDoc.com

Please Note: This note was dictated using Dragon Naturally Speaking v8.0 while exercising on an eliptical trainer, so excuse any transcription errors.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I stopped 3 weeks ago using patches ( go for the strongest 24 hour patch possible). it will not be possible to stop just like that, he will still need the kick that he gets from the cigarette, however, if he does use the patch he will gradually realise that what he is doing is more out of wanting something to do rather than actually needing it.
also when he does stop his sense of smell will be much more heightened, i can smell people when they walk into a bar before i can see them

Answer 4

here's what i can suggest......see a doctor and ask for wellbutrin. i heard it can take up to two weeks to work but, really effective. you two should make a plan. he's gonna go through some emotions so BE READY!!! be supportive rather than negative through these negative emotions. it will be very hard for him. there's also a new method that i've heard of that works but, i don't know how you stand financially or if your insurance my cover it. but, i know some people that went to their doctor......they recieved a shot of some sort of medicine. it immediately took away the cravings to smoke and they followed up with a prescription of meds and that was it. sounds like a miracle but, it has worked for them and some smoked for years. so check that one out as well. oh yeah the shot costed around four to five hundred dollars. but, it worked so in the long run you'll actually save money.......but, like i said just make a plan and be ready for a rough road and STICK TO IT!!!! good luck!!!!

Answer 5

I smoked for nearly forty years and tried many times to quit but failed. One day I decided to give the patch one more try, I kept telling myself to take it one day at a time and I did that. I didn't look at weeks or months just one day at a time. I can say that it was not easy but as each day passed it became more of a challenge to continue.
Been off smoking for four years and regret not having quit sooner.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

my hubby also quit, cold turkey.Yes he went through exactly what your hubby goes through .it takes time but he will eventually get thru it . the will power is in his head he must have to want to do it,before he will suceed. when my hubby would get on edge like that he would go for walks or go to the gym,or even work over time at work to keep his mind occupied

Answer 8

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Good luck to your husband and you hang in there!!!!