I have several female friends that are pretty and this makes my wife jealous even though I never flirt with them or do anymore than occasionally hug them. She's usually pretty much ok with it, but sometimes she gets convinced that I want them or something. I show my wife lots of attention and am nothing but friends with the girls, should I get rid of them or just explain to my wife that I love her and no one else?
2006-12-07 01:11:12 · 18 answers · asked by eclint929 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please get rid of them.
who matters most, your wife, or them?
Keep it minimal, the closeness you have with them can be hurtful for your wife.
So, I suggest you keep them on 'acquaintance' terms, or friend-on-needs-basis. Don't go running about keeping in touch, but let them be the ones, even then, you know your limits.
I'm sure your wife wants to be your most emotionally close partner, and sharing your 'heart' with others would make her feel unsecure and hurt.
Let her feel like the queen and princess and the only girl you like :) Explanations alone will never work.
2006-12-07 01:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by just me.. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that as long as you don't cross any boundries and show your wife all your love and affection for her, it shouldn't be a problem. If you want these friends to be in your life then maybe when you all hang out, aslk your wife along so she can see that you really are just friends with them and there is no flirting. But respect her wishes because she should always come first in your life!
However, keep in mind that women are jealous and competitive. We get weird because one day it's fine to have pretty friends but the next we're convinced that you want someone else. We may be having a very bad hair/ butt/ self esteem day and take it out on the significant other. It sucks I know, but that's the way it is!
2006-12-07 01:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by juju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think that you should have to give up friends just because your wife is a little jealous. If you really do shower her with attention and affection (in and out of the bedroom, and in front of these attractive friends), then she should really have no reason to be jealous. Maybe she just has low self esteem, and you can help boost that. Be sure to tell your wife how gorgeous she is, and how much you love her. Good luck!
2006-12-07 01:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try letting your wife hang out with you and your girl friends some time? That way she can see that you are just friends with them and she can maybe become friends with them, too. Also, when you are with them and your wife, continue to smother her with love, so she knows that you are letting the other girls know that she is the only one.
It is normal for women to be jealous of other women, but a little jealousy is heathy. If it gets to be too much, you need to talk to her about it.
2006-12-07 01:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by missmiranda212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obnoxious at the very least. You and I both know there is no such thing as a friendship between a man and an attractive female that is the same as a friendship between two dudes. There is always a sexual undertone. Your wife has every right to be annoyed. But my advise to her is to go out and find some good male friends to hang out with.
2006-12-07 01:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the issue with having close pals of the option sex once you're married is that when both you or they're dealing with courting issues, the degree is determined for an emotional affair, that may later become a sexual affair. this is obvious that this pal of yours is sexually attracted to you, and it may not also be your fault. also, your spouse has some male pals, so this is honest and sq.. yet ask your self how your spouse ought to react if she had heard that verbal change you had including your woman pal. as long as you comprehend your limits and also you think your self, then you truly must be good. yet do exactly not forget that there's a chance that incorporates having close pals of the option sex in a courting, a chance for both you and your spouse including her pals.
2016-11-30 06:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by youngerman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your wife knows about these women and you all hang out together then I don't see the problem. My husband has friends that are women but he doesn't hang out with them by his self. I am always there. But they are also my friends as well. So we are usually doing something together. It sounds like your wife is insecure. I don't think that either spouse should say who you're friends with. Try to compromise in some way but I wouldn't give up your friends.
2006-12-07 01:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, is it ok for your wife to have several male hunks just giving her hugs? If you do not like the picture then I guess its NOT ok.
2006-12-07 01:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no...get rid of them because its your wifes feelings that are more important
2006-12-07 01:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by mona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get rid of friends because of your wife's insecurities. Once you get rid of friends for wifey...whats next? get rid of family. If you havent given her reasonds to worry about you cheating....then SHE needs to get over it.
2006-12-07 01:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋