Our society is accepting homosexuality, so why not bisexuality?

Question

Seen brokeback mountain for the first time and it clearly was not a gay cow boy film; both men were evidently bisexual.

Saying that, Jack tendencies were more more towards men while Ernis was probably about the same. Ernis's lack of intrest in women was clearly due to the love he felt for Jack and not him being fully homosexuality.

Anyway, got me thinking why people have a problem with bisexuality? Both hetrosexual and homosexual people view them on fence sitters but why?Why do we have to put labels and categorise everything?

Answer 1

I think people tend to think bisexuality doesn't exist. Just from personal experience though. I've told many people that I'm bi, and then they constantly refer to me as gay. It makes me want to scream sometimes, because I am not gay.
Another thought is that people tend to view bisexuality as a more promiscuous life style because if you're bi, you can't be faithful to one person.

That's my opinion

Answer 2

When a gay man first comes out, a lot of times he will consider himself to be Bi. I think it helps him to smooth out the difficulty of transitioning.

Most men do eventually become gay, and they view bisexuality as a phase that one passes through on the way. There are true bisexual men but they are the minority. Thats why gays don't take it too seriously and perhaps view those folks as "fence sitters".

On the other hand, women seem to have a much more natural tendency to be bisexual more so themn men. Most gays would agree to that.

This is just one point of view from a gay person. I can't speak for the straight people. I don't know how they feel about the issue.

You are correct about the whole labeling process. We humans do strange things........

Answer 3

Great question!
Good of you to notice, however homosexuality has yet to be accepted by our society! Bisexuality makes people uncomfortable because it means that you do have the best of both world, but also that you cannot be categorised. If you like someone, does their gender matter? But we have a society where you're for or against, in or out, male or female, straight or gay. Bisexuality is viewed as having the cake and eating it!

Answer 4

Humans are naturally frightened by what they can't categorise. In a world where most people identify as gay or straight, bisexuals are impossible to categorise. The fact that there are many different types of bisexuals e.g. gay leaning, 50/50, straight leaning, makes the whole sexual orientation thing even more complicated. This doesn't mean there's anything wrong with bisexuals - its society itself which needs to understand that sexual orientation cannot be split into two containers.

Answer 5

possibly bisexuality is inherited for you! My terrific chum is bi, and so is her youngster sister, and so became into her grandma. That mentioned, there are a *lot* of people who won't settle for you--gay and lesbian besides as right away. yet many human beings will, and that they gained't consistently be who you think of. that's terrific to not cover, a minimum of socially, because of the fact hiding can carry approximately heartbreak. besides, might you surely need to this element or make acquaintances with somebody who has a concern with an significant area of you like that? often times, for a job or survival in a foreign country, you are going to be able to could cover for a on the same time as, and if so, you could carry the reality to your self rather tight, like a tiny newborn that desires nurturing, and get out as rapid as you could. i'm chuffed you mentioned you relish your existence. of course that's what counts. i'm so chuffed your father's accepting, too. good success!!!

Answer 6

Hmmm, i thought about this ever since my group of gay mates (i'm gay also) ousted a great girl from the group because she got with a bloke after splitting up with her girlfriend and they accused her of being messed up in the head. She clearly had feelings for him and my enjoyment of the company of this group severely deteriorated after this.

The only thing i can come up with is that most people are fixed into thinking that sexual attraction is all about the physical aspect of life. Namely what's going on in the trouser department.

If people could get their heads around the idea of sexual attraction being something about the person, (maybe the way they dress or the way the smile, the way they make you feel when you are with them) then bi-sexuality may not be as taboo as it seems to be at the minute.

I think society in general like to put things into a category cos it makes them less confused (it doesn't take much) and it never occurred to them that sexuality comes in all shapes and sizes not just gay and straight. You would think that gay people would have more sense as they will know what it feels like not to be accepted at some point.

Just look for the people who do accept you, we are out there!

Answer 7

Honestly, I believe it is because our "society" doesn't understand the concept of bisexuality. They tend to think of things from a very simplistic point of view. Case in Point, for many, homosexuality is strictly about sex, they don't stop to consider that "our" lives are very much like theirs in the need/desire for companionship, security, homelife, and all the others. According to many of them, we are simply sex maniacs that go after each other, never desiring something more. Being unable to understand that, is it any wonder that their opinion of bisexuality is equally as low? Think about it, if "we" are only after sex, but bisexuals "do" both heterosexual and homosexual sex, then they must be doubly warped. It isn't true, but there it is.
From the homosexual point of view, I think that it isn't so much as believing bisexuals to be promiscuous as thinking about "how could he be interested in me and her as well?" If my other half were interested in another guy, I, as a male, could find a common ground to "compete" to win back his attentions. If I were to have to try to compete against a female, there would be issues simply because I am not a female, the "battleground" would not be on an even playing field. Women are not the same as men, it's comparing apples and oranges. Where would one even begin to try to compete.

The Bisexuals that I know may be open to the idea of a sexual relationship with both sexes but that does not make them any more apt to cheat than anyone else. When they've settled down with their partner, whatever gender that partner happens to be, it is because they want to be with that person, their genitals are not even a consideration.

Answer 8

Listen my friend you either want to make love to males (homosexual) or females (hetrosexual) there is no middle ground here if you think about it!!! you are either are more attracted sexually to males or females don't confuse love with sex!!! Love its whatever gender you prefer to spend time with and look out for and protect and one for the ladies and be protecteded by!! and sex is sex but love with sex is the only true indication of a persons sexual orientation count how many of the same sex you had feeling like that for and then count how many of the opposit sex you had had those feellings for and then you will have your answer.

Answer 9

I think the problem actually lies with the gay world not the world in general. As I understand it, it's because either sex doesn't want to get hurt by having a partner who could go with either sex; it would make them feel very vulnerable, if they are none too sure of themselves.

Answer 10

that's a great question.I wish I knew the answer to that.I really feel for people who are attracted to both genders,it is seen as being greedy by a lot of people.I have gay and bisexual friends and I fully support their life choices/desires.Life is hard enough without making people feel like they are doing wrong.I actually believe that it is in us all to be attracted to both sexes,but some people act on that,and some don't?

Answer 11

I'm Bi - most people say that I must be indecisive or just plain greedy, which isn't the case, I just appreciate men and women equally.

There are a hell of a lot of people that have issues with being in a relationship with a bisexual because apparently we are twice as likely to cheat as we are not limited to only half the population (load of rubbish!) but I've worked around that now - my other half is bisexual too! :)

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