should i do more than i was doing to restore things or what?
2006-12-07 00:56:18 · 15 answers · asked by welcome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if she says shes ok take her at her word...dont be especially goofy with flowers and all, just normally attentive, and youll see which way the wind blows very soon.
2006-12-07 00:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by David B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women's " I'm OK " or " Nothings Wrong" usually means the opposite. especially when you two haven't talked it out. Have you tried talking to her about what-ever the disagreement was about. Even though you may not "agree" with her way of thinking you need to try and "UNDERSTAND" it. That all most women want any way. Not necessarily to be RIGHT. but to be Understood.
If she is Distant, it because she is angry with you for some reason. No One can really give you GOOD advice on this... for 1 we don't know the disagreement...2 we don't know what you have tried TOO restore things. I think a MANS was of resolving and restoring are completely different the a woman's.IF you truly LOVE her do all you can to work it out. IF you don't then fine dump her and leave her a lone. Then How is that going to make you feel. What would you want HER to do if the situation was reversed? If You were REALLY hurt by something she said or the way she felt about something.?? How would you want HER to approach you?
Being it's your first disagreement you are probably a new couple anyways.So she may not want to come off as being selfish or opinionated. I thinks it depend on how you feel about her on how hard you work to fix it.
2006-12-07 01:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though she says its ok something is bothering her. If she is distant with you, watever disagreement you had seems to be lingering in her mind even after you "resolved" it. You should talk to her about it. Don't come on strong but ease onto the topic and ask her questions to find out why she is being distant. you can also ask her what her feelings are just to see where she stands. Good Luck!!
2006-12-07 01:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Oreo wit out the O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her and you're concerned that she is still not happy with the resolve. If she still seems distant then just give her some time, she may still be hurt by the disagreement and needs time to sort it out.
2006-12-07 00:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the details of ur disagreement only u know, u could try better to restore things but things could also go on to frustrate u in the long term thus hampering ur relationship. Maintain a fine line between keeping ur pride n restoring the love in the relationship.Also u dont need to do many things as such to improve her mood, just say the right things, it may sound complicated but trust ur instinct
2006-12-07 00:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
women fall hard for men so expect more from men..and becomes so hurt when something goes wrong. iam married and my husband always resolves our problem by making love, no talking and he expects me to be ok after that. on the other hand, i feel so cheap. if u've resolved the thing this way, try talking to her. after any disagreement or quarrel, we need to be talked. that helps to clear the mind. don't pour too much attention on top of her to make her suspicious that mistake was on your side. take it easy. give her sometime to make her mind up. behave as if nothing has happened.don't forget to talk to her if u haven't done so. all the best.
2006-12-07 01:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by kaj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had your resolve. Maybe its not exactly something that made her happy. But was it fair? If it was and your doing all you can, then time will fix it. Or maybe she is just being a bit childish. Or holding a grudge. Its hard to really answer that with out more details. Sorry.
2006-12-07 00:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it time...sometimes even after a problem is resolved, there are still hurt feelings or uneasiness. Allow some time.
2006-12-07 00:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people take longer to get over things than others do. Have you seen the way she was with past situations that upset her? Did she kinda stay upset for a while before getting over it? If so, then i think your ok. I get over my upsets quickly, but my husband takes all day or the next to get over his.
2006-12-07 00:59:53 · answer #9 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get her to talk to you. Make sure you tell her what you are feeling. If you two are married, you want to start things with an open line of communication, or things will go down hill fast
2006-12-07 00:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by October Sky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋