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sensitive as i can, hoping people will actually read the question for what it is and not just rush to conclusions. so...i grew up in a primarily white community. not a lot of exposure to racial diversity. the issue was addressed in school and stuff, though. we were all taught to accept diversity, even though we didn't really live with it. since i've moved on to college and the work force etc...i've truly had the opportunity to experience diversity. i've found that, though i used to be completely accepting of diversity etc., i now find that because of my experiences with it (and i'm not talking a couple of people ruined it for the whole race. i mean every experience.) i'm becoming less and less accepting of other races. or the fact that they want EQUALITY. i'm really getting the impression that minorities just want to squash the whites. and it's not anything i learned from my own race, no. i've learned this from racial minorities, through the discrimination they show. your experience?

this is what i'm talking about. more accepting? is that what acceptance means? i have to accept that i get crapped on because i'm white?

and this is where i have the problem. i'm supposed to feel guilty for something i didn't do. and people of other races are hurt by something that didn't personally happen to them. this is why racism won't go away. see it?

no, i'm not saying i've had BAD experiences with everyone i've encountered of another race. i'm saying that everyone i've encountered has taken the time to remind me (through attitudes and actions) that i am not "one of them". i worked in a primarily african american workplace for a while. it seemed like a running joke around there to ask the few white people things like, "do you eat bar-b-q? i really don't know. do white people eat bar-b-q?" and it was meant to be offensive. all i want is for people to admit that this is happening more often than not. there's something wrong when it's surprising to meet a member of a racial minority that isn't trying to offend me racially. i'm tired of all the accusations of racism being reserved specifically for whites.

Answer 1

Yes you have found out just what it is. Diversity is not what makes society better. Diversity is what tears it apart. Unity is what makes a nation great and if the USA and others don't start realizing that then they will fall.

Yes the minority's do not want equality they want it all. ]

She USA became a great nation because many peoples from many lands united to make it that way. Read that again and understand that they united to make it a strong nation.

Becoming multilingual and multi cultural will divide and dstroy the great nation. The process has already done a great deal of dammage.

Answer 2

Good question! It sounds like what you're experiencing is classic culture shock. I had the same problem myself, but I find it's almost gone now. It can take years to get past that, so don't give up!!! Show that you have a good heart as well, whether it be through a smile or whatever else. Also, try to find something you may have in common with some of the folks you described. I'm going to guess there's a lot more than you may think at first!

And of course, if people aren't accepting of you after that, it's best to just forget them and move on. Let that be on them, and keep up the good work!

Answer 3

Political stuff always works at extremes. There will never be any balance. Basically in humanity, there will always be a dominant society. The original anglo-saxon race of the United Kingdom (for instance) is so appologetic that minority races are naturally going for the dominant spot. The problem with this is that even non-racists (i believe they are a minority here) can easily lose there tolorance because they have to live with the consequences of our politicians who put the minorities rights over the majorities. I believe this is what causes racisim.

What we all need to realise is that racism is in the condition of our heart and minds. So many people are scared to talk about certain subjects incase they are mis-quoted. We need to understand the motive and not the words or actions taken

Answer 4

Racism is natural to us, there is no way for it to be done away with until idiots like Jesse Jack@ss are ignored. Racism begins when a minority is given special status over the majority. That minority then starts getting the attitude of corruption through power, thanks to liberal media and liberal socialists, this ideology has torn this country to pieces socially. There are black people and white people, and there are also black n!ggers and white n!ggers, there are whole segments of white society that are just as ridiculous as the minorities, such as union workers. They have the same entitlement mentality that has destroyed the manufacturing base of America, they believe that they are owed something more than they are worth, which is the basis of socialism. Racism began with liberal democrats and it has been their sacred cow since the civil war, yet they are the ones who endorsed slavery, rejected women's rights to vote, private land ownership, and a lot more. But they have the minorities brainwashed into thinking that they are the only ones who can help them overcome the white people when the truth is that the majority of white people are too busy trying to make ends meet to worry about what other races in America are doing. Ever notice that the ones who scream racism the most are the ones who don't work for a living?

Answer 5

I understand what you are saying. Although, I grew up in a very mixed neighborhood...I was a military brat and lived on base for many years with my family before entering the military myself.So, I've had both experiences, growing up around all kinds of mixed families and racial diversity, then living with all races while in the military. What makes me mad is when someone gets chosen for a promotion or a certain job because they have to give it to a minority...the job should go to the person who is most qualified. It does seem to feel like sometimes the white race is the minority. I never noticed any differences in us when growing up but when you get out in the working world, you start to see the unfairness we all go through.....not just a certain race of people...we are all discriminated against in some way.

Answer 6

So you are talking about an attitude of minorities to stick together and discriminate against whites... hmmmm... that probably does happen.
There are closed-up white communities just like there are closed-up black, mexican or asian communities...
Some people prefer to stick with their own races, with what they know, to feel like they belong. some might be prejudiced against whites, because hey... history is what it is. Of course you are not directly responsible for what happened 50 or 100 years ago, but that's another debate...
Maybe your social status isn't helping either... I don't know. People react to that too. I am not validating it, just saying it happens in all communities.
So anyway, I just wouldn't force interactions with groups that you feel are not welcoming you because of your race. If those people in your school seem to need making fun of whites in a disturbing way, they are probably not a very good bunch. Or maybe they are just joking around and don't realize how offensive it is to you...
you can either try to live with it, try to talk to them about it, or change working place.
Yes there are ignorant and racist people in all communities, and probably, people growing-up in closed-up communities with low education are more inclined to develop closed-up behaviours, but I am sure if you look in the right places, you will eventually meet many great welcoming people from all minorities.

Answer 7

Are you asking us to believe that every experience you've had with a non-white person has been negative? I find that difficult to believe unless you're behaving in an offensive manner to every non-white person you've met in order to justify your own bigotry.

And how do you know that past racism doesn't affect the lives of people living today? You seem to have a very superficial understanding of the way racism works. My experience is that people who understand little about the way racial privilege works generally don't want to understand more because it makes it more difficult to pretend that you aren't racist yourself.

You have not learned to be racist from "minorities." You're a racist because there is some failure or insecurity in your own sense of self and racism makes you feel better about who you are.

Answer 8

After all the vexations whites subjected minorities to , it shouldn't surprise you that some people belonging to those minorities bear whites some grudges; you know the saying: once bitten and twice shy;) Had whites been tolerant in the very first place, different ethnic groups wouldn't have been named 'minorities';)...Whites always thought they were better and superior, and, as sad as it may sound, even nowadays there are lots of stupid whites still thinking like that. The concept of 'minority' will disappear only when racism will disappear too. I'm white and I do feel ashamed for all the bad things whites did and keep doing all over the world, and I must say that I've never been discriminated by people belonging to other ethnic groups; they're much more tolerant than whites.

Answer 9

Well, I believe in re-incarnation. Therefore issues such as racism in any form just dont make sense. Its about as meaningless as argueing your cars model is better than all others. Who cares, its a car! You'll buy another one when it breaks down.
This also goes for complaining about past atrocities commited against your DNA line. Unless you can prove that youve been that particular race for every single incarnation (or that you werent one of the offenders in a previous life) you have no grounds.
My genetic ancestery is Irish and Scottish. The English did some rather nasty things to the celts. But I wasnt there, so whats the point of getting all huffy and demanding an appology? Im also a Witch and the catholic church went all genocidey on the Witches of the past. But I wasnt there, nor can I prove that I wasnt a catholic or a member of the inquisition.
I believe in equality, and equality means Equal Rights for ALL. Not special privilages for some. Why should being of a certain genetic line be considered such a disability that special privilages are needed? Thats just silly.
A car is a car. A Living thing is a living thing. We are ALL of ONE consciousness. The sack of flesh and water holding your spirit is just a vehical. You wont be in it forever!
Just a rave......

Answer 10

A couple of points to consider:
1)What is acceptable/expected/polite in one culture is unacceptable, shocking, and rude in another. Some cultures depend almost exclusively on context (non-verbals), while some are very low context cultures--like the USA--we say what we mean and we mean what we say--we get right to the point as fast as we can. This is SO offensive to some cultures.

2) There is no substitute for experience. It has taken me many years to even start to interface comfortably with other cultures. I learned about diversity in my white Idahoan community too. It's like reading about riding a bike, and getting on one. Not fun at first, huh?

Answer 11

I must wonder where you are that you have had such a negative experience...been living in/hanging out in the ghetto? Because I have definitely not experienced what you have. I grew up in a small town, we had the 'token' black family in high school so I had not had much exposure until I was out in the 'real world'...and I must tell you my experiences have been nearly all positive (actually, can't much recall any negative experiences besides my dad not liking the fact that my boyfriend is black...but that's because my dad is from an even much smaller, backward town, with his ideas so ingrained in him, there's no changing him no matter what). I'm really truly sorry you feel the way you do, but given what you have said and my experiences over time - I say your exposure is still rather limited at this point.