My 29 yr. old boyfriend has difficulties with erections. But not all the time. Example, we had sex once on Friday & once on Saturday and by Sunday he couldn't maintain an erection so we were unable to have intercourse. Tried again on Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday but he's still not able. I've asked him to see a doctor about this to ensure that there are no problems with his health but of course he's reluctant to go. He figures he's just under a lot of stress right now (he's writing finals at university). But what he fails to acknowledge is that this "problem" has been affecting our sex life for almost 2 years now - not just the last little while. I don't know how to tell him that what he's experiencing is not normal for a man his age...he claims most men at this age go through a period of not being capable of having sex more than once every so many days...huh? Is this normal.
Trust me, I've tried most of the tricks to get him aroused.
2006-12-07 00:45:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
You are absolutely right when you state that his inability to obtain and maintain an erection at age 27-29 is "abnormal". At that age, most men are good to go everyday.
He needs to see a physician, probably internal medicine and urologist, to diagnose and find out what is causing this problem.
Young men who cannot get and maintain a solid erection need medical assistance. It could be something serious or something simple, but either way he needs to be evaluated.
2006-12-07 00:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will have to say that I agree with several of the answers that you have already. The two main reasons that a man may have in getting an erection is mostly two things- physically or phsyologically. If he is under a lot of stress then it can cause problems when he wants to perform.
Talk to him-explain to him that you love having sex with him and that you have notice that this is something that has been happening over the last couple of years. But, even though you really enjoy having sex with him that the most important thing to you is that he is in good health because you love him and you just want to make sure that he is okay physically.
If he still won't take the advice and go to the doctor to make sure that it is nothing physical then talk to him about his stress and suggest things that he can do to help relieve some of the stress that he has. One thing that you should not do in case it is stress related is pressure him on having sex-suggest instead of having actual intercouse that you and him just have oral.
I know that when my boyfriend seemed to loose interest in sex it was because of stress and also because of the fact that he was bored since we seemed to have settled into a routine sex act. By just doing oral and a few other things-it made him more excited to have sex and increased his interest. Talk to him to see if part of the reason may be because he is bored with the way that you two make love.
Tell him to be honest-I will admitt that it might sting a little if he says that it does-but once you get to thinking about it-you might realize that you have been a little bored with it as well. I know that I did. Open communication is very important with a relationship. Try changing up the routine and if the sex improves-then most likely that is the reason that he was having problems with his erections.
2006-12-07 01:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by pacifia1977 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first question is he eating right? Next the stress that he is under been do to school for the last two years? Does he masturbate between sex times?
If he is not eating right his body can not preform right. if the stress of school is always on his mind there is no way his body will preform right. And if he is masturbating between sex time he is dry as a bone when it come to sex.
well i hope this helps
2006-12-07 01:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
General speaking, two main reasons cause erectile dysfunction, one is pathological cause and the other one is of psychological origin. The former one is more likely the cause of older man and the latter reason is blamed for erectile dysfunction in young man. So I recommend your boyfriend to see a psychologist.
2006-12-07 00:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ethan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot thrust sex on somebody. I think he is perfectly mentioning the reason that he is not interested. Man can only get errection if he wants to, if he is not interested, he cannot. as you yoursefl mentioned that this does not happen everytime, I guess you are forcing him too much. Please respect his willingness and do it whenever he feels like. try giving gaps and justify to him your needs. I am sure he would understand and act accordingly.
2006-12-07 00:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
its normal, but still have him see a doctor about it. he might have ED
2006-12-07 01:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
LISTEN GET PASS ALL THAT AND IF HE CANNOT SATISFY YOU
WITH HIS BUMBUM BUY HIM A STRAP ON.
2006-12-07 01:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, normal.
2006-12-07 00:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by samrat m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋