She is flirting a lot with a friend of ours. I have overheard her calling him very sexy and he has also been flirting back very strongly. Do I confront her about it or tell him to keep away?
2006-12-07 00:31:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you should talk to your wife first and ask her why she's flirting with your friend. tell her that if she still wants to keep this marriage then stop flirt around
2006-12-07 00:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point you have no proof anything is going on. It could just be casual flirting or it could be something going on behind your back. It would cause serious relationship issues if you confront her and truely nothing is going on. Your other two options are to wait and see or to do some 'investigating'. You could hire a PI or you could do your own snooping. You have to first think of times when your wife and this guy could get togther without anyone knowing as you may find it's impossible for them to be having an affair. I could give you some real pointers, but I need much more information about the situation.
2006-12-07 00:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront HET about it. Your friend has no obligation to you. You will look like a fool if you approach him. The problem is with your wife.
How will you approach it? Exactly how you have explained it above. Tell her how much you love her and you are scared of losing her. Tell her that if she is going to have an affair, she needs to know that your marriage is over and there is no going back. Tell her you trust HER, but it is your friend you don't trust.
THEN... sit back and wait. You will know whether they are having an affair if their 'public' relationship changes. Where now they are 'flirty' if in future they hardly speak to one another or their conversations are strained or simply 'polite', you know that something has happened between them.
Keep inviting your friend around otherwise you will never know whether their 'public' relationship has changed.
2006-12-07 00:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not let her have her fun... Obviously there is something wrong with the marriage for her to want another guy in such a way that you are fully aware of it... You could always see about flirting with another woman and if your wife gets upset, just mention that having overheard them that you though it had become an open marriage... Is the guy married??? Then ask his wife if she fancies some extra-marital fun...
2006-12-07 00:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her if you can get in on it and have a threesome.
Just kidding. Of course you should confront her! Her behavior is disrespectful to your marriage even if she doesn't end up cheating. It also wouldn't hurt to tell your "friend" that you'd appreciate it if he would stop flirting with your wife.
2006-12-07 00:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about it, don't accuse her or anything like that just say that you feel a little uncomfortable with the way that the guy flirts with her and you'd rather they didn't do it. Hopefully by you being calm about it she will take heed and stop. However if they don't then have a word with him about it and tell him to stop flirt with your wife because it is inappropriate and you don't like it
2006-12-07 00:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a catch. Anything you do is going to be seen as a sign of weakness and insecurity.
That said. She is treating you like a chump, who wants a wife like that? I think this is a good time to have a big fight that will end in divorce if she isn't willing to apologize in a big way and never flirt again.
2006-12-07 00:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her.Tell her how you feel. Ask her to be honest. If you feel uneasy after wards and her actions continue then let her know you will not tolerate the disrespect she is showing. Give her some space if you need too. Also ask her what you may not be providing to her. May not be anything. But is important to ask. At least hopefully you will gain more insight into the matter.
2006-12-07 00:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. You need to discuss this situation with her, before it gets out of hand. Just tell her that you are uncomfortable with the friendship that she has with this person, and you would really appreciate it if she cut back a little bit. You don't want to ruin a friendship, or a marriage.
2006-12-07 00:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homie if you think your girl is about to cheat then u need to stop thinking and step ur game up and get her attention back...do something she never u would do maybe he's listening or responding to her sexual being all most females want is attention and if their not getting at home believe me they will go else where write a love note and leave it in her jacket or share your thoughts in words or voice act like u care dont let her feel that u dont sooner or later he will disappear from her agenda
2006-12-07 00:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Cnj77060 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋