I went to this gurlz house last night, she'z someone I barely know, but she seemz like a nice person so I'm like, why not. anywayz, when I 1st came, our convo started off az any typical chit-chat, then she started displayin' her "dirty laundry" to me, told me alota' personal stuff that I REALLY don't need to know, really personal stuff... n'her mom came n'sat with us, then they started this arguement infront of me.. n'later her sis came & they started screamin' at each other.. I started playin' with her cat n'actin' like I wazn't even there.She started talkin' bout her ex n'stuff, tellin' me detail by detail n'honestly, It made me v.annoyed n'bored out. normally ppl would talk about thier ex in like 30 minz max,then change the sub, she on the other hand, spent over 2hourz in pure misery mode,naggin',complainin,askin why he left her n'bla bla bla.. Don't get me wrong,I'm cool with ppl trustin me n'tellin' me stuff, but she hardly even knowz me, how could she have trusted me that fast?=>
2006-12-07 00:23:42 · 14 answers · asked by CupCake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
=>I didn't have enough space to end this, so here'z the rest:
After I came back home, Ifelt soo dirty ( for some reason I duno) n'I found 9missed callz from her that night, I waz feelin' too shitty to even do anything but sleeeeeeeep. When I first met her,she seemz like a "normal" well balaned gurl, but after i came to her house n'started talkin to her, i felt soo weird n wanted to leave. n'she'z the one who begged me to stay more,I humored her n'stayed alil while more then bounced. I just couldnt take it. I feel she'z got too much issuez, n though I'm a f***ed up person, I still wouldnt act the way she did, at least not with ppl i hardly know,, Im thinkin' of just flushin' this new friendship down the toilet, she'z got too much issuez for me to handle, I mean, I can't even solve my own crap! so , u think itz a good idea r'what ?? should i give her another chance or just let it go? n'why do U think i felt dirty???? i mean, did anyone here feel this way b4? plz help!!
thnx for ur time
2006-12-07 00:29:55 · update #1
to this guy who asked if i loved this gurl!! NOOOO!!! Im not alesbian!!!!!! wtf!! she'z just a gurl i met .. period!
2006-12-07 00:47:52 · update #2
Her relationships with those closest to her are in chaos. Therefore it takes only a slight interest in befriending her by someone to make her feel comfortable sharing such private feelings. I admire you for how you appear to have handled it, but if she persists in bemoaning her life for the entire length of your visit, I would suggest that you explain to her that you are always concerned for others and will try to help her but you aren't there to hear her air her dirty laundry. Then suggest constructive things that the both of you can do. It could be based on common interests.
2006-12-07 00:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even a doctor in psychiatry would have a hard time dealing with this one. And the family besides? You would be better to back off from this one, and her family folks, as she isn't as balanced as you would like to think. She is obviously desperate for a life line to cling onto. That's why the sudden show and tell. You felt dirty because, well, you got showered in dirt. One thing for sure though, if you get involved in her messes you will get the blame for anything and everything that's liable to go wrong. And there will be plenty to go wrong. This "friendship" is happening too fast and too furious. Better flush this and make a hasty retreat away from this dysfunction junction.
2006-12-07 01:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel! Some girls would like to vent their feelings and they just want a wailing wall for that. They don't even care what you think about their situation. It is more like talking to yourself and not wanting any anwers at all.
Probably the bestt hing for you to do is to avoid her right now coz her family is also messed-up. You don't want to be hanging out with somebody like that or you too will get the stigma. At the same time you can probably talk to her sometime on the phone to get her a chance to improve her life with your guidance.You said your life is also a mess so you can share how you dealt with it. At least on the phone you can say that youhave to hang-up coz your mom is calling,you need to do your homework etc.
Don't make your life miserable ! Enjoy it with your other friends.
2006-12-07 00:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by wolfass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a very dysfunctional group to me. If you like drama and always being the shoulder to cry on then continue the relationship. If not, find other freinds which aren't so whiny and needy. Sounds like she will always be a person who needs to display her greif and drama, who needs that? I had a friend like that once and it took a while but I finially got rid of her cause it was too emtionally draining.
2006-12-07 00:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not live on a few ones beyond, I'm definite there are matters that you've got performed that you're now not range pleased with(morals or now not) and should you pass judgement on her on her beyond then what's going to occur whilst you do discover a few one else what are you going to nit decide on at then? i suppose you ought to inform yourself that it was once ago and no person is superb and being butch or fem does not have something to do with it. PS if she is validated then there's no purpose to "run" simply recover from it and if shes now not then take her to get validated and cross from there and be her help!!!
2016-09-03 11:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she thinks that she knows you well enough to trust her...or she's just a very open person. But 2 hours over an ex...thats rude of her to make you sit through that.
2006-12-07 00:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by boppyduffduff1990 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u luv this chick or what ? maybe she is takingv u as a shoulder to cry on . If u r real friends with her , y can't u ask her abt y they were fighting in front of u
2006-12-07 00:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well ...sounds like a very angry family......also sounds like she is lonely and desperate for someone to talk with......regardless...it was rude that they fought in front of you....its pretty simple...if you have a gut feeling about something ...listen to it.....if they make you uncomfortable....dont associate with them.....
2006-12-07 00:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jade Emerald 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just really lonely and needed to talk to someone and you just happened to be there..Now that she got all of it off her chest maybe she wont talk so much next time..
2006-12-07 00:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Indymom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's just people who are more comfortable with that kinda stuff. I met someone like that once.
2006-12-07 00:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by addict for dramatic 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋