Did you marry because it was about time too, or that the moment was right, or because you think that this was the best that could be ?
If the "secret" someone or your image of the "perfect" match was to pop into your life after you were married would you jump into his/her bandwagon if there was no kids or responsibility to hold you back ?
2006-12-07 00:00:44 · 9 answers · asked by igottanoe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people settle. But when you have found the "RIGHT ONE" then you wont feel that way.
2006-12-07 00:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no secret someone, and I can't imagine anyone more perfect for me than my wife. So, no, I did not settle. Before I stop, though, I need to take exception to your question, which includes a contradiction. The beginning of the question presumes marriage, but the end of the question asks whether you would leave if you had no responsibility. These two presumptions are mutually exclusive, because a marriage IS a responsibility. You can't separate marriage from responsibility.
2006-12-07 08:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking back at my first marriage, I may have settled but I was young and was running from an unhappy situation at home...now, I know I didn't settle...I have the man I want, the type of man I want and know what I will and will not accept or put up with...sometimes you have to go through it once, to see what you require of a mate, and what you absolutely would never put up with again...
2006-12-07 08:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by ToadysFroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My second marriage was a "settle" and when I accepted that, I realized it wasn't fair to me or my husband. That marriage lasted less than 2 yrs. I learned that lesson...I won't settle again...and I certainly wouldn't want to be settled for.
For some, having someone is better than having no one...for myself, I'd rather be single than settle and do myself and another person such a disservice.
We don't "need" to be married and no one can "make" us happy but ourselves...when more people realize that, they'll stop using marriage/relationships to try to fix their lives and do what it takes to right whatever is wrong, themselves.
2006-12-07 08:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was the perfect match, but at 18 I was just ru nning from other issues. My kids are now almost all grown and if Mr. Right came along I hate to say it but I would go.
2006-12-07 16:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by pat1268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm polyamorous, so if the perfect someone popped into my life, then I'd have two people I love in my life. I love my wife, why would I want to leave her.
Same with my wife, if she found a perfect someone.
2006-12-07 08:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! Then you regret it the rest of your life wandering what it would have been like if you truly had waited on your soulmate!
2006-12-07 08:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are men or women who do that. It need not be always.Better to be aware of that and safeguard the mrrige.
2006-12-07 08:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kumari V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do. We settle for less loneliness.
2006-12-07 08:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋