Can I put my baby up for adoption if I'm not ready to parent?
2006-12-06 23:52:02 · 46 answers · asked by shakesha b 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
you could. but hon, you really need to seek out counseling. giving up a child is a HUGE decision, and can be heartbreaking if your not mentally and emotionally prepared for it!
contact an adoption agency and tell them you would like to know more about the process and see if they offer any support groups for potential birth mothers.
15 is VERY young to have to "grow up" and become a mother. keep all your options open until your right with your final decision in your heart!
2006-12-07 07:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if ur only 15 and ur not ready to be a parent than adoption is the answer... but remember if u do a closed adoption u will have no contact with that cbhild until he or she is 18 at the earliest, open adoption is best expecially when ur so young 10 years form now u might want to be a parent and atleast with an open adoption u can still be a parental role with that child... If you dont want to have a child at 15 than u shouldnt b having sex because becomming a parent is always a chance if ur having sex.. maybe next time u should use protection, and the pill... u need to protect urself u cant keep letting this happen to u if ur not ready... its nto just u ur hurting, how does the father of this baby feel? and ur parents?n his parents? how will u feel after carrying that baby for 9 mths than just giving it away... but yes if ur not ready that give it up for adoption n think twice or more before u have sex again!
2006-12-10 09:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a hard choice to make, but I think that the fact that you have to ask the question shows that you already love that baby. I guess it depends on how hard you are willing to work to give your baby a good life. I can't say that I was in the same situation as you, but when I found out I was expecting my son, I was terrified, but the very second I gave birth to him I felt a love that I never knew was possible and my entire outlook on life changed. I do know that if you decide to go through with an adoption, you should try to do some research into private adoptions where maybe you would still able to watch him or her grow up! Otherwise, you might find yourself regretting the decision. I strongly suggest that you look into some kind of counseling and really decide what you think is the best decision you can make for that baby! Best of luck to both of you... WHATEVER YOU decide!
2006-12-10 21:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by semisweetened 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. There are millions of parents out there that want kids but don't have them. If you are strong enough to know that you can't take care of your child than you are a very smart person. Adoption is the best answer, and, unlike abortion, at some point in your life your child may choose to find you and create a relationship with you. The best thing to do would be to either find an adoption agency that deals with patients secretly, or have a lawyer who is skilled in the field aid you on the way to adoption. And you best bet is to have the family ready before the child is born so that you have no real time to get close to him/her and will know that the family is a good and safe one.
2006-12-07 03:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can put a baby up for adoption if you are not ready to have a child. Adoption is much different now then what it was years ago. You can chose to do an open adoption where you get pictures and updates on the child and in some cases even still get to see the child from time to time. Also you get to interview and chose the parents for your child.
Please be aware this could be one of the best yet hardest decisions you will ever make. I foudn in my own experience that just receiving pictures and letters from the family that I chose for the child I gave up much easier than having contact on a regular basis.
In whatever decision you make good luck!
2006-12-07 01:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by strawberryblonde131313 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THINK IT THRU!! Being a teen mom is hard ( I had my son at 16) but I think it is worth every second .. I still live at home with my parents and they help me out and me and the baby's father are still together and it's still hard but I love being a mom everytime I see his smile it makes everything worth while!
If you really aren't ready to be a parent and the father of the baby feels the same way yes give the baby up for adoption I am so happy that you at least ruled out haveing an abortion ... there are so many people who want children and can't have them so they have to adopt.. and I really do not understand people who have abortions THAT IS MURDER as soon as the sperm meets the egg .. it's a baby!! whether they like to admit it or not .. but If you really are not ready and don't have a good support system ( like parents that can help you) then give the baby a chance and give him/her up for adoption make sure you think long and hard about it because once you give your baby up you can't get him/her back good luck tho ... where I live there is a place called st. martin's manor where pregnant teens or teen moms can go and you can live there and they have a school and daycare there.. You can apply for mother's allowance to help you with money ... look into all your options! dont make a rush descion
2006-12-07 03:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can if you believe that you are not ready to be a parent. Just remember, that if you want to have kids one day you might feel guilty when you do have those other kids. Adoption might be stressful on you because you may wonder whoès getting your child, and where they are and what they are doing. Because once you give birth to this child, you'll feel tied to them.
Adoption is one option. Make sure you talk to the person you had sex with first about your decision, and anyone you trust with this issue like your parents.
2006-12-07 00:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by mellybee4321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the baby up for adoption, there are millions of people looking for babies, including me and my husband. You can go with an agency that has open adoption policies. Some adoptive parents will agree to sending you pitcures of the child as it grows, some will even let you be a part of his/her life. Contact area agencies and talk to them. You will be able to find a situation that you can live with and that will be in the best interest of the child.
2006-12-07 04:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are thinking like an adult instead of just erasing it with abortion. You will feel good that you gave your baby a good home to someone that can financially and mentally raising your baby. If you would like to be a part of the baby's life you can consider an open adoption where the parents agree to let you visit and see the child on certain days. It will make you feel better. First discuss it with anyone who matters and see what they think but only you know what is best for your child. Good luck and once again don't feel bad...You are thinking like an adult when you thought of that option instead of abortion. And I am sure you will get people saying "you should have thought of that when you were having sex" and whatever but baby everyone is entitled to their mistakes. Just take that as a learned lesson. Blessings.
2006-12-07 02:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I was a 17 year old mother i am now 31 and for me It was hard but i had allot of help for me i do not think that adoption is the way to go in less you think that you cannot handle it but you also have to think how that kid is going to feel when it gets older in less they do not tell him or her but if she/he finds out that they have a parent out there and they where given up they might take that hard my real dad has been out of the picture for over 30 years and i hired a pi to find him and she did that was 2 months ago still no reply i am mad beyond mad that i spent the 240 dollars and he still will not talk to me i should of left things as they where but i have to now and if your child is anything like me she will look for the answers on why so be prepared
2006-12-10 20:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can and it would probably be the best thing for you and the baby. just think about it, what kind of life do you think you can give this baby? your only 15 and giving the baby up for adoption is the most unselfish thing to do. besides you need to finish school and make something of your self before you decide to take on a baby. if you do this i'm betting you will look back in about 10 years and be so great full you did what you did. i really wish you the best.
2006-12-07 04:55:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋