Hey friends, why is that a girl has to feel all the pain. Starting from the time of pubery, then sex, and then pregnancy, why should the girl only feel the pain. I am still 21 and i love my gf a lot. Even when a boy leaves a girl the girl's heart and mind is hurt but it leaves no effect on the boy what so ever?
Is there anything in which the boy feels the pain and the girl doesn't?
Why should girls face all the trouble?
What are the ways in which we can help them out?
Support, love, care, affection, security, how??
How can we make them feel comfortable?
How can we leesen their pain?
2006-12-06 22:58:51 · 10 answers · asked by AB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i want to know your views, not whats written somewhere else...
2006-12-06 23:03:27 · update #1
Really surprised to know that there are guys like you who think so much about girls [women].
The main reason of our pain is the presence of man/ men in our lives.
You can not do anything about the physical pains. You have to look at it with a positive attitude, like god felt that a woman is more capable than the man, there fore we have the ability to reproduce. I don't think any female will complain about that pain, after holding her baby in her hands.
But about the mental pains, yes you can definately help us by showing better understanding & expressing your love & gratitude towards us.
We just seek love, attention, care, respect & understanding.
That should be much more than sufficient.
Many guys don't understand this simple thing & that is why the pain.
Your question is: Is there anything in which the boy feels the pain and the girl doesn't?
Yes ! Defeat. A girl can overcome a defeat in a relationship, but not a guy.
may god bless you & your relationship & i must say that your GF is really lucky to have a life partner like you.
2006-12-06 23:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by ulkakalhapure 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You seem like a very loving and caring person to think like that. Good on you.
Regarding a boy leaves a girl, the girl feels hurt but the boy doesn't, I don't think that's true all the time. In general, the person who is left by another is the one who suffers the most hurt. This applies also for the case if a girl leaves a boy - the boy is likely to experience the hurt rather than the girl. However, sometimes a boy might leave a girl because the girl has disappointed him (for instance, cheated on him), but he may still love the girl. In this case, I'm sure he would feel very troubled and hurt despite being the one leaving the girl. My point is, it is not that boys do not ever get hurt from girls...
How can you lessen your girlfriend's pain or make her more comfortable? By
*supporting her in all that she does and supporting especially her decisions
*making her feel loved even when she is not the best that she could be (e.g. sometimes girls can be so moody...)
*letting her feel that there is someone (you) who would always care about her
*showing her you affections
*making her feel secure that you are always there for her
She sounds like a lucky gal to have you. Be all of that to her, but just be careful don't spoilt her too much :P
2006-12-06 23:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lilliana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright fellas, you want the BIG SECRET about women?
Women are more empathetic. Its just that simple. There are more women vegetarians, we dont generally hunt alot, we tend to not find violence amusing, and that we've accepted as a role in the universe. We're caretakers, providers of love, mothers, unlike men who are the protectors. Sure, i dont like the roles either, and may be an unusual case for women, but i too still feel that empathy, and the mothering.
It IS a crappy deal that we have menopause, pregnancy, menstration and breast cancer to look foreward too, that our bodies look older faster, that we deal with a lot of physical pain our whole lives. (which could be why were so empathetic as a sex.)
But no matter how much that sucks, we deal with it.
What WOULD be nice, is if men stopped blaming bad moods on pms (we are capable of anger out side of menstration). But a little bit of understanding, support would be nice. Its uncomfortable. Its painful. And all a man cares about is not being able to have sex for 5 days?
Just show some simpathy men, thats all we ever wanted from you.
The big secret about women is tied with this;
You want to keep a woman happy, you want to alleviate her pain? Than try to understand it. Show affection, show simpathy, show legitimate understanding.
I told my boyfriend a couple days ago after he made a simple affectionate gesture that "if you want to keep me happy, dont stop doing that."
And that is all it takes. Affection, and empathy.
2006-12-06 23:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is how God has made things to be. For sex it can be lessen by a way of the men preparing the women adequately enough to be lubricated before penetration, the up and down movement during sex shd be done slowly and gently. For pregenancy it is punishment from God for allowing the snake or devil to deceive us in eating the fruit we were forbidden in the garden of eden. For the pain to lessen we need special grace from God but my good friend it is not that bad. Women suffer alot after break ups cos we enter the relationship with all our heart and some get their virginity broken so it really hates. But we will over come it my dear. We just have to learn that even marriages gets broken so we have to be taken by surprises. Treat your girl with respect and be there for her when she needs you.
2006-12-06 23:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Queeny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think girls feel most of the pain because they can inherently bear the pain. And the joys of motherhood are worth the trouble.
i'll tell u wen almost any boy will feel the pain...wen his girl is 'physically' unfaithful to him...
apart from this, i personally believe that there are men who are sensitive, so it's not that only a girl gets hurt wen a relationship ends...guys get devastated too(if they were in the relationship for real)..they just aren't very expressive about it.
and as to how to make it easier for us? support and understanding and care...that'll do perfectly. Btw, you are more sensitive than most other fellas, so your girl is one lucky dame ^_~
2006-12-07 16:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by jaded angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude because guys are the ones that have to deal with getting wood while in class and when the teacher calls them they cant get up cuzz if they do them dang theyl lose there manly ness. and its proven girls are more able to withstand pain haha lol dude iono ur some freak guy ahah lol but its kool though ahahha lol but guys have to just make the probs for the gals to solve!! we give the seeds the girls juice it up and there u got a nice bebe!!! ahah well to me i have probs of such and there are many wayse but theres only one witch is the best answer give them time and dont annoy them seriously and u know waht waht are u worried about jsut chill this isnt ur problem to fix u got ur own ahem bills thats the main male roll is the male supports the female!!
2006-12-06 23:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is so sweet !
well...you can always love them to death...but i think the thing is that a lot of guys think that they're so strong cuz they're guys...but women are stronger. we're patient, and we always support our man in times of need!
2006-12-07 08:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Heera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess thats the way God intended it to be!And even though we hurt a lot,we dont die from it.
It only makes us stronger!We dont need any man to make us feel better.We do that on our own.
2006-12-06 23:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
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2006-12-06 23:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Amit n 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-07 02:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by icy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋