me. I'm an ongoing temp, and I try so hard to make conversation where I am. In particular, there's one who excludes me all day long. I've tried, "That's a pretty umbrella. How did your appraisal go? Do you have quite a journey to and fro work?" Nothing I do works. She talks within the 'group' of other permanent secretaries. She's nice with them, but treats me cold and off-hand. Shall I just let the conversation come from her/them now, as I've tried.
2006-12-06 22:41:57 · 16 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
She's not worth your effort. She seems completely content with being a snob-nosed jerk. Just let it go. If she approaches you, be as straight-polite and civil as possible, nothing more.
2006-12-06 22:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem all the time when I was a temp. Basically the general consensus is that temps are low lives, not worthy of a permanent contract. Some people are really snobby like that and actually in most of the companies I worked at as a temp, most of the stuff that went wrong was blamed on me. 'Oh the temp must have done it', or 'the temp doesn't know what she was doing'... Actually I was more than capable of doing my job, which is why I was asked to train people over them. I'm afraid there isn't much you can do, it seems as though you have been nice enough to her, if she still wants to be nasty to you, then ignore her from now on, she's not worth your time. She's probably just scared they'll find out you are better than she is and give you her job!!!
2006-12-07 06:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have tried your best. When I used to temp years ago, it was the same then. I think it's because they know that you are not going to be there permanent and it's pointless striking up any kind of relationship, which I think is wrong. It makes you feel uncomfortable, but do not take it personally. Maybe she's jealous because she hasn't got the b***s to temp. I think it takes a certain kind of person to do this job, different places, different people, different ways of working and not everyone can do that. You sound like a very nice, personable person and this would be wasted on her anyway. Good luck in your future positions and Merry Xmas. x
2006-12-07 07:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Somer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. Perm staff are horrible to temps sometimes, usually because they are petty small people who feel threatened by your presence; shes probably terrified your doing a better job than her and you or someone like you will replace her. As her behaviour has nothing to do with your behaviour you should just maintain your dignity and keep doing a good job while being friendly with the nice people in the office who will see her for what she is.
I know its awful when someone doesnt like you and the first thing you want to do is change something about yourself but her behaviour is pathetic for an adult, and you should remember that her opinion of you says nothing about you but a great deal about her.
2006-12-07 16:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have identified your own problem, i.e. that you are perhaps trying TOO hard? Try and relax, get on with your job as well as you can, and continue to smile and be charming to your colleagues. One issue at work is often the inevitable them and us mentality, i.e. unfair as this seems, you are being rejected because you are an agency secretary, and they often don't stay for very long. Perhaps you should apply for the job of permanent secretary if it comes up and see if their attitude changes if you get it.
2006-12-07 06:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Eleanora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your place, I think I would back off a little. While of course you don't want to be rude, don't try quite as hard. Just be polite and courteous toward her, and enjoy your associations with others in your area. She may see you as a threat, or it may simply be that she doesn't feel compatible with you. In any case, you know that you've done your best, so beyond simple courtesy and politeness, let her make the next move, if any.
2006-12-07 06:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very insecure. Imagine your situations swapped with her as the temp trying to fit into an established group. She probably wouldn't do half as well as you.
Next time she blanks you, imagine her sitting wearing nothing but some hideous underwear and allow yourself to snigger at the image. Every second you spend trying to make friends with her is just fueling her overindulged, bullying ego. Forget her and look around for someone else to talk to.
2006-12-07 07:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by jansahar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a doze of Snobbery - that goes on with most Permanent members of staff and the Temps.. If I see that happening in my firm - I tend to spend a bit more time welcoming the Temp's & involving them as much as the Permanent members of staff - and my staff know - if they dont get on - they dont get a Job... I would advise you to just get on with it and smile .. dont let one horrible bimbo get to you.. Good Luck..
2006-12-07 06:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading everyone else's answers I'm going to suggest something different.
Be even more obvious. When she goes to lunch, ask if you can join her. Ask her if she'd like to do anything with you at the weekend. Just force her to be friends with you.
And good luck. Don't give in though.
2006-12-07 06:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Katri-Mills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, she really doesn't sound like someone I would want to know. Don't bother with her. Stop talking to her and don't let it bother you. Why do you want to be pals with her so much? Some females can be such bitches. Concentrate on your real pals and just do your days work and leave. She sounds like a right **** and people will realise that.
2006-12-07 06:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by rondavous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋