I am 25 weeks pregnant and i had a reallt bad experience with my other child who is now 3 he was in special care for breathing problems and i cant stop worrying that it will happen again. I really am worried because from the start of this pregnancy i have had this feeling that somthing is not right but all the scans havent showed up any thing but please has anyone else had this problem.
2006-12-06 21:58:06 · 11 answers · asked by rachrara 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i had my little boy three months early and will be terrified when i try again. every pregnancy is different and you have to remind yourself of this. you are bound to be paranoid with this one, i know exactly what you went through but it doesn't mean it will happen again, just relax, or at least try to.think of this pregnancy as a happy one and at the end of it you will give birth and hold your precious boy or girl with no problem or fears. keep hold of that thought. stress isn't good for you or the baby. the doctor/midwife will have been even more thorough with this baby knowing what happened last time. Enjoy it and good luck!
2006-12-06 22:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me.... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're bound to be worried. My little boy was born with a kidney problem and was in hospital being treated for a couple of weeks after he was born. I know when I have another child which I intend to do one day, I'll worry about the same thing happening.
You want the best start in life for all of children, and if you're anything like me, you'll have wondered whether it was something you did or didn't do that caused the problem. All I can say is that the chances of the same thing happening again are slim, particularly if the doctors have not said that the problem is genetic.
The way you can give you baby the best start to life is to make sure you are happy and healthy throughout your pregnancy. Try to relax and not worry too much about what may or may not happen.
Good luck. I hope everything works out well for you. I'm sure it will. x
2006-12-06 22:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Gail H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, but you have to STOP worrying. It isnt going to help at all is it? The scans seem alright, so calm down, do some deep breathing, convince yourself its alright and not all wrong. Enjoy your pregnancy, you have a long time still to go. Make it fun.Bet everything will be o.k. and even if there is the problem that occurred with your other child, I presume he is o.k. now isnt he? and 3 years have gone by and new medical research is being done all the time. Your new baby will be just fine, Make the remaining weeks a happy time for you and yours. Good luck. You and the baby will be alright.
2006-12-06 22:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Daydreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I had this fear even without a past experience like yours. I was convinced something was wrong, or that I would miscarry with my daughter- I just knew it with out any doubt in my mind.
And about two years on, I have my baby girl, she's 19 months old and there isn't anything wrong with her other than eczema and the occasional allergic reaction to something she's eaten...but I didn't lose her. I could have saved myself all that worrying and stress.
You're in a more vulnerable situation though, you know what you went through with your first child and know that it might happen again...but here's the positive side: It might NOT happen. Think more positively and you may feel less stressed and if, in the unfortunate, but unlikely, event that it does happen again, you will be strong enough to deal with it.
Please calm down and enjoy your pregnancy...although I know that's a lot easier said than done :)
2006-12-06 23:17:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.cdc.gov check this site out for all your worries of HIV or STD. You need to see a therapist, counselor or psychiatrist for your phobia of germs/diseases. Btw, HIV isn't the only contagious std to worry about you have to worry of Herpes, hepatitis, mad cow disease, blue flu, e coli and the list goes on forever. You need to seek help for your paranoia for it will get worse granted you're 16. HIV doesn't show up for years unless you have a low immune system then it would be 3-6 months. If you're so worried of getting STD and you're 16 this would be a hard lesson learn. Keep your drawers closed if you cannot stand the heat. Don't have sex is what I am trying to say. Young teens just assume that your young immune system will not be infected with STD but sorry it can affect you. Don't be in such a hurry to have sex. Btw, you can still contract std by skin to skin. Just go to this website and all your worries will be maintained not cured. You can only fix your own worries not other people. I have a fear of contracting hiv or other std but I did contracted herpes from my exhubby who stated he never had sex with any other person but he was wrong so I caught it last year. Yes, I am 46 and know exactly what I am saying so NO ONE place a thumbs down cause the truth hurts. If you're going to play than you pay the price...I had to learn the hard way and now I am stricken with it. Btw, herpes is another form of chicken pox and ringworms have a similiar affect of being contagious so basically no disease is safe. Go to this website and it will explain all the diseases in this earth we live. It doesn't affect only New Orleans or Africa it's happening every where even newborns are getting Aids/Hiv and other contagious diseases. Just educate yourself and be alert. Even condoms can protect but doesn't guarantee against Aids/Hiv or Herpes and HPV. Just be wise and know the truth...
2016-03-28 21:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only natural to worry about your baby especially since you have had another child with health problems. Try to be optimistic this baby could be totally different. Tell yourself there's just as big a chance things could be fine as not and if this baby has any problems you'll deal with that when the time comes.
2006-12-06 22:05:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the odds of your second child having problems like your first are slim... medicine has come along way in the last 20 yrs and if they are not finding anything wrong - than there probably isn't anything to worry about. Be specific w/your questions to your doctor, however, let them know your concerns and perhaps there is a more specific test that can be done to relieve your mind.
2006-12-06 22:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was worried too. I thought I miscary as well. Sometimes I ended up crying with so much pain in my heart BUT I started praying and ask God to protect my baby. Now I have my beautiful girl who's 3&half months and she's absolutely healthy. Her weight at birth was 4 kg 240gr. Everyone was so shocked cause I'm so tiny myself they couldn't believe how I could possibly had her inside me =) Now I just thank God everyday for His best blessing ever.
Just be positive& don't worry too much (It's not good for you or baby and they can feel your mood). Pray cause it gives you hope&strenth. God bless you.
2006-12-07 11:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya luv, i can only imagine hoe your feeling, i am only only pregnant for the 1st time but i have never been so scared in my life what if this wrong what if that is, we just need to think positive and think of the best. i hope more than anything you don't have the same problem this time around. good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxx
2006-12-06 22:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't beat yourself up you will be fine just enjoy being pregnant otherwise you will make yourself ill....
2006-12-07 07:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋