I have been trying to conceive since January 1995. What is wrong with me? I am sick and tired of waiting......

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... and waiting and waiting endlessly for something to happen! Why do I have to wait over a decade before I can start a family?!? I am in my mid-thirties now. Is it too late for me? Have I missed the boat, so to speak? It`s so unfair too! I am in a stable, loving and long-lasting relationship and my partner understandably wants to have children with me! He wants a family and I am terribly afraid that he is going to leave me for someone younger and not so barren who will be able to give him children. What am I doing wrong? I saw a doctor a few years ago who did some fertility tests on me and he told me at the time that I was effectively ovulating so what is the problem?!? Do any of you have been through the same hardship as I have?All I ever wanted was a family of my own, ever since I was a little girl. Having a successful career never really appealed to me so instead I dedicated all my time on trying to have children and not concentrating on a career and now I have neither!PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

I have been reading the responses thus far and I have to admit that everyone has given you great advice and hope. I also agree that your partner needs to be checked because the problem may lie with him. My husband and I are also going through a similar situation. He had a vasectomy reversal done last year that did not work unfortunately. I am 38 and he is 41 (he has 2 kids from previous marriage). But we are looking into other options. Don't let your age discourage you. I have been hearing that 40 is the new 30 and people are living longer and as long as you are healthy and in the right state of mind, you will be a wonderful parent regardless if it happens at 25, 35 or 40. The main hurdle to cross is determining the fertility issue and remaining positive. I know it sounds easy but remember, when you do fall pregnant ( and you will) you will be able to share your wonderful testimony with others who may have to stumble on this path. Good luck to you and your husband and next year this time, I predict you will be buying toys for the Holidays!

Answer 2

I was exactly the same as you. I had wanted children since I was a child. I was the one who would rather babysit other peoples children than go out having fun. We were trying for over 4 years before we sought medical help. We both had various tests at our Doctors and we were referred to a hospital. We were told we would need IVF to conceive a child of our own. The first time we had it was a year ago and it failed and it was so hard to deal with but you have to pick yourself up and get on with life. We have recently had another go and I am 4 days late on my period so fingers crossed. I know what you are going through is so hard. I would reccomend that you and your partner go to your Doctors and asked to be reffered. You are still young, dont put it off for too long though as you may regret it.
The problem could be something and nothing. No one here can tell you what the problem is, you really should go and see a Doctor. I really feel for you as I know exactly what you are going through.

Wishing you the best of luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Have you checked your partner's sperm count?

You're desperate (and I don't blame you - 12 years waiting for a baby is a long time), so you need to get the ball rolling on a more aggressive approach to conceiving. This is going to include getting a fertility specialist, having tests done, buying fertility monitors and ovulation strips, etc; the whole enchilada. You may need to eventually look into in-vitro fertilization as well.

Mid-30's still leaves plenty enough time to conceive, but you really don't have another 12 years to wait and see if it happens for you either.

Best of luck (and deep breaths!)

Answer 4

Has your partner had any fertility tests yet? If not, that may be where the problem lies. If you have been having sex at the right times and you are ovulating ok and are healthy then there shouldn't be a problem with conceiving. If your partner hasn't been tested yet I would try discussing this with him to see if there is anything wrong on that side of things

Good Luck! x

Answer 5

First of all relax! stress itself and trying to hard can actually delay you getting pregnant. 10 years is a long time to be trying with no success. as far as your age don't sweat it. I'm 35 and about to give birth to my fourth child. There are much older woman out there getting pregnant. You said you were examined by a Dr a few years ago, Time for another one dear, a lot can change over even a short period of time. Its possible you could have cysts or endometrosis that can put a damper on the process. Are you taking any medications for chronicle conditions? Medications can also put the halts on getting pregnant. Has your significant other been tested on his fertility. problem may actually be within him. My former sister in law tried for years to get pregnant. She had cysts, endo, and was on medication but low and behold after she stopped trying (due to a divorce) Her and her new man got pregnant instantly! she now has a girl. problem was with her ex as well as her own stress. Good luck and stop worrying about your ticker going out. As long as you are having your periods still then you are set to go!

Answer 6

i `ve been there, so -go back to Doctor -get some clomid-or you can try to do it yourself.get an ovulation predictor kit.do not have sex-YOUR HUSBAND-needs to build up his sperm. it`s really hard to know when you`re ovulating-so wait for the big day.then go at it like rabbits! your husband needs to be on top,put pillows underneath your hips,do not get up ,for up to 30 min. you`re just the right age!!since you`ve been together so long-you two will be GREAT parents,

Answer 7

First off have you went to seek profesional help in anyway and also if your partner is caring enough toward you then the fact of just being with you should be more then enough for him to stick around

Answer 8

i'm 24 and on no account had a girl chum and that i completely sense your discomfort and greater. terrific element you're able to do is; do issues to improve your self assurance. in case you think of you may shape up, hit the gymnasium. in case you think of you won't manage to talk to females, connect a club or some thing to get conversing to women folk and men. it relatively is a lot much less confusing once you ain't one on one and it relatively is greater casual. starting to be a member of golf equipment is likewise an excellent thank you to fulfill females with comparable pursuits. additionally cyber web courting is powerful (yet do no longer complication while ninety 9% do no longer respond-females get bombarded with terrible sexist messages and it relatively is confusing for them to discover mail well worth analyzing) i'm on the upswing i think of. I had my first certainly date final twelve months(no longer something befell yet nonetheless a stable self assurance improve) in case you think in Karma purely think of of it as saving up your Karma for some thing astonishing! in case you get each thing you elect at as quickly as away you do no longer take excitement in it. So being a late bloomer will interior the long-term make you greater achievement finished in relationships, considering you will fairly cope with a girl appropriate, which maximum men purely dont do and you will adore it. ever observe how the lady chum successfull men are so blasay related to the full element and don't realy provide a ****? consistent with danger i'm no longer the terrific one to talk yet i conflict with the aid of it. it relatively is troublesome going yet you basically gotta save attempting.

Answer 9

has your partner ever seen a specialist because it could be him and not u. they have excellent fertility dr. nowadays, go see one of them. they might be able to do ivf.