I have had people saying I'm a crap person on here because I'm complaining about my partner working too much. What is more important money or family time? If our life was perfect before, why should I just put up with him spoiling it? I have enough money to pay the mortgage and food shopping working part time, so why does he want to work nearly 50 hours a week in a factory working nights? He's miserable becasue he's too proud for me to work full time. I have better qualifications. Am I a bad person for actually wanting to go out once in a while instead of being alone and never even seeing my partner? When he has days off he goes out for hours. I used to be the type who wanted to spend all my time with my partner but he doesn't like that. People are saying I'm ungrateful, but my dad worked so much he had to retire at 40 and his dad worked so much then died when he was 49. I would rather work to live than live to work. My children come first and they had everything before.
2006-12-06 21:49:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yeah I think he would rather be in work than spend time with me, we don't argue because we hardly see each other, I don't like to argue infront of the kids. Perhaps I should of waited a little longer before having kids. I didn't have them so they would never see their dad, he's lost a stone in a month, he's 6'2'' and 140 lbs, I don't want them to lose their father because he wanted more cash. We haven't even got a credit card or any loans, our financial situation was perfect. When I think of him 'Scrooge' comes to mind. I'm not materialistic and I didn't fall in love with him for his money.
2006-12-06 22:25:32 · update #1
snotty nosed kids! He loves his kids, he wanted the kids. I'm bored not him, I don't moan at him cos I never see him. When I do see him, he's constantly complaining about everything. You say he's a man but I want to go out, I want to have a life and he is the one trapping me in the relationship, not the kids, he's made evrything difficult because he makes bad choices. He could have a bloody fantastic life if he didn't chose to do a stupid job. I never stop him going out, it's the other way around! Se there we are again making assumptions, he's more of a woman than me!
2006-12-06 23:32:41 · update #2
I think the fact that your part time job can cover the mortgage and food shopping and your obviously being paid well is probably whats making him work all the hours, maybe his pride is making him show you that he can bring home the bacon even tho he's going overboard with the amount of hours he's doing. Your gonna have to sit him down and talk, explain your concerns.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 05:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, didnt see any of your previous questons, but dont worry about what some people say on here. You are def not a crap person. There are lots of weirdos and horrible people on here who are not prepared to give a considered answer, but just type out something negative and send it without considering how it affects the other person.
I agree with you that family time is more important than money. If you have enough money, as you say you do, then def the family should come first. Children grow up and you can never get that time again with them.
Also its very important that couples spend time together.
Take care,
Faith x
2006-12-06 21:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Family first.
I suggest you try talking to him again but try not to argue. Just tell him exactly what you just said here about your father and his father and your kids.
I know it can't always be fun, we all have to work hard but get him to start by having one afternoon or evening a week that is "family time" and work is not allowed to be mentioned or take preference over that allotted time.
He'll have so much fun and realise what he is missing, my guess is you'll soon see him around more.
Good luck
xxx
2006-12-06 21:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i completely understand you..my husband has worked 7 days a week for 15 years..it drives me mad but i know that he sees money as security and because of the childhood he had its really important to him to make sure that all our children want for nothing and to be able to give them a hand up when they become adults...for this i admire him more than anyone ,but i would like him home more.
2006-12-06 21:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' sounds like he is bored in this relationship. Probably a dead ens for him, crap job, moaning and ungrateful missus and snotty nosed kids. Man who can blame the poor guy, he is in man hell!
2006-12-06 22:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that you are wrong i just think you definatley need to talk to him properly. he has to see your prespective. or come up with a plan for compromise, like he can only do this for the next 5 years or something, so you have enough money, but it will not be forever he is working, you know, short term loss for long term gain. good luck, x
2006-12-06 21:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu should be important to him and he should find time to be with you. Maybe he works that much because he doesn't want to be around you.
2006-12-06 22:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋