What the point of being alive? I try to make my life better, but no matter how hard I try nothing works...?

Question

I am out of work on disability, single mom, and trying very hard to cope... I just feel I am at rock bottom. I just want to know what's the point? I'm still around because of the kids... I've been to therapy and did the anti-depression route, but I still feel that I'm going nowhere in my life. I know I'm depressed, but when you don't have anything to look forward to... what's the point going on?

Answer 1

Rock bottom? Nowhere to go but up, besides I think you answered your own question, you keep going because of the kids, that's a good point. Raise them proper and do your best and they may take care of you when you get old, and give you grandchildren.

Answer 2

hey U answered ur own question! U r arround because of the kids!
U r not the only one with disability and trying very hard to cope with everything. just remember there r people in this world who r worse off! and they are still carrying on. Why don't u think of nature for a change - after every night a morning will come.
get ovr ur depressions! tht's what is killing u. through the drugs and therapy out. go out if u can! life is too precious to brood over things bad!

Answer 3

i think the same thing often.i'm 48 years old now. i think its good in a way to go a little way to the thought.example: if ya dont hurt once in a while.you cant appreciate feeling good. sit back and think a bit....you might see you a little bit different.what ever you want for you....pick a speed, and move that way.i developed a little patience,but its hard for me to go slow.goals are difficult. dont let all these little fights get you.shorter days suck too.i'm trying a flourescent ultra violet light in my room and such. it makes a difference. ( my personal choice:i lost the "D" werd i put the werd "busy" in it's place).i ride a bicycle about 20 miles a day, 6 days a week to work.2 months now i make a 30 min. run and a 20 minute run home.i have or had back and foot problemsand circulation problems.i am not feeling weak or hurt in any way physically.when i bust my *** riding that bikei'm a strong ****er.and i dont have any problem thoughts.its a small period of time i build on. i hope something helps . good luck. you can write me if you want. no problem.: )

Answer 4

I will not take your time but want to say, no one could help you unless you accept in your subconscious mind that you want a real change. And your life will be changed I can guarantee you this. I have done it.

Now what the point of being alive? I don't know if you are religious or not. We are not made just for eat and sleep we have a purpose of life. I give you my example. Several years back I lost my elbow and arm of one hand in an accident. Due to that work is too hard for me but I know that unless I accept it I can not do it no one will hep me. I never give up. Then I got car accident and hurt my neck. Then recently got both hand burned. I have to do all work myself even that I never give up.

You talked about disability, if I tell you about my problem you will be surprised too like others but that is not point here.

Whenever I suffer I do not look up, I look at those who are worst than me which give me strength. And I take control of my problems by mind control, meditation and other things.
Life without problem is not interesting, our life is interesting because of problems. Life is same like a game. Have to achieve target by escaping attacks.

When we will die after some days people will forget, but if we have done something for people there will be some who will remember us. Choice is on us what to do.

Answer 5

U are a great mum.Instead of ending your life ,u had this "will' 2 take on the pressure and be there 4 your kids.Why not continue this "will" that u have and increase your self-esteem.Everything has a reason and everything has an answer.Depression is juz a word that changes your mindset. Get clear of what u are doing or want 2 do and get going.If you're letting it past as time goes by it will worsen. Hope everything goes well 4 u and your children.

Answer 6

Yep, you do have it hard and at times it must seem pointless; but its not. Believe me. You do have your children. Imagine what life, grim as it is now, would be for them if you did go. Would you want to see them in community care until they are adults? No parent would.

But, in order for you to be around for them, you have got to be happier. That is a harder but one way to approach it is to live only in the present: don't even think, never mind worry about the future. You wouldn't believe how much people worry about events that probably will never happen. Especially when one it down, everything to come looks hopeless. It isn't, but that is not the point. Concern yourself with only that you can control, can attend to right now and forget the rest.

Don't dwell in the past either. We all make mistakes and have to live with their consequences. But its done. We start from where we are now.

Every evening decide what you need to attend to the next day and then when you get up, do the things you have planned. Repeat the cycle daily. You will be surprised that after a few months life may not be as bad as it once looked. Good luck.

Answer 7

Sometimes times are so tough we can't see past the nose on our face. It is Christmas...I work in an ER, unfortunately we see too much tragedy this time of year. You can't know how important a person's life is to others until you see those faced with the pain of losing a loved one, especially a parent or child. What matters is not how you fair in life, but in what you leave behind. There will always be some of us left. Part of you will carry on in your children, and they will pass it on to their children who in turn will pass it on...and so on. You don't want to leave them with a "surrender". Don't let them think that it is ok to let the world win. Teach them to fight despite their obstacles. So, they may have to do without every once in a while. We have all had to make sacrifices. I remember a Christmas or two (probably more) where I did not have much more than fruit in a stocking. Do I resent my parents for that? Absolutely not, because in the meantime we were taught that being together was what was most important...and it is. And I appreaciate all those times of togetherness now that I am getting older, and I am ready to start my own family. Having love, the ability to love and be loved is what is important. Don't allow your focus to shift on what you have or don't have, what you can or can't do....believe in yourself, believe in your children...and carry on.

The point in going on? Finishing

Stop trying to win the race and just keep trying to finish it. Eventually you will notice the scenery around you and realize the finish line is not as pretty as what runs along the road.

Things will get better.

P.S. PLEASE don't get into the frame of mind that the only point in living is your children. Your life has as much purpose as theirs do. Too often women get into this mindset, and if (God-forbid) something happened to their children, their problems only get worse. I know this from experience, because when my son passed away...I felt as if I lost my only reason to live. THAT WAS NOT TRUE FOR ME, and IT IS NOT TRUE FOR YOU. Your children are NOT your reason for living, they help...but they are NOT the reason.

You have to find your place. Find your place, and help them find theirs. Focus on a goal, a dream...and work to make it a reality. Be a model of perserverance, and let your children have that to look up to.

Giving up is easy...don't take the easy way out.

Answer 8

You know the story of Joseph and the multi-coloured coat? I'll bet when he was lying all beaten up at the bottom of the well, left to die by his brothers, there's NO WAY he could have thought he'd be the Pharoah's right hand man.

The point is when there is no hope, you hope for hope. Keep going. When you hit rock bottom, there's one thing for sure - things can ONLY get better,simply because there's no lower to go... and they will, slowly. Hang in there.

Answer 9

You have just answered your question!! . The point is your kids!

If you are a believer, God wants to be fruitful and multiply and of course glorify him, and believe in Jesus as your Savior. This life may be miserable for you, but eternity will be so good that you will never regret!

If you don't want to talk about in religious point, you have to look around things that happened to you. They may seem bad, but there are people with worse things. In other words, you are asking about meaning of life when you are down. People often do that. You would not ask if you are at full content of your life.

There are things you have to fight for, struggle for. It is hard, but that is what you are looking for. If you don't want to do it for God, do it for yourself. If you don't want to do it for yourself, do it for your kids!

And teach your kids well. There are things you will regret afterward, hope your kids will learn a good lesson from you.

Answer 10

i'm gonna say it goes BEYOND your kids. if you didn't have any kids at all, your life would still be worth living.

but you have to figure out why for yourself... i've found that when other people have given me "Reasons To Live," they seem great for a bit, but they're not for me. i'm too cynical anyway.

What do you have to offer the world? I mean your kids are important, but what else on top of that? make a list of things you can do and then figure out something different to do to help others that goes along with each trait. Give give give give give, and you shall recieve.