I'm pregnant and I don't know if I can give my baby a good life, should I consider adoption?

Question

I'm 20 years old and I haven't graduated high school. I can't get anything better than minimum wage and I'm unsure if I would even know what I'm doing with my baby. My roomate has said she'll help me out, and my boyfriend says he'll be there too.
Sometimes, I'm sure I'll be able to do it, but other times, I'm not so sure.
Some people have mentioned abortion, I don't believe in it. I couldn't take my child's life just because of my own selfish reasons. It's not the baby's fault. So please stop asking about abortion.

Answer 1

well in the mean time while you are making a decision go see your doctor and start your vitamins. If you cant handle the baby, Adoption is a wonderful idea. There are SO many people out there desperate for a baby. There are also free clinics out there where you can see a doctor for next to nothing. If you dont want to baby, atleast give the baby to someone who does :)

Answer 2

I was pregnant at 15 and dropped out of school shortly after my son was born! I did go back and get my GED the same year I was to graduate high school! Yes, I considered adoption, I was only 15 what was I going to do with a BABY! But, once I sat down and really thought it through with myself, there was no way I could give up this baby. I wasn't even old enough to work so I had no money what so ever! But, this baby is my responsibility and I am going to give it the best life I can and love him forever! Yes I had a mom who helped me out a little but not a whole lot, she said you thought you were old enough to have sex and get pregnant so you are old enough to raise this baby! I think you will do an excellent job at being a parent! Yes I will tell you it is very hard for the first 6 months, after that it gets so much easier. Now 13 years later I couldn't have imagined not knowing my son and thinking he is out there somewhere and he has no idea who I am. But I think you should keep your baby and you will do just fine. The baby doesnt need money, it needs YOU!! Good Luck!! I hope this helped you some. Please consider keeping your baby, you will regret it later in your life when you are ready to have kids!!!

Answer 3

Sweetie, I am 20 years old and I am pregnant too. I fortunately have a husband to help e out in the matter. I understand that you want to give your child the best, every mom does. I understand what you are saying and the decision is yours. I can only tell you what I would do if I were in your shoes. I personally wouldn't give my baby up for adoption, because my baby wouldn't deserve it. I would do the best I could. While you are pregnant you can get a job and save up. While you are doing that you can study for and take you test to get your GED. It all depends on how determined you are to do this, because it doesn't only benefit your baby, but it benefits you as well. Just think about it, talk to the people closest to you. You know that you will have the support of your boyfriend and roommate. But let your boyfriend know ( if this is his child) that it isn't something that he can take lightly. A baby is a big responsibility, that will be there with him and yourself for the rest of your life.

Answer 4

Adoption isn’t about “giving up” your child, and it isn’t about being selfish…adoption is about love. However, remember that the father of the baby has rights to be a parent just as much as you do. Talk it over with him and make the decision together. Get counseling…Planned Parenthood is there to help you find an agency. Go online to the links below and see what kind of parents are out there looking to adopt a baby like yours. Whatever you do (keep or allow someone else the opportunity at parenthood that they otherwise wouldn’t have) remember that your main concern should be your love for the child.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Honey, didn't we already answer this a couple days ago?

Nobody is going to tell you what to do. All we can say is make sure you know what you want.

I gave you Planned Parenthood's number, so that you could get counseling and help with this, but you obviously haven't called it. It's 1-800-230-PLAN.

They can make an appointment with a professional counselor so you can discuss your options. They will get you prenatal care. If you choose adoption they will refer you to a good agency. If you choose to keep it they will refer you to women's help agencies and also the government offices where you can apply for WIC and Medicaid.

Please, please call them. No stranger on the internet can tell you what to do with your life. See one of their counselors, ask for their help, and it will be much easier to decide. I promise you that. They WILL NOT pressure you to get an abortion. Or anything else.

Your care there, the counselor and the prenatal care both, will likely be free since you're still in high school and don't much money. So why not take the help they offer and make things easier on yourself?

I hope you can find the strength to call them. If not perhaps ask your roommate or boyfriend to call for you.

Answer 6

Im 20 too, though I have graduated high school. I have to admit it is scary sometimes thinking about the overwhelming situation we are in, especially in mine everything with me and my boyfriends relationship is going into fourth gear. Anytime I feel overwhelmed, nervous or scared, I think about how my mother instincts will kick in(I mean if 15 yr olds can get them we can to right!?). Like you, I also have a support system close family and friends who will help me when I need it. Who says you cant give your baby a good life? It's rubbish, I know a thirty year old single mother who is taking care of her little girl just fine, and Ive seen this little girl she is so happy and hyper and as normal as any other kid. If single mom's can do it those of us who have great support systems and people who will help us can do it too. I really can't explain it but Id love to talk to you, if you want to email me or add me to your yahoo messanger ...... [e-mail]

Answer 7

I think every child should have mother. One day your gona need someone to help take care of you when your older. Don't expect the baby to come around and do that after you gave him up.

My mother kept me and my sister when her husban walked out on her and left her with out a house and job/car. My sister is now 27 and makes nice loads of cash. I'm going into the army and my mother is now very well setup aswell.

The goverment offers alot of things to help low income mothers with childern. I would do a google on all the benfits that are entittled to a American Citizen.(If Mexicans can get anchor baby money you should be able to too).

I think that your decision about not getting abortion only shows what a good person you are. Yes, A good person for not puting yourself above the baby.

Answer 8

If you don't believe in abortion, you shouldn't do it. I'm pro-choice not pro-abortion. Research as much as you can about adoption. Talk to your boyfriend and your family about it. Planned Parenthood can also hope you out finding resources and support for adoption as well as prenatal care. It's a big decision to make, but you've got time to do it. Good luck!

Answer 9

Adoption might be great option--kudos to you for not wanting to abort your baby. Many people will promise you support but when the baby is there, you'll find yourself stuck...try to research online and in your neighborhood about adoption centers/organizations. Good luck.

Answer 10

A friend of mine did open adoption with her son. She is still a very big part of his life, and has a wonderful relationship with the adoptive parents. She says that it was the best decision that she ever could have made.