Got cheated in arranged marriage.How do I teach him a lesson?

Question

I got married in 2005 april, he was completely a stranger to me until marriage.As i was casually speaking to him i told him about my nerves problem wich i had faced during college days,which was completely cured.Keeping this in mind he started torturing me.My marriage life was only seven days which was a hell.Then he left me for no reason.I tried to convense him a lot but he didn't agree n left me.I want to teach him a lesson.How do I?

Answer 1

Best course for you is to file criminal complaint U/S 498A Indian Penal Code for cruelty. Otherwise you can also file complaint under the newly enacted statue Domestic Violence Act 2006 regarding maltreatment/cruelty against you husband. As far going for Divorce is concerned sorry you cannot move the court till 3years of your marriage but you can file petition for judicial separation on the ground of cruelty not desertion because according to The Hindu Marriage Act,1955 the till duration for seeking judicial separation is 2years & not 6months as some person in his answer told you. You can aslo demand monthly maitenance from him under section 125 of the criminal procedure code if he is not provinding you with it.

Answer 2

The best way is change yourself. A marriage is not a serious matter for those who are able to have a gentle employment and modest income. The time is yet to come and things left would come back in search of you. Try not to forget the vengence, which is hard to the human mind. Divorce from your side is not advisable, especially when it is an arranged marriage. There are thousands of cases of having a spouse of such mentalily. Try to live departed without any physical or verbal relations for some time. Things will be in control. Time makes it, Sure.

Answer 3

As he is not worth living with, you need not file petition for the restitution of conjugal rights If you want to teach him a lesson you can file criminal cases against him. But it is not worthwhile as you too will have to attend the court every time there is an adjournment (date). You can seek divorce from him. The minimum time of separation required for divorce is 6 months. You can move the petition either at the place you got married or at the place you both resided last which ever is convenient to you. Take up a job if you are not already working. In case you reside in Hyd my cel no.is 9849713810.

Answer 4

whatevr happens, dont give him a divorce - this will let him off easily. to get back at him, try some dirty tricks like spreading the rumor that he failed to consummate ur marriage and asked for unnatural sex etc. this will put him immdtly on the defensive and he will come back to u in anger - dont raise ur voice when he comes and stick to ur guns. meanwhile u shud tell ur parents ( hope they already know) abt ur decision to stay away from this guy. let him be the one to ask for a divorce, which u shoud not be giving him. take whatever he has as alimony when the time comes. meanwhile u shud contact his parents and rpt ur dirty tricks on them too. this is chanakya's way of sowing seeds of disharmony in ur enemy's camp. after all u did nt take the 7 steps all alone.

Answer 5

Move on with your life and never allow yourself to get into an arranged marriage again. You didn't explain if it was arranged or forced (there's a difference). If you were forced, remember that nobody has the right to force you to do anything you don't want to do, particularly something like promising to live every single day of your life with someone you don't want. I understand that your culture might have made you feel like you should agree to this, but you don't. I'm sure if you look around you'll find women from your country, maybe even the area you come from there, who've stood up for themselves and said no to this. Check out bookstores, look for information online. Educate and empower yourself. I'm sure you'll read other women's stories who've had similar experiences like yours, and that will give you strength. Try typing "your country or town - arranged marriage" into google and see what you come up with.

Focus on getting the best education you possible can and a career and go out there and meet a man who you truly want to be with. Don't be afraid to be on your own and single. And don't think your parents won't get over it. You'll be surprised at what they will accept, especially as they get older. You don't have to disrespect them, but they've lived their livews and now you have the right to live yours. But you don't sound very strong...you need to toughen up. If people know that they can walk all over you and you'll just be scared and allow it, they will. Even your own parents.

And never convince someone who, like you said, put you through hell and then left you, to stay with you. Why would you want to be with someone like that? He wants to leave? Good riddance.

I assure you, plenty of women from your country have grown to have husbands they've chosen and gone on to live happy lives. I come from a somewhat conservative culture and grew up around people from other different conservative cultures...I know this is possible even if it may be difficult.

Answer 6

Go out with a more handesome, more muscular, richer, nicer guy and flaunt him in front of the old boyfriend. Then when he gets jealous and tries to get you back, laugh in his face! Or dump him in a very public place, where all his friends will be. The key to either situation is embarrass him! That's what will crush his ego the most, and that's what he deserves.

Answer 7

Be happy that it happened to you so early after marriage. Less the time u spend with someone, less is your attachment to him.Just forget him and start a new life. You will be more happy without him. There are many good things in life waiting for you.

Answer 8

Go get an anullment and run as fast as you can away from this idiot. As far as arranged marriages. Don't let anyone tell you who you should marry. If he physically hurt you,then you need to press charges on him. Get an attorney and end this once and for all.Good luck

Answer 9

Get a divorce and next time see if you can find a nice dude yourself and there is no reason for any reason you should get back at him. Good life you will live is just enough. Forget him and move on.

Answer 10

Im really sorry for dat jus forget him and start a new life dont worry if u hav any problem u can mail me if u want to ill try my best to help u out and ill pray to god u should hav a happy life god bless u and tak care....