And your partner makes good money, which is not happening to you, is it fair that he asks you to share the bills?
Would you give the same answer if it was the man making less money than the woman?
2006-12-06 20:28:53 · 21 answers · asked by ladysorrow 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know that statistically money is the most likely thing to cause a break-up? So money issues need to be sorted and clear from the start.
I would say that regardless of which sex is making more your contribution to the bills should be proportional to your salary. For example, if your partner earns 1/3 more than you do then his share of the bills should be 1/3 more than yours.
Unless one of you is unemployed without any benefits you shouldn't ever have one person alone footing all the bills. Even if your contribution is a spit in the ocean in comparison its making a point.
2006-12-06 20:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends... unless I thought it was going to be a permanent thing, I would want her to pay half. If we were planning to be together, then it is a different matter entirely. Male or female, the issue is fairness.
One exception: If either wastes money, then a 50'50 deal would be more fair. I would not want to support a partner who bought lots of junk, nor would I buy loads of junk and expect a partner to support my spendthrift habits. Having said that, I would not partner up or marry anyone who was not able to handle finances. I like food in the fridge and bills paid.
Charles ""That Cheeky Lad"
2006-12-07 04:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when i was living with my ex partner he earn more money than me so what we did was he payed all the bills and i bought the shopping it was OK for us that way if your boyfriend really cared he wouldn't want u to go with out money so if he wanted to support u he would pay a bit extra just u u wouldn't be skint and maybe if he dose this for u maybe u can save a little bit of your money and at the end of each month u can buy him something he likes to say thanks and shoe u appreciate what his doing give him a treat i hope it all works out for u good luck and have a great Christmas
2006-12-07 04:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by lora b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend pays for more bills than me as he earns more - but he also works more hours than i do so i do more stuff round the house to make up for this .
to be fair if your sharing a house and he does earn more i dont think he should expect you to pay the same if it means your going to struggle for the rest of the month.
but dont let money become an issue it will cause arguments.
good luck x
2006-12-07 05:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Pebbles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still need to share the bills, doesn't have to b 50/50! they could b 30/70! At least then u can hold your head up high!
2006-12-07 04:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by fee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should the one with the bigger pay check pick up the tab? This is why I won't get together with someone who can't anti up. You create expenses together you should expect to share paying them. I could afford a nicer home if my partner made more money but then he wouldn't be able to anti up his half. For us, the way to a bigger house would be if we moved to paying for expenses based on % of income........ and if I did that, I'd want a legal agreement that gives me that same % back if we where to split up.................. and just for the record, I'm female (just in case readers felt this would be a man's point of view)
2006-12-07 04:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not fair that you have to pay the same amount towards bills as he does. You should pay a percentage of your earnings towards the bills.
2006-12-07 04:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Misshopeful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely you have made a commitment to share each other's lives even though you are not married. I would then think that at this point it stops being 'your' money or 'his' money but starts being 'ours'. It doesn't matter who earns what, you are a couple.
2006-12-07 04:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by katieplatie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...it's fair.You guys live together,you are not married to have a common account or something!He/She is not obligated to feed you,dress you or whatever!!!You have to contribute as well.Go out and find yourself a job!You'll feel better.You will be contributing to the house expenses therefore you will be allowed to have a say in any decisions needed to be taken! Good luck!
2006-12-07 04:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its fair as long as your share is relative to your income , say you each the same percentage of yuor earrnings towards bills.
2006-12-07 04:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋