i told my friend that i was beginning to like her more than a friend about 1 1/2 weeks ago (we r both 17). she told me that she didn't feel the same. i was o.k. with this, since it was still very early and i felt that i could still save our friendship and get over liking her. but she says that she's new to relationships (never had bf) and she doesn't want to be friends anymore. we've known each other for 2 months and we had fun together and had lots in common. we never dated, but the only times that we were together was only the two of us. mostly, she's the one that asked if we could hang out b4 i could.
we haven't talked for over a week. it was so sudden... 3 days before i told her, she asked if she could come over and watch a movie at my house. even the day and night b4 it, we were still good friends. then... it just instantly stopped. i really want to save our friendship, what should i do? she is leaving tomorrow for holiday... should i call b4 she leaves?
2006-12-06 20:12:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i've told her how i feel and that i don't want to lose our friendship but she still doesn't want to be friends. i did this the day after i told her. i think i pressured her on answering too quickly... stupid mistake.
2006-12-06 20:52:39 · update #1
Maybe she's uncomfortable now that it is out in the open. (Your feelings for her or asking her out)...
Yes, go ahead and call her to wish her a Merry Christmas or whatever.
2006-12-06 20:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....wow...dats a very delicate situation hey =(
i experianced a similar situation. Im guessing she feels a bit freaked out now n a bit uncomfortable. u did the ryt thing by telling her how u felt earlier on, n ur ryt, it'l make it easier to get over her, instead of u deeply liking her n getting hurt badly. ryt now, id suggest u wryt a letter 2 her. that way,u can express everything u wanna say, n unlike a fone cal, she cant hang up on u =P
tel her that u do hav feelings for her, n that the reason u tol her was becoz u value her friendship alot, n u felt u had 2 b honest with her. explain that by telling her earlier, u hoped that if sh ddnt like u bac, u felt it would be easier to save the friendship. tel her u understand how she feels, n u respect her decision, n that u still really wanna be friends.
she may agree to it....n she may not. the important thing is, u kno that u tried n fought for the friendship. thats what counts =)
if sh dznt wanna save the friendship, then itl be her loss, not urs =) gud luck.
2006-12-07 04:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is leaving U MUST EXPLAIN TO HER ABOUT HOW U FEEL. even if she still doesnt except it atleast you know that you will have tried because if you dont then that will be on your mind probably for the rest of your life. She really doesnt sound like a good friend. when friends have problems they stay and talk things over with each other and try to come to an understanding to help one another out. she sounds like she is fleeing from the situation
2006-12-07 04:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you were very comfortable as friends, then you confess to liking her, sometimes that changes an entire relationship becoming awkward. Maybe she really wasnt ready and just wanted to be friends and didnt want to hurt your feelings. I would leave it alone untill she comes back. You would be putting her on the spot again with any explanations. Let her feelings calm right down then act tottally cool if you see her around again.
2006-12-07 04:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it smart. I have lost a good friend because I confessed my liking to her...
If you don't think the conversation will be akward and you know what to say, call her. If not, wait till she gets back from holidays and talk to her..it'll give her time to reflect and maybe she will come back conisidering a relationship with you...but anyway, don't mention it anymore, and let her make the moves now if she decides to.
2006-12-07 04:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not sound like a very good friend! Explain to her how you feel and that you do not want to loose her as a friend! If she cannot accept to be your friend now she neve was in the first place.
2006-12-07 04:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,she was pressured by ur sudden change of atmosphere,so they say.jst continue being her friend.try calling her from time to time.i guess she's confused.take it slow,go back to the same old things that you both wer doing b4 u told her ur feeling's.
2006-12-07 05:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her. She sounds like she's 12. You can find someone else.
2006-12-07 04:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call HER....................
and ask forgiveness before itz too late.......
juz be frends you'll never know sooner or later she might
like you.......................
and having a good friend like her is only once in a lifetime....
you'll never know how it will end.............
2006-12-07 04:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by phage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋