This guy I am dating (for about a year) keep asking me how many guys I have slept with. I am so annoyed. Why does he need to know? Is it because he is insecure? I don't get it! I have probably slept with more people than he has and I know he won't be happy, but I also can't lie to him. I've been just avoiding to answer it but now he is asking almost everyday and I am so sick and tired of it. What should I do?
2006-12-06 19:10:09 · 25 answers · asked by takooo80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You ought to volunteer this information I should say. During the course of a honest relationship it is not uncommon for this to be discussed. If you have to lie to avoid hurting his feelings you need to do some work on your relationship. If the guy is too weak to handle reality, find another.
2006-12-06 19:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by DJL2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, although it's been a year that's a bit odd...normally i try to get that answer in before i even ATTEMPT to have sex with whoever i'm trying to date...cause if she's had a lot of partners she can most DEFINITELY have something....she can blab she takes care of herself all she wants, but there's the chance she checked herself too early, when some STDs take weeks to be discovered, or she just never checked period and thought cleaning herself was good enough..there are those possibilities.
ALSO, women with experience most of the time DEMAND the same experience from their partner....so if i'm sittin here with little or no sexual experience, and she's queen of the kama sutra, unless she has the patience to teach, she'll be highly disappointed, and hence is a big self-esteem killer to the inexperienced man, not to mention problems with the sex life can always lead to cheating.
The last reason, which is a skeptical one, is the fact that if you had lots of partners, then there's a high chance they were WAY bigger than he is....and hence, what can his thing do if you've had better (the whole bigger is better BS). Pride hits a man hard a lot of times when it comes to sex, but it's better to know the truth, as to deal with it as is...rather than ignorantly assume that oh i'm the best she's ever had, my stuff is huge, blah blah blah, and she'll never stray....when you could be faking it (which i'm sure you're not), or expecting something better because of his lack of experience or lack of whatever that some of those other dudes before you could've done better.
HENCE why it's so much easier to wait til marriage than to deal with such drama....if all you know is one, and it's the best....then why worry about going anywhere else? BUT...to each their own....waitin worked for me....hopefully patience and working with your boyfriend to MAKE IT WORK for both of you will be successful for you....GOOD LUCK TO YA!
2006-12-07 03:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. It sounds like you are insecure in how high the number is. It is only a safe sex practice to know where your partner has been before you. I applaude him for wanting to understand what is going on. Afterall, if you have been out sleezing around with thousands of guys, maybe he would be better off not sleeping with you, as your probability of having an STD would be way higher than if you had only been with 1 or 2 guys. JUST TELL HIM WHAT HE WANTS TO KNOW. If he does not love you anymore, that is his problem, not yours.
2006-12-07 03:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by bashnick 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him,we live in a time were people are dying from STD,so he has a right to know.Stop thinking about yourself,he wants to know for his own health reason.If the number is too high and he dumps you ,that is his choice to be safe.The more partners you have had increases the risk of catching something. Even if you do practice safer sex(safe sex doesnt exist)Good luck!
2006-12-07 03:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by cancel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means be honest. Tell him that as you don't know the sleeping habits of the world wide male population, nor the hours that they sleep, you have no idea how many of them you have been asleep at the same time as they have.
2006-12-07 03:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by yoshitokiswife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation. The bad thing is that he might be really bad with dealing with it and break up with you. My best friend opened up on her own to her bf cause she wanted to be more serious about there relationship, and the jerk left her. Just be careful about the way you do it.
2006-12-07 04:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by tana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is our realtionship based on sex is it that important that your know every guy i have been with then say some outrageous number and then tell him the truth the real number and tell him that he is the last person you are ever going to be with so don't worry about it and say honestly no other guy has what you have with me it's way more than sex and don't ask him his number to prove that it does not matter
2006-12-07 03:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Talking Hat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. He's curious. I don't know why you wouldn't tell him. If there is a good reason juss tell him the truth. If you guys have been together for a year I'm sure he'll understand.
2006-12-07 04:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by J.V. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him why he is so interested? It really doesn't matter so long as you've both been careful in the past and didn't bring any infections into your relationship.
2006-12-07 03:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he wanted to know all about you... even how many times youve been sleeping with other men before him. Men really are insecure ^_^ to that.
2006-12-07 03:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by > smoj < 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋