We my fiance and I have temporary custody of the children she has been in jail for 1 year and now in prison why do they keep making more court dates,and is able to drag things on for over a year.Ive had the kids for 2 years. She had them taken away from the state and given to me but Im still going thru one court date after another.IM tired !!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-06 19:04:09 · 5 answers · asked by turnpage692002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO Im not working with the mother she is in there for drugs, fraud she had the children and got caught with needles in the truck with the children she has had chances time after time.If she cared so much about being a mother why was our daughter molested and she has child neglect charges on her.How much does a child have to go thru?I dont bash on her in front of the children but give me a break when she wasn't incarcerated she never came around until I wanted full custody and she didnt give me temporary custody the courts did !!!
2006-12-06 19:20:37 · update #1
It depends on what she's in there for. If she's in there for battery or murder or something of that nature that exposure to the kids could be potentially harmful, then I would agree with you.
If she's in there for tax fraud or something else that has nothing to do with her parenting, then I'd say she has a good argument against you.
I understand you being sick of the whole thing and wanting it all to end, but I'm sure you understand my answer from the little information you put in your question.
Either way, I hope for peace in your life.
Given your additional information, she has proven to be a selfish person and fights for the kids not out of love but for ownership and control.
Keep fighting, dear. The law can't hem and haw over this forever.
2006-12-06 19:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you do not get angry with me, but I have to ask this question. Have you given birth to any children? Because if you have children of your own then you would know why she does not want to relinquish her rights. Even though she is in a bad place right now and is not able to physically be there with her children, she still loves them and wants when she gets out to get them back. That is why she gave you temporary custody. Because she trusted you to keep them for her until she gets out. Not take them away. Please can you find it in your heart to take care of them. Or did you think when she gave them to you she was actually giving them away? Have you become attached to them and now want to take them from her? Are you thinking about her feelings. I taught a little girl in my pre-k class whose mom was in jail. Of course she said her mom was in college, and Dad and sisters were raising her. She loved her mother though, you could tell. It is hard on the kids, and it may be hard on you, but I think you should leave the custody issue alone, meet with the mother and try to raise the kids. Only if someone from her family tries to step in, or it looks like she is never coming out should this maybe come up. And if someone from her family tries something, you should still meet with her and respect her wishes as much as you can. Peace
2006-12-06 19:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She keeps fighting for them, and will keep fighting for them, because they're hers, she gave birth to them and she loves them. Regardless of her addiction and her bad life choices, she is still their mother and probably has hope that when she comes out she's going to make better choices, not go back on drugs, and do right by her children. It's called hope, faith and love.
She gave birth to them, that's why she's been fighting for over a year. That's nothing to her considering the fact that when she carried them and had them she thought they were hers for life. A year is nothing. And of course she would prefer the kids to be with their father and his fiance than with the state, but that doesn't mean that she'd want to give them up for life.
You're doing a beautiful thing by taking care of those children right now. God bless you for that. Truly. But don't take them from her. That's being both unfair to her and to the kids. And her kids do love her and do deserve every opportunity to have the chance and hope of having her home, healthy, with them. This isn't a competition. I know it's tiring for you, but that's where you're at right now. It sounds to me like you love those kids and you're doing everything you can for them. But please stop fighting for custody from their mother. They deserve better than that.
**Edit: Great answer PhatBeatz.
2006-12-06 19:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be thankful you have the kids, She doesn't want them.
Why are you tired?
2006-12-06 19:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep tryin.......
2006-12-06 19:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by auvee_263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋