Me and my cousin are really close. We spend a lot of time together, me him and his wife. The problem is I realised that I love her and its now really hard to be around either of them. They are coming to my house tomorrow afternoon. What do I do?
2006-12-06 18:31:59 · 20 answers · asked by Tom T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get yourself a woman and forget about her. Your headed for trouble with a capital T.
2006-12-06 18:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by GUITARZAN30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really close? If you were really close you would be happy for your cousin and appreciate his wife as his wife, rather than as a potential lover. The only good thing that could come out of loving your cousin's wife is a free trip to Chicago to appear on the Jerry Springer show... is that what you really want? There's a ton of wonderful women out there... if you can't find a woman of your own then you're really pretty worthless. Get a grip, dude!
2006-12-06 18:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Zloar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is that a banjo I hear??? With so many fish in the sea, aligning your heart with your cousin's wife is not a rational thing to do, but you know that, right? Unless they invite you to bed, which ain't gonna happen, I suggest you just pretend these feelings never existed and carry forward. To do otherwise just punishes yourself over nothing more than a mind game. While you waste your time on this, you're letting other good candidates pass you by. Get a grip...
2006-12-06 19:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the others, I suggest not going through with the gathering tomorrow. There's really nothing you can do to totally snuff love when it's real, but I've found that writing secret ridiculously romantic poetry puts things in perspective enough to move on.
2006-12-06 18:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Derek Southerby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, tell them not to come over because you're in love with her? No that would be awkward! I don't know that's a tough one. Maybe you can't help your feelings but you wouldn't want to do anything wrong or torture yourself, either. You could see them less and tell them you feel like a third wheel if they ask you why. It sounds like you're single and maybe it will be easier to be around them when you find the one for you. Good luck.
2006-12-06 18:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wouldnt want to hurt your cousin and maybe you just need to meet somebody with some of the qualities that you see in her and if you hang out with them alot as the third wheel that could be why you feel this way. you may just be confused and want a good relationship like theirs
2006-12-06 18:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by lamli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull your **** together... don't go there! or you land up on a episode off Jerry springer!... you should be happy for you cousin he's met such a wonderful girl... then go and meet your own... one of the commandments do not covet your neighbor's wife!
2006-12-06 18:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by mikhail_luh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone, She's your cousins wife! They're married for a reason. Find your own girl.
2006-12-06 19:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have incestous feeling and that is not good. Rid yourself of this wrongful feeling and become neutral to life as appreciating a cousin and relatives in its perpective.
2006-12-06 18:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue in this fasion...you may end up disurbing three lives...
Please get out of this situation....and stay calm an cool within limits when they visits you. Don't even mention any words which may force them to think something...
Good luck
2006-12-06 19:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by GS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋