He had always paid the rent in the past year and his work is slow this time of year, but the drinking really pisses me off. The kids are attached but weary of the drama I'm sure. He's basically kind and nurturing, but I'm getting fed up!
2006-12-06 18:23:26 · 17 answers · asked by Tziporrah B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be patient. Perhaps he has issues that are bothering him. Speak with him and show your concern. He may open up. Quiting is for cowards besides, you have the kids to consider. Explain to him your care, concern and show him that you care for his welfare.
2006-12-06 18:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a shame . The money that he is spending for his addiction, he could be putting towards the rent or something his kids need. Talk to him and if that doesn't work, give him an ultimaduim. You deserve better.
2006-12-07 03:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by Shadowhawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this before my hubby went into the navy. Try sticking it out with him who knows, it might get better. My hubby realized all the crap he put me through before he left and we are now trying to work through the things he did. Its a a lot harder since he is far away from our son and I.
But I can understand what you are going through. Right before he left I found out that we were 2 months behind on rent (about to be evicted), our electric was about to be shut off, and to top it all off he was literally pissing the money away because he was spending it on drinking.
2006-12-07 02:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to straightened up or ship out. First give him the opportunity to get counseling or the two of you sit down and talk things over to straightened things out. It is just an emotional drama and things will work out just work with it and give him some time and pray about it.
2006-12-07 03:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either an alcoholic or working on becoming one.
You can't compete with a bottle of beer. So no use trying.
Get a job and start handling finances on your own. You need to become independent and stand on your own. He may view you in a new light when he sees you can make it without him.
2006-12-07 02:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen girlfriend, I have been through this and I know how hard it is I put up with it for seven years,telling myself things will change and they never did.I wish I had got rid of him years ago,all the stress and worry wasn't worth it , Good Luck !! Believe in yourself
:)
2006-12-07 02:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by kel s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to call if off because he wont pay rent? why dont you get a job, and support the kids, instead of waiting for him to pay it.
2006-12-07 02:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he isn't paying the rent now who is he spending it on . Don't bother asking him he will just lie to you.
2006-12-07 03:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't have enough info. I go out pretty often, say good night to my wife and go to sleep. Drinking is not an 'evil' all by itself.
2006-12-07 03:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Omeros 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep. i would have kicked him out long time ago, unregardless whether kids re attracted to him or not. if he is kicked out it doesn't mean he shouldn't see the kids regularly (outside the house)
2006-12-07 02:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋