How can I be the "Almost Perfect Housewife", what is your idea of the perfect wife/homemaker ?

Question

I(28) have been a housewife since November of 2005(I was a pediatrictian before I was a housewife) and I think I am doing a great job at it, but I always think there is room for improvement, so if you have any ideas/tips/positive criticism on how I might improve on being a homemaker or better wife please feel free to share :)

Things I do and other info:

-Married my husband(29,Cardiologist) in April. 2001

-Take care of our 4 children (2 boys:18 months and 2 year old, and 2 girls: 2 year old and 6 year old, we adopted all except are youngest)

-Cook Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner (Daily)
-Clean the house(Vacum, Mop, Dust, Iron Clothes, Dishes, Ect.)

-Homeschool all children

-Take children to activites (Ballet class, Gymboree, and Girlscouts)

-Do the Laundry

-Go to church

-Go grocery shopping

-Go to the gym(My husband stays in shape for me, so I feel like I should return the favor and I

Jackie the reason I homeschool is because 3 of my children were adopted and I think it is important for them to have me around a large precent of the time, they will all be homeschooled until 3rd grade, hope this explains the homeschooling and I am sorry you feel that way because studies show homeschooled children are more social then public school children.

Jacky the reason I homeschool is because 3 of my children were adopted and I think it is important for them to have me around a large precent of the time, they will all be homeschooled until 3rd grade, hope this explains the homeschooling and I am sorry you feel that way because studies show homeschooled children are more social then public school children.

Answer 1

OMG ... you're perfect - if you ever get divorced i propose to you in advance ... "WILL YOU MARRY ME"

But seriously...

- How are things in the bedroom? ... neglect this area and it can all come crashing down around your ears dear, meaning is there variety, spontenaety ... or even energy or time?

I commend you for doing such an awesome job ;)
However, you're going to burn yourself out. You work from dawn to dusk and then some into the night...how long do you think you can keep this up?

Good Luck in your endeavour for perfection, life always finds a way of throwing a spanner in the works

- You need to find a balance ... share the load with hubby (your hours worked = hubbies hours worked). You do several things here. 1. share the load 2. get some rest 3. ensure hubby has purpose other than his clients 4. gets hubby home every night etc

- How involved in the community are you?

- Are you considering sending your children to an outside school - they need to learn the basic social skills etc

In all honesty you're doing fine ;)

Answer 2

I am also a stay at home mom and houswife. I am 26 and I am not a career oriented person. Our daughter is 9 months old, and I am pregnant with our second and my EDD is 05/05/07. My husband 32 is in the Army (E-4).
I take care of my daughter around the clock all by myself. I manage cleaning house, cooking, shopping, banking, and basically everything alone because he will be away for three more months. I am exhausted but I love what I do and I am not in any way complaining because we have everything we need, a decent savings, good healthcare, and a great marriage. At the moment I believe that I am doing the maximum. But there is very little time for myself and I plan that when our children are ready to start school, then I will maybe take some university courses (since I never went to university and hs grad). I will continue writing (I had to put this on hold since I am a busy mom with small babies), and I don't exactly forsee myself in a money making career but I would like to do volunteer/community work.

So I guess to answer your question I think you are doing an awesome job! My advice would be to take some time for yourself. Maybe go to a movie, get a pedicure, or take up a hobby that you can work into your schedule. My current hobby is reading novels and doing arts and crafts. Also since becoming a mom I discovered that there is very little time to have a relaxing bath or put on cosmetics. But I started taking my daughter into the tub with me and she plays with her toys while I read my novel or just relax. It also kills time because we are both bathed and ready to go. When I am tired and want to sleep in, I let my daughter lay in the bed with me and play with her books and things while I snooze. If I have the urge to play in my cosmetics I just sit my daughter beside me at the vanity and include her in the process. She loves it. Part of being a mom is learning to improvise and to still have the balance of making time for yourself.

Answer 3

Don't fell bad. My opinion is still that you don't invest in your future. Relationships in modern world are unstable and your husband doesn't need to support you for ever. He can find later in his life someone younger he will support. What will you do then? As 40 years old women you will not find a job, because you don't have job experiences. So, be responsible and do something for yourself (not just for your children or husband), think about future and your stability.

I also have a boyfriend: and we both work, we do housework together and it is fun. We cook together, we clean house together and we have together our free time. We also have together money for food and house (we give it together 50:50), but everything else is separated.

Answer 4

in accordance to the grant help to checklist above, i think of, you're already a suited housewife, a minimum of the terrific between all the housewives i understand! and that i even kinda envy your husband for having the variety of excellent housewife. purely shop doing all your terrific to love your husband, love your babies, and love your loved ones, i think of those are your reason to maintain being a suited housewife.

Answer 5

I think what makes life interesting is breaking the routine of things. Being perfect would be boring sometimes you need to fight just for the hell of fighting. So, do something out of the ordinary throw him a curve ball there is nothing more boring than routine.

Answer 6

Why do you feel you have to be perfect? You need to be YOU, that's perfection. If you measure perfection by someone else's standards, you'll just burn yourself out and end up unhappy, unfulfilled and unable to give anything of yourself to the people you care about.

Answer 7

i do all this (except home schooling my children, cos i think this is just stupid - they don't learn to socialize with people at home) , instead i go to gym every day and i never thought i was a perfect housewife, and this husband of mine wants me to work. so guess u re lucky to be left alone and not be pressured with returning to work

Answer 8

Sounds to me like your doing a super job in both the wife and Mom catagory. Plus your a doc, your husband has it made. i am sure he knows that.

Answer 9

you are doing a great job taking care of your family, be careful though, you need time for yourself and remember, nobody is perfect so don't be afraid to get your husband to help out too.

Answer 10

to be a good housewife you shouldn't feel like you should do anything. that is, you should enjoy taking on these tasks as everyone should be performing the daily activities (work) they enjoy. a good job done is a job good enough to be done.