How can I be the "Almost Perfect Housewife", what is your idea of the perfect wife/homemaker ?

Question

I(28) have been a housewife since November of 2005(I was a pediatrictian before I was a housewife) and I think I am doing a great job at it, but I always think there is room for improvement, so if you have any ideas/tips/positive criticism on how I might improve on being a homemaker or better wife please feel free to share :)

Things I do and other info:

-Married my husband(29,Cardiologist) in April. 2001

-Take care of our 4 children (2 boys:18 months and 2 year old, and 2 girls: 2 year old and 6 year old, we adopted all except are youngest)

-Cook Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner (Daily)
-Clean the house(Vacum, Mop, Dust, Iron Clothes, Dishes, Ect.)

-Homeschool all children

-Take children to activites (Ballet class, Gymboree, and Girlscouts)

-Do the Laundry

-Go to church

-Go grocery shopping

-Go to the gym(My husband stays in shape for me, so I feel like I should return the favor and I can proudly say I am 5'7 126 pounds)

-Find time to be alone, let alone intimate with my hubby

Thank you but I really am not perfect :) Please feel free to share any positive critism or advice I would really appericate it :)

I am homeschooling my children until 3rd grade because I think it is important for them to have me around since three of my children are adopted, hopes this explains the homeschooling :)

Nelli I am sorry you feel that way, but when I compare being a pediatrictian before I was a homemaker, to being a homemaker, I would rather be a homemaker any day, because it has been the best experience I have ever experienced and it has been something I have always wanted to do, but everyone is different and I respect your opinion. And as far as not getting paid that isn't even an issue because my husband pays for everything (the bills, food, things for our children) and then he splits whats left with me 50/50 (which is about 14 % of his paycheck) to do whatever I would like with :)

Answer 1

Are you Mrs. Stepford? (Just kidding!)
Sorry, I can't offer any tips to improve.
Rock on, Mama!

Answer 2

According to the information you list above, I think, you are already a perfect housewife, at least the best among all the housewives I know! And I even kinda envy your husband for having such a good housewife.
Just keep doing your best to love your husband, love your children, and love your family, I think those are your motive to keep being a perfect housewife.

Answer 3

I would say that you already are "Almost" perfect.
The only reason I even say almost is that you're not secure enough in yourself to believe that you are. Clearly you are doing everything that you can to keep your family happy and that is what makes a great houswife. In fact I find it quite amazing that a woman such as yourself even exists much less has the lack of confidence that makes her question her own quality.

Have more pride in yourself, and be in control of your view of yourself. You should never doubt your position and value to your family. Believe me, if you husband ever leaves you it will be because you doubt yourself which leads to him thinking he can do better.

If anything, be MORE selfish.

Answer 4

i'm additionally a stay at domicile mom and houswife. i'm 26 and that i'm not a occupation oriented guy or woman. Our daughter is 9 months previous, and that i'm pregnant with our 2d and my EDD is 05/05/07. My husband 32 is interior the army (E-4). I shield my daughter around the clock all by using myself. I cope with cleansing domicile, cooking, identifying to purchase, banking, and basically each thing on my own because of the fact he would be away for 3 greater months. i'm exhausted yet i like what I do and that i'm not in any way complaining because of the fact we've each thing we choose, a good low fee costs, good healthcare, and a super marriage. on the 2d i've got confidence that i'm doing the optimal. yet there is incredibly little time for myself and that i plan that when our babies are waiting to start college, then i'm going to possibly take some college classes (because of the fact that I on no account went to college and hs grad). i'm going to proceed writing (I had to place this on carry because of the fact that i'm a hectic mom with small babies), and that i don't precisely forsee myself in a funds making occupation yet i might prefer to do volunteer/community artwork. So i think to respond to your question i think of you're doing a great interest! My advice may well be to take the time for your self. possibly pass to a movie, get a pedicure, or take in a pastime which you will artwork into your time table. My modern-day pastime is examining novels and doing arts and crafts. additionally because of the fact that starting to be a mom i got here upon that there is incredibly little time to have a calming bathtub or placed on cosmetics. yet i all started taking my daughter into the bathtub with me and he or she performs together with her toys on the same time as I study my novel or purely loosen up. It additionally kills time because of the fact we are the two bathed and in a position to pass. while i'm drained and prefer to sleep in, I enable my daughter lay interior the mattress with me and play together with her books and issues on the same time as I snooze. If I even have the urge to play in my cosmetics I purely take a seat my daughter beside me on the vanity and contain her interior the approach. She loves it. area of being a mom is studying to improvise and to nonetheless have the steadiness of coming up time for your self.

Answer 5

I can't give you advice because personally I think that being a housewifes is the bigest mistake in women's life. Your husband may find lover after 20 years of marriage and you will stay alone (without lots of money, without any skills to work in public life, without any life). Isn't boring to be alone the whole day and doing unpaid work all day long?

Answer 6

The perfect house wife cook and clean for yo man.not a lot of party have bath water ready after work.and be open for whatever

Answer 7

Perfect homemaker = your house being the complete and polar opposite of mine.

Answer 8

Is your husband complaining>? If not, then I would say don't change something that is working for all of you. Or could it be you have become bored in your everyday life now>??

Answer 9

well you seem to be doing a great job other that home schooling your children....im sorry but that just isnt right...not in my book anyway..they need to be with society in ALL ways...not just when you chose for them to be....what is the purpose of homeschooling anyway?????

Answer 10

It looks like you are a rather conventional upper middle class mom and family; young yuppie Christians. How nice. Good luck.
You may need luck when you turn 50, get fat, bicker about finances, he finds a younger secretary whose waist is trim and mind is broad. Oh yeah, watch out for the rebellious teens that will reject all of your values and become followers of Che.

Answer 11

STOP asking what it is you need to be doing more of
take some time for yourself so you don't lose yourself i did
read doc Laura's book proper care and feeding of husbands.
by the way good job, clap clap, hurray hurray why do seek every ones approval?be happy with your self for yourself you should be