No sex from fiance? Dump or keep?

Question

I've been in this relationship for about 5 years and we have sex like once a week...but it just really sux....is he gay? inexperienced or what? have any explanations?

also i''m his first sexual partner...

Answer 1

dump him, he's a kind of slow.

:> peace
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Answer 2

I don't suspect that he is gay, but sadly, some guys just don't have a clue. For some, being a good bed partner comes from a natural intuition like art, where for others it comes from a learning process. In any case it is a skill. If he lived a sheltered life lacking open exposure to the topic of sex, then he probably just doesn't get what it is to be a good lover. Great sex is all about satisfying the woman because the man will always get what he needs. However, to the guy that doesn't understand the female mind and body, experiencing sensual, erotic, passion doesn't happen and thus sex sux and becomes a frustration for the woman. Basically, if you want him to become a good lover, you are going to have to teach him. I mean, like step by step...paint by the numbers, until he learns what turns you on. This is only going to happen if you tell him what makes you feel good and what you need. He needs to practice more than once a week. I'd recommend every other day or so, as the urge strikes. If overtime he tries to deny his poor performance, or things just don't improve, then you've just got the wrong guy for you and be happy you didn't marry a guy who can't get you off. So, let those panties fly and I hope you enjoy!

Answer 3

Come on, after five years. Your lucky to even get it once a week. Did you ever stop to question maybe it could be you? Maybe he's bored with you, believe me it happens. But unless you do something soon it will just get worse. I can't even have sex with my gf anymore I am seriously not attracted to her at all anymore. SO DO SOMETHING. Go to the gym, get some nice lingerie, cut your hair I don't know ANYTHING he has obviously lost interest in you and believe me he is not gay. I do not think a gay guy would stay with a girl for 5 years. How could he be inexperienced after 5 years? even once a week for five years is over 260 times and that is something I would consider somewhat experienced.

Answer 4

After 5 years, dump him. You've just lost 5 years of what could have been a very exciting and lovely time for you. Feeling wanted is important. No sex indicates that maybe you're not as wanted as you'd like to be. You've had sex with him about 250 times, with the right person, you could have enjoyed nearer 2500! Lovemaking brings a closeness that is hard to get. Life's too short to waste.

Answer 5

Do not be stupid. Do not dump him. Initiate him! If you are his first and he did not have anyone before, he could be somehow ashamed to make it before wedding. You should propose him, tell him as you wait it for so long, but how much you will wait, you need sex. Maybe he ain't gonna be the best, ain't very probably be ever, but he will improve with time. Just give patience to the relation, I do not see way he would not want sex. Even if he say no first time, ain't gonna say always, is gonna stay in his mind stick like with superglue the thought and will want. And more, and more, and more!

Answer 6

Low sex drive. Try talking to him about it and ask him what he likes and what he thinks, dont say anything about yourself and how you feel. For a man this is a very very touchy subject, so be really sensitive to his feelings. Ask him what you can do that wil make it better for him. Oh and also tell him that when you have sex often, you want it more and more. It's like when you have a biscuit every day, you can still taste it in your mouth after you have eaten and this makes you want to go and get another one, after a while it will be a box of biscuits a day.That's how sexual drive works. Try to point out what you like that he does and compliment him. For men this is hard to talk about, male ego and all.Good luck!

Answer 7

My suggestion for you , knowing that this is his first time, is that you should take him aside and express to him your feelings about your sex life. Tell him what you like and dont like and teach him how to be better, show him how to get creative. The first key to a good marriage is communication, and honesty. So let him know that he isnt satisfying you and work with him through the bumps.

Answer 8

It could be any of those things, but try to get him to do something new!!!! Sex ain't the most important thing in a relationship though, remember sex is just a by-product of a good relationship.

Answer 9

5 years isn't a short time to know a person. However, people's needs to change thus you need to thread this carefully. Ask him if there's anything that's bothering him. Let him know your concern and advise him that sex is a form of emotion to express your love for each other.

Answer 10

Maybe he was raised with the understanding of abstinence before marriage and he's in an internal conflict. Ask him not us. You should be privately and lovingly discussing the matter to find out exactly what's at the bottom of it so you can act on accurate knowledge. Doesn't he mean anything more to you than a pole? Whats with you anyway? Buy a dildo ya little ******* You should dump him, he'd be better off without you.

Answer 11

Hi
Five years in a relationship, where is that relationship ending to. I think you are a bit unfair to the guy, you are unfair to the guy. You are weighing is performance judging from your previous lovers, or from what you see on the Movies. Its time gals you stop talking about it and do something about it. You have one life to live, you have to decide how you want to live it.