Why and how can a married man have a 6-8 month affair with another woman(the woman knows of his marraige)and tell the wife it didn't mean anything to him but sex, and that he is in love with her and had no intentions of leaving her,but also tells her he hopes she won't do the same thing he did.
2006-12-06 18:11:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only a self-centered person who is obviously immature could do this. To tell her that he "hopes she won't do the same," definitely shows a very selfish, self-centered person who has a lot of growing up to do. I hope his wife has the strength to divorce him before wasting any more time with him. Things will not get better over time, they will only get worst. If she doesn't do something now, he will know that he could get away with what he's doing and he will only disrespect his wife even more. She must get empowered and get rid of him and find someone who is worthy of her before she loses any more self-esteem because of this loser.
2006-12-06 18:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by Kyra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that this man is selfish by asking his wife not to do the same thing he did. Since he has an affair, I think he has no rights to request his wife like that.
However, take a look on another side that there maybe something wrong with his sex life with his wife. If a married person is happy and satisfied with his/her sex life, he or she will not have an affair with a 3rd person.
I hope this man and his wife can work things out, as long as they don't let go, the marriage still can be improved.
2006-12-06 18:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have affairs for different reasons.I do not know the reason this man had an affair 6-8 months with this other woman.If he was telling me that he loves me/never had any intention of leavin our marraige.That this woman meant nothing to him except sex. I would want to know. What he was telling this other woman during the 6-8 month affair?Because some how I doubt that he was declaring his love for his wife with this other woman.While the two of them were having sex that meant nothing to him.I would want to know.What he was telling this other woman about his wife/his marriage?For the 6-8 months he was seeing her.Because not only do I think this man is a cheater>I think he is a LIAR!!!I am not saying this man does not love his wife.That he is not sorry about the choices.He choose to make.I just do not think he is being honest with his wife about it. I think he is trying to protect his wife from the truth/afraid if he tells her the truth she will leave him.You should ask this man >What lead him to have an affair with this woman?
2006-12-06 19:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife has changed during the course of the marriage, where the man either is not getting enough at home , or is not getting what he needs at home, then he will seek what he needs elsewhere. This may sound bad, but if you marry a wonderful woman and over time some really bad things happen where she becomes depressed mentally, then their is a very distinct possibility that the man will find himself lacking what he needs out of his wife. This may be throught no fault of the wife, but he needs certain things and the wife is unable of satisfying her man. The man will likely get to a point where he starts to look elsewhere for what he needs.
2006-12-06 21:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by daddyspanksalot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men se sex differently to women. Aman can have sex with someone he doesn't even like, a women prefers not. It's in the make up of men. There role in the tapestry of life is to plant there seed everywhere and often. Society no longer accepts this of course but it doesn't stop it still being in a man. Why he says he doesn't want her to do it is cos a man's genitals are on the outside and are therefore easily cleaned. A woman's aren't and to cleanse her inside is impossible so the other man's seed is in theory still present. I don't condone affairs though.
2006-12-06 18:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely a very selfish man best to stay away from. He's having his cake and eat it or putting his legs in two ships. Hope he'll sink someday to avoid causing miseries to both women or women at large.
2006-12-06 18:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just thinking he sleep with another woman it disgust me and makes him look like trash, you should never forgive this kind of things. meaning the wife wasn't enough for him because he was too much of a looser for her. She can find someone better than that. trust.
2006-12-07 01:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by babylove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can anyone have an affair? Its simple.... self centered, self loathing, heartless, selfish, people! How can a women choose to be 2nd to her mans wife? That's sad.....
2006-12-06 19:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above!!! I know. I was ther and I couldn't understand why too. I cried for months, but you know what. It wasn't my fault and its not yours either. Make him Kick Rocks before you regret it later. A REAL MAn is out there waiting for you.
2006-12-06 18:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by want-my-advice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like walking, some people take much more for granted than others. Its possible he just doesn't know what he has, maybe he will after its gone. I would be looking into getting a divorce if you think he will do it again, most likely he will.
-NmD!
2006-12-06 18:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋