im in love with a marry man?

Question

I am in love with a married man, and we are kinda in a relationship. we have not been intimate, we dont want to until both of our situations are taken care of. We do not live in the same city and state. we have been talking for a year and I am married too. The problem is I am separated and have been for two yrs. He still lives with his wife, but it is one of those situations where he claims he cant stand her. I suggest that he just leaves, he says he does not want to destroy his son (stepson) who is 17yrs old. He says that he is leaving in May after his son graduates. I have tugged along for a yr! I really love him, I mean we have even discussed marriage. I am getting frustrated. What should I do? its not me its a friend

for those who want to get smart at the mouth and dont belive me you could go to bet.com and pull up the same thing and see its not me

Answer 1

well, your "friend" should tell the man NOT TO LAVE HIS WIFE! She got to him first so your "friend" is outta luck. And yes, it does DESTROY children, whether they are 5 or 56 when some horrible woman does that, I mean, what kind of lowly, inconsiderate woman would do that? Take a man from his wife? If he cant stand her they should be able to work it out themselves, without your "friends" help! Tell her to BACK OFF!

Answer 2

(It's not you, it's a friend???) If you love him, then try to avoid seeing him till after May. Give him a chance to end the relationship with his wife in a decent way or give him the opportunity to fix his marriage... It might sound horrible now, but believe me, you'll be fine if you decide to move on and get your own life in the spotlight, do what you want to do, not waiting for him or thinking about his needs for a while. You'll survive, and be stronger because of it. And then, maybe check in June if he has really left his wife. I bet you that by that time there will be another reason why he can't leave. But you'll be independent and strong enough to take the blow at that time, right? And if he has left, well, you all win. Listen, less than 1% of all married men who have an affair actually chose to continue with the girlfriend. Why? They are loyal to their wives, the girlfriend fulfills different needs that she will no longer do if she becomes the wife, or they're simply cowards too scared to be home alone. If the love is real, you are soulmates and meant for each other then waiting till after May should be easy enough. Good luck, and more importantly, keep your head cool!

Answer 3

Respect the sanctity of marriage. If he does leave his wife for you he will end up cheating on you eventually - how can you ever trust a man who has a history of seeking comfort with a woman outside his marriage.

Quit being "the other woman", divorce your husband and spend some time alone before getting into any relationship. You need to have some boundries in your relationships - marriage should be one of them.

Answer 4

It's not you? It's a friend??? Honey, this long distance relationship won't work. He does not want to leave his wife and get a divorce. The internet has broken up a lot of families through online dating sites. He will say anything he thinks you want to hear because he craves the attention you give to him. You can NEVER really know a person in a long distance relationship, if he lies to you, how would you know? You don't really know him because you are not with him every day. This is not the kind of man you'd want to get involved with. PLEASE try to end this relationship and find a man who is worthy of your love.

Answer 5

Get out of that situation! He's playing with you. And please, how do you feel to be involved with a married man? Why to believe him that his wife is the problem? All men that are cheaters use the same line. Why he stays in that marriage? He needs to learn how to be honest, when love is over, at least be a decent person and give some explanation to his wife. He's lying to you and mainly to HIS WIFE!

Answer 6

Whoever it is needs to grow up. This is one of the oldest stories in the book for married guys. You may be talking marriage, but rest assure you won't be getting there with him. There's a reason why he can tell you all these lies to have a save haven when he supposedly leaves his present marriage. You should be concentrating on why he's really suppose to be getting a divorce, if he's doing this.

Answer 7

It is completely normal to like someone who is already married. Still, you should stop this relationship as soon as possible. If your relationship continues on, both the wife and the son would be greatly effected. If you were them, I don't think you would be so happy. Give it up; you'll find someone else who is just as great sooner or later :)

Answer 8

Think about this--if he would become involved with someone else while he is married, if this really the kind of man you want? It sounds like he is stringing you along (he wants his cake and eat it too) and I suspect he will do this to you as well at some point.

This is a mess. Stop the madness now and end it. You, or your friend deserves better.

Answer 9

he only wrote what he knew you wanted to read if you fell for that bullshit then I guess you will deserve the hurt and agony that is coming your way so get your box of tissue out cause you're gonna need it. just telling it like it is when will you women ever give up all you want to do is say that you stole somebody's husband which you haven't heard and ain't gonna get to say so go out and find some single guy that you can call your own. grow up!

Answer 10

Well I don't think someone should distrust you...you asked a question and deserve an answer...

Honestly feeling, you should wait till May and then take a final decision i.e. if he is still trying to avoid then....you know what to do...

Good luck...