I am 6 months pregnant, working part time, cleaning the house, cooking, and missing my family (they are hours away) I tend to take it out on my husband, and I really dont mean to, he just does things that really annoy me. When I try to talk to him about it, he tells me i am just whinging at him, which makes me really mad, I just want for us to get along, but its hard, can anyone suggest a way that I can be less stressed with him??
2006-12-06 18:09:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off quit taking things out on him. If you want him to respect you then you have to give it. He might not say youre whining if you quit taking stuff out on him. Whats happening is your being negative and he is then negative back and its snowballing and getting worse. You need to sit down with him, apologize and then slowly work out the problems. Start with the respecting each other.
The tell him you dont know how to handle the stress of the pregnancy and being far from your family and that you need more emotional support from him. And tell him you will try harder not to take stuff out on him too.
congratulations on the baby too!
2006-12-06 18:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he needs to help you lighten your load....help you clean and cook. You are tired, and you have a lot going on. When he does that...suggest that the two of you go out on dates before the baby is born. You wont have much time for each other then. You need some "alone time" with him. He needs to make you feel like the princess you are.
And also, try to think about what you are saying to him. Try not to complain and be mad at him. I know, it is not easy sometimes, but just think about how you say things to him. Good luck!
Take care.
2006-12-06 18:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by stickan8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why sweat the small things? Try to give up being perfect. Let the house go, let the dishes soak. The days you aren't working take a nap. Dinners don't have to be 6 course meals. Sometimes it can be grapes, cheese and crackers. You both need to spend time together, talking, planning and laughing. If you nit pick each other to death what will there be left between you?
2006-12-06 18:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he get you so angry? Is he working too many hours that he doesn't give you enough personal attention? Or help you with the household chores? Do you love him? Why would being around him stress you out? When you are pregnant, your hormones are changing and you become more emotionally sensitive to things. You need to work at finding peace with yourself. Find some activity or hobby you enjoy doing to keep you busy so you don't stress too much over him not being there to support you through everything.
2006-12-06 18:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another outlet for your stress like art or writing or whatever it is that helps you relax. I don't know you, so I can't tell you what it is! You can also try low doses of excersies like yoga or swimming, yep, they have fat really pregnant yoga and swimming classes too! Check out your local gym/activity centre. It's safe unless your doctor tells you otherwise.
Remember, your husband has a lot of stress too! His wife is fat pregnant and moody! Take some personal responsibility if you want to get along.
2006-12-06 18:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some understandable stress that is being funneled all to your husband. But this stress must be released. If you miss your family, send picts, talk on the phone, email, and instant message.
If there is stress at work, you have to tell people. The house doesn't have to be perfectly clean. If you do all those things, there will be less stress to displace on him. It wouldnt' hurt for him to listen.
2006-12-06 18:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on your new baby! believe me at lot of times we worry too much, guys are so different that us, but we chose them among all the other guys, we saw something special that attract us and it was easy to fell in love, right? now it's the time to work in those differences before it gets worse and worse. Just make a list of whats important to you, make a wish list of things you would like for him to help you, also choose a special day of the week were you and your love one can just chill out, doing something fun.
2006-12-06 18:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Marie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve a medal for wanting to be nice in your situation. But, since you asked... Can you afford to hire some help around the house and take him out for a romantic (as possible) weekend? Maybe at a hotel somewhere near your family. Maybe you guys could visit them at the same time...
Maybe you both just need to relax a little.
2006-12-06 18:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you make an effort to have dates? It becomes humdrum after a while if you don't make special times in a marriage. People think marriage is the be-all and end-all, but it doesn't eliminate the need to plan special times. Anticipation is everything.
2006-12-06 18:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Changes of homones due to pregnancy could lead to mood swing. Explain to your hubby that you love him but there are times when your head rules over your heart. Advise him that you don't mean to hurt him. Ask him to help you with your mood swing by perhaps listening to what you have to say and be polite and explain to you why he did what he did. Take care!
2006-12-06 18:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋