My boyfriend has been going through a difficult time as he is looking for a new job. He is not happy with his current one. He is looking for a job in my area. We are in a long-distance relationship. I am going to meet him this Friday as he invited me to go to to his country for a weekend. His friend has a farewell party and he wanted me to be there for it. The thing is since he has been focusing on his job search, I feel like he has been neglecting me. He asked me to be patient, strong and to let him concentrate and we can relax this weekend together. The thing is I became needy of him in the past two days and he got very very angry with me last night telling me that I have no respect for him and he said I don't support him at all and he told me if I don't stop annoying him, he will not talk to me anymore. I am so sad. I feel like he does not care about me anymore? What should I do please?
2006-12-06 17:54:10 · 10 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am from Italy.
2006-12-06 18:53:09 · update #1
you need to get something else to focus on for a while. finding a job is not easy, it could be very tiring, physically, mentally and emotionally. you of all people, should give your support to your bf in this period of his life. the world does not revolve around you. i'm sure he still loves you. just give him breathing space and stop being needy. don't push him to the wall.
2006-12-06 18:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Bubuchachum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space!! It sounds like he tried to communicate with you that yes, he wants to be with you but he needs time to look for a job. You said yourself he asked you to be patient, strong and to let him concentrate so you could relax this w/e. So do that give him some time and don't stress over whether he cares about you. If he didn't care about you he wouldn't even try to explain his behavior nor would he invite you to his friends going away party. Open your eyes!! You have a man looking for a new job in your area, why would he move closer if he didn't want to be w/ you??? and you have a man trying to communicate with you and you are ignoring what he has asked of you and being needy, what b/c you miss him?? You will see him this w/e! Calm down!! It sounds like you have some insecurities. And that they are your insecurities, not his. Let him be for a couple days and see him this w/e. Tell him you are sorry for not being supportive that you were being selfish and missing him. Tell him you really care about him and it is hard not being able to talk with him, but that you understand he is trying to better himself and you will work harder and being respectful and supportive!!! Just remember, no one goes through all this trouble for someone they don't care about so quit thinking he doesn't love you and be supportive of his wishes. Be thankful that he tries to communicate with you. And have fun this w/e!! Enjoy the moments you can share with him. Help him look for a job so he can be closer sooner!!! Good Luck!!
2006-12-07 02:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by tiger4mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships NEVER work. You cannot know him because you are not spending time with him. He can tell you anything and you'll probably believe him. He'll say anything he thinks you want to hear. How would you know if he was lying? You wouldn't because you don't really know him. It sounds also like you are a codependent person who NEEDS to have someone to "cling" too to get that emotional fix you need. You should stop trying to make a relationship happen, and just find someone naturally in the everyday course of your life. As you can see, there is already a lot of conflict in this relationship. So let him go!
2006-12-07 02:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWWW I know how you feel. It is probably frustrating to him right now and he knows that a demand for him towards you is hard. It will be alright. Be there for him. It will be alright. I am in the same box
My hubby is working so hard right now. 16 hours shift. we have 3 kids and want them tho have a great christmas. I have spent a total of 5 hours with him in the past 3 weeks. when we see each other it is for only 10 minutes a day. so I am so lonely right now. but I know it will be for the good in the end. I know he loves me. So just hold tight.. have a blast this weekend and support him right now while he goes through his journey!! Good Lucky
2006-12-07 02:01:30 · answer #4 · answered by want-my-advice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's under a lot of stress. Give him a break and leave him alone for awhile. You may in fact enjoy your solitude as well.
2006-12-07 02:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him n Go 4 another one
2006-12-07 01:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by NoD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships rarely work but its promising that he is looking to change it by moving closer to you. Your expecting so much more from him than he can or will give.
2006-12-07 02:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but if he is unhappy you should help him find a job. Instead of thinking of yourself. sorry to be harsh, but hes gonna earn a dollar so that he can see you right?
2006-12-07 02:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What he said sounds unkind. I don't know if I could forgive that. He owes you an apology but who knows he could do it again and again.
2006-12-07 01:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
where r u from?
2006-12-07 02:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by ceeseecee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋